Title: Reaching Average Joes: Creating a big tent of male partners in sexual violence prevention
1Reaching Average Joes Creating a big tent of
male partners in sexual violence prevention
- WCSAP Training, May 2007
- Ross Wantland
- wantland_at_uiuc.edu
- (217) 649-1636
2- Just as our culture and society puts the thought
of rape into the heads of boys and men, changes
in the culture and society can make rape
unthinkable. We need to have that hope. - Andy Peck
- An article of faith from the beginning was that
mens violence was learned. Abusive behavior
didnt come with the plumbing. Thats what made
it possible to even think about doing the work.
If it was learned, it could be unlearned. - - Men Overcoming Violence co-founder
3Objectives
- Define "male ally" and articulate the value of
male allies in sexual violence prevention. - Identify strategies for engaging male allies in
sexual violence prevention efforts. - Develop a greater understanding of selected
existing male-focused sexual violence prevention
initiatives.
4Qualities of Men We ?
- Strong sense of justice
- Caring
- Sensitive
- Protective
- Nurturing
5Defining Men
- Sex is the biological definition (genitalia,
chromosomes, etc.) - Gender is the way we define the act of being
men or women, including - Learned and promoted behaviors
- Power relations between men women
- Exaggerated or minimized physical or emotional
attributes
6Acting Like a Man (Kivel, 1992)
- Men
- Yell at people
- Get good grades
- Dont cry
- Know about sex
- Dont back down
- Can take it
- Stand up for themselves
- Dont make mistakes
- Take care of people
- Push people around
- Have no emotions
- Men are
- Aggressive
- Responsible
- Mean
- Bullies
- Tough
- Angry
- Successful
- Strong
- In control
- Active
- Dominant over women other men
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7Tough Guise (Katz Jhally, 1999)
- Masculinity is a learned performance.
- This performance, in part, creates mens
violence. - Popular media culture reinforces dominant
stories of masculinity. - Marginalized groups have few, narrow
representations. - Images of vulnerable, caring, and equitable men
needed to counter dominant stories.
8How should we relate to masculinity?
- Refuse it?
- Allows self-definition outside of gender binary
- May not be possible
- Alienates us from other men
- Redefine it?
- May help us work with men, ourselves
- May actively improve our lives, conditions
- May not allow us to challenge effectively
9Where do you work with men boys?
- Jr. high high school boys
- College men
- Community men
- Survivors
- Perpetrators
- Criminal justice medical professionals
- Other professionals
10When do we work with men?
- Advocacy
- Educational presentations
- Community planning
- Board members
- Community leaders
11Why is it important?
- Working with men/boys is a critical piece of
primary prevention. - Men are gatekeepers to structural power.
- We all stand to gain from working with men
boys. - Its about hope.
12Whats in it for men? (Connell, 2003)
- Better social relationships with all women
- Improved relationships with men
- Enriched by womens participation
- Improved fatherhood
- Better personal well-being
- Principle
- Collective interests
- Communities
- State/military violence
13How can we approach men in SV prevention
education?
- Men must be actively involved in their own
education. - Masculinity and gender socialization must be
addressed. - Space must be created for men to challenge sexism
sexual violence, while also allowing them to
heal. - We must believe they would want to be allies.
14Qualities of a Male Ally
- Takes responsibility for learning about own and
target group experience, and how oppression works
in everyday life - Listens to and respects the perspectives and
experiences of women - Acknowledges unearned privileges
- Recognizes that unlearning oppressive beliefs and
actions is a lifelong process
15Qualities of a Male Ally (cont.)
- Acts against social injustice out of a belief
that it is in his own self-interest - Is willing to be confronted about own behavior
and attitudes - Is committed to taking action against social
injustice in own sphere of influence - Understands the connections among all forms of
social injustice - Knows how to cultivate support from men
16What do male allies do?
- What are some of the actions that male allies may
undertake? - What are some actions that are not the role of
male allies?
17Oppression Organizing Men
- Most organizing with men is white, straight,
middle-class men. - May use terminology that excludes other men.
- Can re-create racist, sexist, homophobic
structures (Hong, 2000) - Must struggle to build genuine relationships
among all men, especially across sexual
orientation, class race lines. - Involves broad definition and exploration of
ally
18Women Cant Teach Men(Hong, 2004)
- Women have a number of strengths in working with
men - Can model emotional connection empathy
- Can teach men to be allies
- Skilled at being cooperative teachers, leaders
- To do this, we must
- Empower men to create solutions
- Overcome our emotional barriers to working with
men - Meet men where they are
19Community Engagement Continuum (Kim, 2005)
- Outreach Education
- Mobilization
- Organizing (General or Targeted)
- Accountability
20Reaching the Average Joe
- White Ribbon Campaign (Canada)
- Men of Strength Clubs (Men Can Stop Rape)
- Nicaraguan Men Against Violence (Welsh, 2001)
- Louisville Mens Organization (Funk)
- Fraternity Peer Rape Education Program, Urbana,
IL (Wantland, in press)
21Nicaraguan Association of Men Against Violence
Suggestions(Welsh, 2001)
- Gender equality should be the ultimate goal.
- Men must take responsibility for creating change
in themselves and other men. - Men must view input from women and womens
organizations as indispensable.
22Fraternity Peer Rape Education Program - UIUC
- Interested fraternity men trained to be peer
educators on dating violence to their chapters
(Mahlstedt, 1998) - Minority influence model trained members
influence their house from the inside-out - Facilitated workshops, but also challenged
attitudes relationships
23How can we engage average men?
- If you were to approach men in your community,
what might that look like? - Where else would we choose to engage men?
- What would you like to see happen in 1 year? 5
years?
24Reminders
- Social change is slow, complex, and painful.
- We must meet men where theyre at
- Our job is to care, challenge, and reinforce the
positive. - Working with men and boys requires us to
re-examine our work, focus on education true
prevention.
25Useful Resources
- Hong, L. (2000) Toward a transformed approach to
prevention Breaking the link between masculinity
and violence. Journal of American College Health,
48(6) 269-279. - Kim, M. (2005). The Community Engagement
Continuum Outreach, mobilization, organizing and
accountability to address violence against women
in Asian and Pacific Islander communities.
www.apiahf.org - Kivel, P. (1992). Mens Work How to stop the
violence that tears our lives apart. Center City,
MN Hazelden. - Mahlstedt, D. (1998). Getting Started Setting-up
a FVEP on your campus. West Chester, PA West
Chester University. - Peck, A. (2002). Hope, Sexual Violence
Prevention, and Reaching the Hearts and Minds of
Boys. www.menstoppingviolence.org - Wantland, R. (In press). Our Brotherhood and your
sister Building anti-rape community in the
fraternity. Journal of Prevention and
Intervention in the Community. - Welsh, Patrick. (2001). Men arent from Mars
Unlearning machismo in Nicaragua. London
Catholic Institute for International Relations