TITLE: The Spirit Filled Marriage

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TITLE The Spirit Filled Marriage

• TEXT Ephesians 521-23
• THEME Both women and men have a spiritual role
  to play in marriage women, to submit men, to
  love.

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Things that cause us to cringe.

• Scratching fingernails across a blackboard

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Things that cause us to cringe.

• Scratching fingernails across a blackboard.
• Loud feedback from a microphone.

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Things that cause us to cringe.

• Scratching fingernails across a blackboard.
• Loud feedback from a microphone.
• A person singing off key.

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Note to Pastor

• "I am offended that you chose to read a text that
  has been used for centuries to perpetuate the
  oppression of women and deny them their rightful
  place in society."

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John Maxwell "The Ideal Wife."What Every Man
Expects,"

• "Always beautiful and cheerful....
• Could have married a movie star but wanted only
  you....
• Beauty that won't run in a rainstorm....
• Never sick....
• Only allergic to jewellery and fur coats....
  Insists that moving furniture by herself is good
  for her figure....

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John Maxwell "The Ideal Wife."What Every Man
Expects,"

• Expert in cooking, cleaning the house, fixing
  appliances, and keeping quiet.
• Her favorite hobbies are mowing the lawn and
  shovelling snow.
• Her favorite expression is 'What can I do for you
  now, Honey?'
• She wants you to go out with your buddies so she
  can stay home and get caught up on the laundry."

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John Maxwell "The Ideal Wife."What Every Man
Gets,"

• "She speaks 140 words a minute, with occasional
  gusts of 180.
• Where there's smoke ... she's cooking!
• She lets you know that you have only two faults
  what you say and what you do."

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Beneath these stones there does lie, Back to
back, my husband and I. When the last trumpet the
air shall fill, If he gets up, I think I'll just
lie still.
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Principle of Interpretation

• It is the goal of the pastor in preaching Gods
  Word to discern the one intended meaning of the
  author and convey that meaning to the audience.
  I am not at liberty to manipulate the text the
  something that is more culturally appealing. If
  the Word of God is found offensive then take it
  up with God- I am only the messenger.

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Ephesians 518

• we are to be "filled with the Spirit."

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Ephesians 518

• we are to be "filled with the Spirit."
• To be filled is to surrender to God and allow the
  Holy Spirit to control your thoughts, words, and
  actions.

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Ephesians 518

• we are to be "filled with the Spirit."
• To be filled is to surrender to God and allow the
  Holy Spirit to control your thoughts, words, and
  actions.
• Wives can't submit apart from the Spirit

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Ephesians 518

• we are to be "filled with the Spirit."
• To be filled is to surrender to God and allow the
  Holy Spirit to control your thoughts, words, and
  actions.
• Wives can't submit apart from the Spirit.
• Husbands will never love, as they should, without
  him.

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Ephesians 521

• we are to submit to one another

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• Women could not hold office and in most cases
  could not own property

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• Women could not hold office and in most cases
  could not own property.
• A woman could not testify in court

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• Women could not hold office and in most cases
  could not own property.
• A woman could not testify in court.
• A woman could not divorce her husband

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• Women could not hold office and in most cases
  could not own property.
• A woman could not testify in court.
• A woman could not divorce her husband
• A woman could have only one husband

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• The first-born son was given full rights of
  inheritance to his father's estate, even if the
  first-born son had a half-dozen older sisters

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Conditions that prevailed at New Testament
writing.

• The first-born son was given full rights of
  inheritance to his father's estate, even if the
  first-born son had a half-dozen older sisters.
• A woman was not even free to choose her own
  religion it was expected that she would adopt
  the religion of her husband.

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Peter in Acts

• Announced to all those listening that God was
  pouring out his spirit and, he said, "Your sons
  and your daughters will prophecy."

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What does it mean for wives to submit to their
husbands?
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I. You must understand the meaning of submission?
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Submit

• Comes from a Greek word (upostasis) that means
  "to stand under or get in order under."

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Submit

• Comes from a Greek word (upostasis) that means
  "to stand under or get in order under."
• It means "to yield to authority

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Submit

• Comes from a Greek word (upostasis) that means
  "to stand under or get in order under."
• It means "to yield to authority."
• When you drive within the speed limit, you submit
  to the law

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Submit

• Comes from a Greek word (upostasis) that means
  "to stand under or get in order under."
• It means "to yield to authority."
• When you drive within the speed limit, you submit
  to the law.
• The Greek middle-voice grammatical structure
  suggests this is willing and voluntary.

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Examples

• The Southern Baptist Conference adopted a
  resolution on the family that included the
  headship of husbands and the submission of wives

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Examples

• The Southern Baptist Conference adopted a
  resolution on the family that included the
  headship of husbands and the submission of wives
• When Princess Diana married Prince Charles, she
  had the word dropped from her traditional
  Anglican wedding vows.

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Why it is not popular

• They have a misconception of the concept

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Why it is not popular

• They have a misconception of the concept.
• Some men have used this to dominate their wives

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What biblical submission does mean

• A. It means God has an order in the family.

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What biblical submission does mean

• A. It means God has an order in the family.
• Students are under the authority of the teacher.
  So it is with parents and children, employees and
  employers, coaches and teams. The husband has one
  role, the wife another.

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What biblical submission does mean

• And here's what biblical submission does not
  mean Note that she is to submit to her own
  husband. Women are not inferior to men. She
  doesn't submit to every man, just to her husband.

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What biblical submission does mean

• A. It means God has an order in the family.
• Note also that wives are to be submissive "as to
  the Lord." This means that as Spirit-filled
  women, this is their duty, their obedience, and
  their obligation to God.

