THE MANTLE OF PARENTHOOD

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THE MANTLE OF PARENTHOOD

• Dr. Jobe Martin
• Biblical Discipleship Ministries
• www.biblicaldiscipleship.org
• www.evolutionofacreationist.com

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• A Brief Personal Testimony

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• In this talk I will be taking the position that
  the Bible is the Word of the one true God.
• I am assuming that you are establishing a
  Christian family.
• There may be a family from some other faith, or
  no faith here. If you were giving this talk you
  would surely teach from your worldview as I will
  be doing today.

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THE MANTLE OF PARENTHOOD
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MANTLE (Webster)

• 1. A kind of cloak to be worn over other
  garments.
• 2. Anything that cloaks, covers, envelops,
  conceals.
• 3. The outer covering of a wall.
• 4. The outer casing of a blast furnace.
• 5. A covering of clay put over a wax model so as
  to form a mold when the wax is melted out.
• 6. Etc.

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PARENTHOOD

• The condition of being a parent relation or
  authority of a parent.
• A condition
• A relationship
• An authority

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SOME THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND

• The God of the Bible is greater than our
  circumstances (1 John 44).
• God is sovereign (Nehemiah 9).
• God can cause all things to work together for
  good.
• Gods grace is always sufficient (1 Cor. 129,10).

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• Homeschooling is 24 hours a day.
• There is no such thing as a day off.
• Your spouse will never help you as much as you
  deserve and feel that you dearly need.
• There can be many tears.
• There are days that your feelings tell you this
  is not worth it!
• There are days when you are completely convinced
  that you are into a bottomless pit of absolute
  incompetence.
• Take heartGods mercies are new every morning!

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1 Corinthians 129,10

• And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for
  thee for my strength is made perfect in
  weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather
  glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ
  may rest upon me.

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SHAMGARA COMMON ORDINARY MAN!A Short Devotional
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• The God of the Bible wants to take common,
  ordinary people like you and me, with our common,
  ordinary things and do uncommon, extraordinary
  things in His power and for His glory!

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• Uncommon, Extraordinary,
• in Gods power
• GODLY PARENTING!

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JUDGES 331

• 31 And after him was Shamgar the son of Anath,
  which slew of the Philistines six hundred men
  with an ox goad and he also delivered Israel.

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BIBLE STUDY HAS SEVERAL DIFFERENT PARTS

• 1. Observation
• 2. Correlation
• 3. Interpretation
• 4. Application

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OBSERVATION

• ObservationWhat do we see.
• There was a man named Shamgar.
• Shamgar came after someone.
• His Fathers name was Anath.
• He killed 600 Philistines.
• He did it with an ox goad.
• He delivered his country.

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Correlation

• CorrelationWhat Scriptures relate.
• In the case of Shamgar there is one other
  Scripture that correlates and that is
• Judges 56
• 6 In the days of Shamgar the son of Anath,
• This is all we know about Shamgar, but we do
  learn some things about the days during which
  Shamgar lived in Judges 5.

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Correlation

• the highways were unoccupied, and the
  travellers walked through byways.
• 8 They chose new gods
• then was war in the gates
• was there a shield or spear seen among forty
  thousand in Israel? Judges
  56,8

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INTERPRETATION

• InterpretationWhat does it mean.
• A Jewish man named Shamgar killed 600 Philistine
  soldiers.
• He was probably a farmer since he knew how to use
  an ox goad.
• He used an ox goad as a weapon because it appears
  that the weapons had been confiscated.

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INTERPRETATION

• What is an ox goad?
• An ox goad is a stick or pole 6 to 8 feet
  long with a point on one end.
• How do you make an ox go?
• Our Creator, the Lord Jesus, made the ox with
  a sensitive spot where the hoof hooks onto the
  ankle. Touch that spot and the ox lifts its leg.
  When the leg comes down it is ahead of where it
  was, the other feet want to catch up and the ox
  is moving.

