Is your relationship based on power and control?

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Is your relationship based on power and control?
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• Power Control Wheel

represents relationships where there is
domestic abuse.
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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Using Intimidation
Coercion Threats
Using Unearned Privilege
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Using Economic Abuse
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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The following is a definition of each slice
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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Power Control
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Coercion Threats a form of domestic abuse

• Coercion Threats
• making and/or carrying out threats to do
  something to hurt you
• threatening to commit suicide or report you to
  welfare
• making you drop charges
• making you do illegal things

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Power Control
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Intimidation a form of domestic abuse

• Using Intimidation
• making you afraid by using looks, actions, and
  gestures
• smashing things
• destroying your property
• abusing pets
• displaying weapons

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Emotional Abuse a form of domestic violence

• Using Emotional Abuse
• putting you down
• making you feel bad about yourself
• calling you names
• making you think your crazy
• playing mind games
• humiliating you
• making you feel guilty

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Isolation a form of domestic abuse

• Using Isolation
• controlling what you do, who you see and talk to,
  what you read and where you go
• limiting your outside involvements
• using jealousy to justify actions

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Minimizing, Denying, Blaming a form of
domestic violence

• Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
• making light of the abuse and not taking your
  concerns about it seriously
• saying the abuse didnt happen
• shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
• saying you caused it

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Using Children a form of domestic abuse

• Using Children
• making you feel guilty about the children by
  telling you that you are a bad parent or by
  telling you the children need a two-parent home
• threatening to hurt the children
• using the children to relay messages
• using visitation to harass you
• threatening to take the children away

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Unearned Privilege
Using Isolation
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Unearned Privilege a form of domestic abuse

• Using Unearned Privilege
• treating you like a servant
• making all the big decisions
• acting like the master of the castle
• being the one to define mens and womens roles

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Coercion Threats
Using Intimidation
Using Economic Abuse
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Using Unearned Privilege
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Economic Abuse a form of domestic abuse

• Using Economic Abuse
• preventing you from getting or keeping a job
• making you ask for money
• giving you an allowance
• taking your money
• not letting you know about or have access to
  family income

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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Using Intimidation
Coercion Threats
Using Unearned Privilege
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Isolation
Using Economic Abuse
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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VIOLENCE
Physical
Sexual
Using Intimidation
Coercion Threats
Using Unearned Privilege
Using Emotional Abuse
Power Control
Using Economic Abuse
Using Isolation
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Using Children
Sexual
Physical
VIOLENCE
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Do any of these slices sound like your
relationship?

• Do you have questions about domestic abuse, for
  yourself or someone you know?

Contact us at
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• [phone] 24 hour Help Line
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