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Philippians 2

• Christ did not consider it robbery to consider
  himself equal with God. Yet he submitted and
  humbled himself to the father none-the-less

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Philippians 2

• Christ did not consider it robbery to consider
  himself equal with God. Yet he submitted and
  humbled himself to the father none-the-less.
• We see the struggle he faced in the Garden of
  Gethsemane when the reality of passion was
  approaching.

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Submission does not lesson the dignity of a
person any more than Christ submitting to the
will of the Father lessoned him.
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What does it mean for wives to submit to their
husbands?
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II. You must understand the method for
submission.
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Ephesians 523

• "For the husband is head of the wife

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Ephesians 523

• "For the husband is head of the wife."
• Head means "in authority over

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Ephesians 523

• "For the husband is head of the wife."
• Head means "in authority over."
• To water down the implications of this passage
  some had attempted to define head (kephale) as
  source.

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II. You must understand the method for
submission.

• A. The order of authority is rooted in creation.

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In 1 Corinthians113

• "But I want you to know that the head of every
  man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the
  head of Christ is God." Man was made first
  (Hebrew ish), and woman was made from man
  (isha"out of man").

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Genesis 223

• Adam said, "She shall be called Woman, because
  she was taken out of Man."

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II. You must understand the method for
submission.

• A. The order of authority is rooted in creation.
• B. The order of authority is also rooted in
  redemption.

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B. The order of authority is also rooted in
redemption.

• Paul compares marriage with Christ as "head of
  the church."

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B. The order of authority is also rooted in
redemption.

• Paul compares marriage with Christ as "head of
  the church."
• None of us would argue that Jesus is not both
  "head" and "the Savior" of "the church, which is
  his body

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B. The order of authority is also rooted in
redemption.

• Paul compares marriage with Christ as "head of
  the church."
• None of us would argue that Jesus is not both
  "head" and "the Savior" of "the church, which is
  his body."
• Therefore, if we accept the Bible as infallible,
  we can argue that the husband in a position of
  responsibility over his wife.

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The curse given to Eve that damaged Gods ideal
for a marriage relationship
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The curse given to Eve that damaged Gods ideal
for a marriage relationship

• The phase and he shall rule over you speaks of
  a loveless, insensitive control that doe not
  honor or respect he wife

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The curse given to Eve that damaged Gods ideal
for a marriage relationship

• The phase and he shall rule over you speaks of
  a loveless, insensitive control that doe not
  honor or respect he wife.
• The curse creates the setting for tension between
  the two sexes and its ramifications are felt even
  today. The broad context of this passage seeks
  to restore Gods ideal.

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What does it mean for wives to submit to their
husbands?
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III. You must understand the model for
submission.
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III. You must understand the model for
submission.

• A. As grateful recipients of his love and care.

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John Stott

• "Whenever the husband's headship mirrors the
  headship of Christ, then the wife's submission to
  the protection and provision of his love, far
  from detracting from her womanhood, will
  positively enrich it."

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III. You must understand the model for
submission.

• A. As grateful recipients of his love and care.
• B. "in everything." in the sense that this is
  consistent with biblical truth.

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We must apply the principle of submission.

• The greatest enemy in submission is self.

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We must apply the principle of submission.

• The greatest enemy in submission is self.
• The greatest aid in submission is the Holy Spirit.

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We must apply the principle of submission.

• The greatest enemy in submission is self.
• The greatest aid in submission is the Holy
  Spirit.
• The greatest test in submission is following
  through.

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We must apply the principle of submission.

• The greatest enemy in submission is self.
• The greatest aid in submission is the Holy
  Spirit.
• The greatest test in submission is following
  through.
• The greatest fear in submission is pain.

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Creative Counterpart, Linda Dillow

• (1) She fears what he may ask her to do

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Creative Counterpart, Linda Dillow

• (1) She fears what he may ask her to do.
• (2) She is afraid he will fail.

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Creative Counterpart, Linda Dillow

• (1) She fears what he may ask her to do.
• (2) She is afraid he will fail.
• (3) She is afraid of his irresponsibility.

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Creative Counterpart, Linda Dillow

• (1) She fears what he may ask her to do.
• (2) She is afraid he will fail.
• (3) She is afraid of his irresponsibility.
• (4) She is afraid of God's will.

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We must apply the principle of submission.

• The greatest enemy in submission is self.
• The greatest aid in submission is the Holy
  Spirit.
• The greatest test in submission is following
  through.
• The greatest fear in submission is pain.
• The greatest joy in submission is surrender to
  God.

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APPLICATION

• 1. The modern world system has little to teach
  on how to have a healthy marriage. The societal
  obsession with individual rights and equality has
  diminished the concept of sacrifice and
  community. There are a lot of people who have
  demanded and gotten their rights as they perceive
  them and find themselves lonely because they
  refuse to cater to anyone.

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APPLICATION

• 2. God established marriage as between a man and
  woman since the day of creation. This passage
  affirms that relationship and provides principles
  for strengthening that relationship

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APPLICATION

• 3. Equality does not equal identity. Male and
  female have equal access into the presence of God
  but we remain male and female- husband and wife.
  In that context God address how we are to relate
  to each other- equal but not the same.

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Alan Redpath

• "There is nothingno circumstance, no trouble, no
  testingthat can ever touch me until, first of
  all, it has gone past God and past Christ right
  through to me. If it has come that far, it has
  come with a great purpose, which I may not
  understand at the moment.

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Alan Redpath

• But as I refuse to become panicky, as I lift up
  my eyes to him and accept it as coming from the
  throne of God for some great purpose of blessing
  to my own heart, no sorrow will ever disturb me,
  no trial will ever disarm me, no circumstance
  will cause me to fret, for I will rest in the joy
  of what my Lord is. That is the rest of victory."

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