Managing Stress and Coping with Loss

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Managing Stress and Coping with Loss

• Chapter 4 Sec 3
• Coping with Loss
• Pp. 89-92

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Objectives

• Describe the effects of loss.
• Name the stages of the grieving process.
• Describe how funerals, wakes, and memorial
  services help people cope with the loss of a
  loved one.
• Propose ways a person can cope with the loss of a
  loved one.

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List all things that came to mind as you listened
to the song

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Do NowBell ringer Activity

• List as many different types of loss as you can
  think of
• Give examples of the effects of loss

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Critical Thinking

• What is your interpretation of the statement
  listed below?
• Healthy children will not fear life, if their
  parents have integrity enough not to fear death.
  
• -Erik Erikson
• Why are we so afraid of death, and what causes us
  to die?

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Attitudes Toward Death and Dying Cultural and
Age Variations

• Cultures around the world interpret and respond
  to death in widely different ways.
• Permanence
• Once a living thing dies, it cannot be brought
  back to life
• Universality
• All living things eventually die
• Nonfunctionality
• All living functions, including thought,
  movement, and vital signs end at death.

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Grief Lessons in Survival

• What do I do now that youre gone? Well, when
  theres nothing else going on, which is quite
  often, I sit in a corner and I cry until I am too
  numbed to feel. Paralyzed motionless for awhile,
  nothing moving inside or out. Then I think how
  much I miss you. Then I feel fear, pain,
  loneliness, desolation. Then I cry until I am too
  numbed to feel. Interesting pastime.
• -Peter McWilliams, How to Survive the Loss of a
  Love

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The Grieving Process

• Grieve is to express sadness of a loss.
• The Five Stages of the Grieving Process
• Denial This cant be happening to me!
• Refuse to believe a loss has occurred
• Anger Why me? Its not fair.
• Rage or blame self and/or others for the loss
• Bargaining I d do anything to have him back.
• Make promises to change if the person they lost
  is returned to them/to avoid what is the truth
• Depression There is no hope. Im so sad. I just
  want to be alone.
• Feeling sadness when you experience loss
• Acceptance Its going to be OK.
• Begin to learn how to live with a loss

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Types of Ceremonies

• Wake
• A ceremony to view or watch over the deceased
  person before the funeral.
• Funeral
• A ceremony in which a deceased person is buried
  or cremated.
• Memorial Service
• A ceremony to remember the deceased person.

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Help for Dealing with a Loss

• Get plenty of rest and relaxation, but try to
  stick to any routines you kept before the loss.
• Share memories and thoughts about the deceased.
• Express your feelings by crying or by writing in
  a journal
• If the loss was unintentional, do not blame
  yourself or others.

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Helping Others

• Show your support through simple actions, such as
  offering to run errands or cook a meal.
• Let the person know that you are there for him or
  her, and allow the person to talk about his or
  her thoughts and feelings.
• Tell the person that you have faith that he or
  she is strong and will learn to live with this
  loss.
• If the person seems depressed, avoids family and
  friends, or doesnt seem to be making any
  progress, tell a trusted adult.

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Closure

• List the five stages of grieving.
• What is the difference between a funeral and a
  memorial services?
• Explain how a wake, funeral, or memorial service
  can help with the grieving process.