Overcoming The Fear Of Losing Control

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Losing Control?
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The Fear of Losing Control is epidemic in our
world.
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ANXIETY
To Choke
Oxfords Definition
Troubled in mind about the uncertainty of an
events desired outcome.
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Plates of
ANXIETY
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• Presidential Election

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• Presidential Election
• Safety

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• Presidential Election
• Safety
• Professional Career

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• Presidential Election
• Safety
• Professional Career
• Family

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• Presidential Election
• Safety
• Professional Career
• Family
• Housing

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• Presidential Election
• Safety
• Professional Career
• Family
• Housing
• Job Security

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• Presidential Election
• Safety
• Professional Career
• Family
• Housing
• Job Security
• Decisions

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Gas prices, global conflict, crime, family
violence
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How do we cope with this uncertainty?
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How do we cope with this uncertainty?
Its obvious nobody is in control.
Externally
I can fix it. I can control my world.
Internally
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Where did this illusion come from? And why do I
cling to it?
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Where did this illusion come from? And why do I
cling to it?
Psycologists suggest
3 S T E P S

• BIRTH Our Primary task is to gain control
• AS TIME MOVES ON
• We develop a belief that we are all powerful
• REALITY CONFRONT US Its all an illusion

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Psycologists suggest
3 S T E P S

• BIRTH Our Primary task is to gain control
• AS TIME MOVES ON
• We develop a belief that we are all powerful
• REALITY CONFRONT US Its all an illusion

We realize were far less powerful and far more
vulnerable, than we had ever imagined.
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Principle of Controlling Behavior
The soul of control is fueled by anxiety and
nutured by feelings of extreme vulnerability and
a fragile self confidence.
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Behavior Profiles

• MASTER CONTROLLER

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Behavior Profiles

• SUPER
• CONTROL
• FREAK

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Behavior Profiles

• CO-DEPENDENT CONTROLLER

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Behavior Profiles

• THE CONTROLLED

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CHOOSE ONE PROFILE THAT REFLECTS YOUR LIFE
SUPER CONTROL FREAK
MASTER CONTROLLER
CO-DEPENDENT CONTROLLER
THE CONTROLLED
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If you could control your choice, which would
you choose?
SUPER CONTROL FREAK
MASTER CONTROLLER
CO-DEPENDENT CONTROLLER
THE CONTROLLED
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No Matter What You Choose
YOU LOOSE
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ONE STEP AWAY
from losing it all from getting it
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Where Do We Turn for Help?
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QUOTE FROM OUR SENIOR PASTOR, MARK WOLD
The key to you overcoming fear in your life lies
in God.
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THE THEME VERSE for the Whole Series on Fear
Psalm 344 I sought the Lord and He answered
me. He delivered me from all my fears.
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THE THEME VERSE for the Whole Series on Fear
Psalm 344 I sought the Lord and He answered
me. He delivered me from all my fears.
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I SOUGHT THE LORD

• Not
• therapy
• special technique
• self-help books

but the Lord
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HOW WILL TURNING TO GOD HELP?
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LESSON 1
WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL
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LESSON 1
WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL
Gods lesson is found in the book of Job
Job 11-5, Page 496
Jobs Profile MASTER CONTROLLER
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ABOVE THE SURFACE
He had it all under control
JOB
BELOW THE SURFACE
He feared losing control
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ABOVE THE SURFACE
God caused him to face his fear in order to
overcome his fear.
He had it all under control
JOB
BELOW THE SURFACE
He feared losing control
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BELOW THE SURFACE
JOB 325 What I feared has come upon me what I
dreaded has happened to me. I have no peace, no
quietness, no rest, but only turmoil.
JOB 31 Job opened his mouth and cursed the day
of his birth.
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ABOVE THE SURFACE
JOB 421-3 Then Job replied to the Lord I
know that you can do all things no plan of yours
can be thwarted. You asked, Who is this that
obscures my counsel without knowledge? Surely I
spoke of things I did not understand, things too
wonderful for me to know
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ABOVE THE SURFACE
JOB 424-5 You said, Listen now, and I will
speak I will question you, and you shall answer
me. My ears had heard of You but now my eyes
have seen you.
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HOW WILL TURNING TO GOD HELP?
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Lesson 2
GAINING PERSPECTIVE OF GOD
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For every fear, theres an corresponding
attribute of God thats lacking.
Fear originates from a failure to understand or
to place your trust in some aspect of Gods
character.
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Lesson 2
GODS IN CONTROL
What is it about God thats missing when Im
experiencing fear of losing control?
GODS SOVEREIGNTY
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Lesson 2

SOVEREIGNTY
What does it mean?
GOD BEING GOD.
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Lesson 2
SOVEREIGNTY

• God is sovereign over
• nations
• people
• circumstances
• nature
• spiritual powers

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Lesson 2
QUESTIONS WE HAVE ABOUT GODS SOVEREIGNTY

• Is God sovereign, but uninvolved?
• Does He care about the details of my life?

The answer is
YES, YES
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Lesson 2
GODS ANSWER ABOUT HIS SOVEREIGNTY

• God is passionately into the details of the
  world.
• God is passionately into the details of our life.

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Lesson 2
HOW DO WE RESPOND TO THIS BIG PICTURE OF GOD?
PSALM 1153 Our God is in heaven He does
whatever He pleases.
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Lesson 3
WE SURRENDER CONTROL TO HIM
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
STEP 1
Be Honest
ADMIT to God you are incapable of controlling
life.
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
STEP 1
Be Honest
STEP 2
Release Anxiety
GIVE God control of everything in your life.
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
STEP 1
Be Honest
STEP 2
Release Anxiety
STEP 3
Cleanse Your Mind
FOCUS on the good in everything.
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
STEP 1
Be Honest
STEP 2
Release Anxiety
STEP 3
Cleanse Your Mind
STEP 4
Be Content
LIVE in the present.
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5 Basic Steps to Giving God Sovereign Claim of
Our Life
STEP 1
Be Honest
STEP 2
Release Anxiety
STEP 3
Cleanse Your Mind
STEP 4
Be Content
STEP 5
Be Thankful
CELEBRATE Gods Sovereignty
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What about Broken relationships that have
occurred because of my controlling behavior?
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What About Broken Relationships That Have
Occurred Because Of My Controlling Behavior?

• 3 POINT PLAN
• Ask for GRACE

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What About Broken Relationships That Have
Occurred Because of My Controlling Behavior?

• 3 POINT PLAN
• Ask for GRACE
• Give GRACE

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What About Broken Relationships That Have
Occurred Because of My Controlling Behavior?

• 3 POINT PLAN
• Ask for GRACE
• Give GRACE
• Receive GRACE

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What about when TROUBLE COMES?
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What About When PEOPLE ATTACK ME?
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