Please seat yourselves in groups of 5-6.

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Please seat yourselves in groups of 5-6.
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An Overview of Bullying
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Think of the most tolerant person in your
building. What behavior would s/he have to be
aware of before intervening?
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Think of the least tolerant person in your
building. What behavior would s/he have to be
aware of before intervening?
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Write the behaviors on the Post-It Notes.Most
Tolerant - Least Tolerant
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Violence Continuum
Shooting someone with a gun  

Stabbing someone Flashing a weapon
 

Hitting/kicking Shoving/punching   Spitting/pu
shing Intimidation/extortion   Stalking Sexua
l Harassment   Damaging property Stealing  
Taunting/ridiculing Name calling  
Threatening Writing graffiti  
Staring/leering Gesturing   Starting
rumors/ gossiping Eye rolling            
   
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Think About1. As a student in your building,
what bullying behavior could you get away with at
least half the time?2. Why is this true?3.
What is the most frequent bullying behavior
involving kids on kids that you observe in your
building?
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Definition of Violence

• Violence is any
• word, look, sign, or act
• that hurts a persons
• body, feelings, or things.

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Definition of HarassmentHarassment in itself
means to trouble, worry or torment, with repeated
questions or attacks. The victim feels hassled
and becomes very frustrated, as the harassment
may be a continuous event. EPS
Board Policy 4420R
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Definition of IntimidationIntimidation
involves making someone else afraid,
intentionally making her/him timid, or forcing
her/him in some manner by using threats of
violence.
EPS Board Policy 4420R
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Definition of BullyingBullying is aggressive
behavior or intentional harming of another
person. Bullying occurs within an interpersonal
relationship characterized by an imbalance of
power that involves exploitation of a less
powerful person by one seeking an unfair
advantage. It is repeated over time.
EPS Board Policy 4420R
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• Bullying happens when someone with more power
  unfairly hurts
• someone with less power
• over and over again.
• Power may be physical strength,
• social skill, verbal ability, or another
  resource.

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Physical BullyingHarm to another students
person or property (threatening harm or gestures,
tripping, hitting, starting fights, extortion,
assaulting with a weapon, homicide.)
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Emotional BullyingHarm to anothers self
worth using remarks, insulting gestures,
harassing/frightening phone calls, challenging in
public.
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Social BullyingHarm to anothers group
acceptance by gossiping, playing tricks,
spreading rumors, racial insults, exclusion
tactics, arranging public humiliation,
undermining other relationships, ruining a
reputation.
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Sexual BullyingReference is made to Board
Policy 4810, as that policy was developed
specifically to address this type of bullying.
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Think of instances in your building that an
adults behavior would fit the definition of
bullying.Discuss this at your tables.
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Board Policy 4420RAny employee engaging in
the bullying of a student is subject to
discipline, which could include but would not be
limited to verbal or written disciplinary action,
administrative transfer, suspension, demotion,
forfeiture of pay or termination in accordance
with applicable law.
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There are 2 Fuels for Violence
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Entitlement

• The belief that people have the right to use
  violence or threats of violence to express
  feelings, meet needs or satisfy desires.

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Tolerance

• What we put up with or allow
• or accept as the norm.

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• Occurs when violence is accepted as the norm
  through ignoring, rationalizing, and minimizing
  incidents of violence.

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• Entitlement and tolerance
• are not the behaviors but rather what drives
  behavior.

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• What causes students to tolerate
• or enable these behaviors?
• It works
• May be all they know
• Drama is inviting
• Expected
• Think it is okay

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What groups enable violence to continue?
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Personnel Parents Denial Guilt Nonreporting
Blame Favoritism Sanction
parties Ignoring or Teach violence minimizing
Inconsistency Stop! Quit!
Don't!   Students Community Denial Deny the
problem DN tell or report Guilt Glorify
Nonrecognition Power or attention Leave it
to law enforcement        
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Characteristics of Bullies

• Proactive Bully Reactive Bully
• deliberate emotional
• detached poor impulse
  control
• unemotional distorted thinking

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General Characteristics of Bullies

• Average academically
• Not anxious or insecure
• Do not have low self esteem
• Usually have small network of friends
• Successfully hide their behaviors
• Excited by reactions of their victims (such as
  fighting back)

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Further General Characteristics of Bullies

• Are excited by their bullying behavior
• Thrive on feelings of dominance and power
• Have low empathy and low compassion
• Enjoy causing pain
• Blame the victims
• Interpret ambiguous acts as hostile

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Characteristics of Provocative Victims

• Pester and irritate others repeatedly
• Quick-tempered and will fight back
• Get others charged up
• Can look like a bully but always a victim in the
  end
• May be clumsy, immature, restless
• Provoke attacks

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Further Characteristics of Provocative Victims

• Isolated
• Friendless
• Overly dependent on adults
• Distressed
• May be learning disabled - especially NVLD
• Often diagnosed with ADD or ADHD
• Bullied repeatedly

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Characteristics of Passive Victims

• Have a lot of affect
• Rarely tell they are being bullied
• May carry weapons as self-protection
• Dont invite attack
• Sensitive and cry easily
• Pushovers
• Lack social skills
• Often chosen last

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District And Staff Responsibilities
EPS Board Policy 4420R Provide classroom
instruction in character education that addresses
issues related to bullying. Communicate to
students the following expectations
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A. We shall not bully other students.B. We
shall try to help students who are bullied. C.
We shall make a point to include students who
become easily left out.
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What Do You Know About Bullying?
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1. All bullying involves physical aggression.2.
Only boys bully.3. Once a bully always a
bully.4. Those who bully have low self
esteem.5. Children who bully are generally from
families in lower socioeconomic levels
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• 6. As a rule, children who bully do poorly in
  school.
• 7. Those who bully appear agitated and
  aggressive.
• 8. Most bullying happens on the way to school or
  on the way home from school

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• 9. Putting a stop to bullying at school means
  only that the location in which this behavior
  occurs will move from the school to other places
  in the community.
• 10. Fighting back will deter bullying behavior.

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ConclusionPeace is active, not
passive.Peace is doing, not waiting.Peace, like
war, must be waged. Jimmy Carter
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Resources Oklahoma State Department of
Health, June, 2002 Sharon Heatly, Norman
Public Schools EPS BOE Board Policy 4420
and Regulations Dan Olweus, Bullying 101