Authentic Relationships

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Authentic Relationships
Chapter 6
Adapted from

• discover the lost art of One Anothering

By Wayne Jacobsen and Clay Jacobsen
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Part 2 - Opening the DoorChapter 6 - Sharing
Gods Kindness

• NIV Ephesians 432 Be kind and compassionate to
  one another

NIV Hebrews 1316b share with others Kind words
can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes
are truly endless Mother Teresa
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Kindness in a Selfish Age

• NKJ Matthew 2412 "And because lawlessness will
  abound, the love of many will grow cold.

• In a culture where most people are looking out
  for number one, random acts of kindness stand out
  as brightly as a lighthouse on a moonless night
• What is in it for you? they ask with the look
  of mistrust in their eyes when you offer to help
  for no reason
• Kind actions, though often quick and easy to
  accomplish, can echo as eternally as kind words
• When you walk through your day focused on others,
  you will be amazed at the opportunities you might
  otherwise miss

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Kindness in a Selfish Age (cont.)

• Give directions to somebody who looks lost

• Help a neighbor working in the yard
• Offer to watch a friends child while they are in
  the hospital
• Stay and help clean up after a home group meeting
• Let someone step in front of you in line
• Deliver a cold drink to a Dominion Power lineman
• Thank a military person for defending our country

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Breaking the Cycle

• Showing kindness, even when offended, breaks the
  grudge cycle!

• NKJ Ephesians 431 Let all bitterness, wrath,
  anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from
  you, with all malice
• NKJ 1 Thessalonians 515 See that no one renders
  evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what
  is good both for yourselves and for all.
• NKJ Matthew 523 "Therefore if you bring your
  gift to the altar, and there remember that your
  brother has something against you, 24 "leave your
  gift there before the altar, and go your way.
  First be reconciled to your brother, and then
  come and offer your gift.

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Breaking the Cycle (cont.)

• NKJ Romans 1217 Repay no one evil for evil. Have
  regard for good things in the sight of all men.

18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you,
live peaceably with all men. 19 Beloved, do not
avenge yourselves, but rather give place to
wrath for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I
will repay," says the Lord. 20 Therefore "If your
enemy is hungry, feed him If he is thirsty, give
him a drink For in so doing you will heap coals
of fire on his head. 21 Do not be overcome by
evil, but overcome evil with good.
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Breaking the Cycle (cont.)

• NKJ Matthew 544 "But I say to you, love your
  enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to
  those who hate you, and pray for those who
  spitefully use you and persecute you,

45 "that you may be sons of your Father in
heaven for He makes His sun rise on the evil and
on the good, and sends rain on the just and on
the unjust. 46 "For if you love those who love
you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax
collectors do the same? 47 "And if you greet
your brethren only, what do you do more than
others? Do not even the tax collectors do so?
48 "Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your
Father in heaven is perfect.
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Living in Generosity

• We must view our possessions in a new light

• Nothing we own is really ours
• Everything belongs to God
• Trusting God to supply our needs frees us to
  share with others we encounter along the way
• Institutional ways of helping those in need
  always break down
• Personally helping those God has placed in our
  path does not
• As we discover how generous God is with us, we
  will find the joy of being generous to others

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Living in Generosity (cont.)

• NKJ 1 John 317 But whoever has this world's
  goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up
  his heart from him, how does the love of God
  abide in him?

• NKJ James 215 If a brother or sister is naked
  and destitute of daily food,Nothing we own is
  really ours 16 and one of you says to them,
  "Depart in peace, be warmed and filled," but you
  do not give them the things which are needed for
  the body, what does it profit?
• NKJ Proverbs 327 Do not withhold good from those
  to whom it is due, When it is in the power of
  your hand to do so.

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You did it for Me

• NKJ Matthew 2535 'for I was hungry and you gave
  Me food I was thirsty and you gave Me drink I
  was a stranger and you took Me in

36 'I was naked and you clothed Me I was sick
and you visited Me I was in prison and you came
to Me.' 37 "Then the righteous will answer Him,
saying, 'Lord, when did we see You hungry and
feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? 38
'When did we see You a stranger and take You in,
or naked and clothe You? 39 'Or when did we see
You sick, or in prison, and come to You?' 40
"And the King will answer and say to them,
'Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it
to one of the least of these My brethren, you did
it to Me.'
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You did it for Me

• According to Jesus our acts of kindness and
  sharing reveal the depth of our relationship with
  Him

• Those growing to know Jesus will find themselves
  giving to others the same way he gives to them
• Our life in Jesus is demonstrated by our
  compassion for people in need
• Jesus compassion is contagious
• Once we have experienced it from His hand, there
  is no way we can hold it to ourselves

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One Anothering
Loving one another (John 1334) Forgiving one
another (Ephesians 432) Accepting one another
(Romans 157) Bearing with one another (Ephesians
42) Being devoted to one another (Romans
1210) Honoring one another above ourselves
(Romans 1210) Greeting one another (2
Corinthians 1312) Being hospitable to one
another (1Peter 49) Being kind and compassionate
to one another (Eph. 432) Sharing with one
another (Hebrews 1316)
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Homework

• Read Part 2, Chapters 7 8
• Lightening the Load
• Cheerleading
• Pray the Word Daily

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Pray the Word (1Thessalonians 312,13)

• Lord make us increase and abound in love to one
  another and to all so that You may establish our
  hearts blameless in holiness before our God and
  Father.

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Discussion Questions

• Turn to page 76

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For Additional Resources

• Wayne Jacobsen
• Lifestream http//www.lifestream.org