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INTERPRETATION

• Shamgars fathers name was Anath.
• Anath was the Philistine God of sex and war.
• Shamgars family had probably sold out to the
  pagan Philistine culture.
• At the very least Shamgars grand parents had
  named his father with the name of a Philistine
  demon god.
• And yet this common ordinary man with his common
  ordinary tool saved his country!

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BIBLE STUDY HAS SEVERAL DIFFERENT PARTS

• Observation what is seen
• 2. Correlation where else
• 3. Interpretation the meaning
• 4. Application who, me?

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APPLICATION

• God wants to take common ordinary people with our
  common ordinary things and do uncommon,
  extraordinary things in His unmistakeable power
  and for His own glory!
• Shamgar shows us the importance of over-coming
  family limitations.
• He shows us the value of perserverencehe is out
  there every day putting his life on the line for
  his God, his family and his country.

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APPLICATION

• Shamgar shows us what Almighty God can do through
  a single person who is ready and willing to let
  our Lord do His will in our life, even if it
  means putting our life in jeopardy for His
  benefit and glory.
• Shamgar displayed a singleness of purpose.
• Shamgar is an example of unselfish servanthood.

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APPLICATION

• Are we ready and willing to put our lives on the
  line for our God, our families, and our country?
• What is your oxgoad (weapon)your life, your
  zeal, your words, pen, mind, computer,
  connections, family, church.
• Are you ready and willing to make the prayer of
  your life, Lord, yet not my will, but Thy will
  be done?

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Acts 1336

• For David, after he had served his own generation
  by the will of God, fell on sleep, and was laid
  unto his Fathers, and saw corruption.
• (David accomplished all that God had for him to
  do in his generation.)

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John 1227, 28a

• Jesus said, Now is my soul troubled and what
  shall I say? Father, save me from this hour but
  for this cause came I unto this hour. Father,
  glorify Thy name.

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Concluding Application

• Jesus from eternity past, had a purpose and a
  plan.
• David accomplished all that God had for him in
  his generaton.
• What is your purpose, your plan, your focus for
  the remainder of your life? For your children?
• Will you accomplish all that God has for you in
  your generation?

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Acts 1336

• For David, after he had served his own generation
  by the will of God, fell on sleep, and was laid
  unto his Fathers, and saw corruption.
• (David accomplished all that God had for him to
  do in his generation.)

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John 1227, 28a

• Jesus said, Now is my soul troubled and what
  shall I say? Father, save me from this hour but
  for this cause came I unto this hour. Father,
  glorify Thy name.

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Missionary/Mission Field?

• I led two lives as a youth.
• I left home as a mission field, not a missionary.
  (How have you left home? How will your children
  leave home?)
• Could our God use your time here to help you
  fullfil His purpose for you in your generation?
• Are you practicing truth (John 321) and does
  your life display Colossians 127?

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• If we call ourselves Christians we must be a
  people who know and do what the Bible says!
• Godly man or woman
• Godly husband or wife
• Godly dad or mom
• And all of this is to bring eternal glory to our
  Lord.

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WHERE DO WE START?

• The mantle of parenthood must start with a clear
  understanding of what is true TRUTH. We must know
  and practice Gods Word, the Bible.
• John 1717
• John 832
• Hebrews 412
• Psalm 119
• John 1248It is Gods Word that will judge us at
  the last day!

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WHERE DO WE START?

• Dads and Moms are you actually in the family of
  God?
• Are you a true POSSESSOR of the Christian Faith
  or just a professor of the Faith.
• Have you received the Lord Jesus Christ as your
  personal Savior?
• But as many as received him, to them gave he
  power to become the sons of God, even to them
  that believe on his name Which were born, not of
  blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the
  will of man, but of God.
  John 112, 13

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WHERE DO WE START?

• Are we realizing our responsibility as parents to
  live out so great a salvation?
• We are the Image Bearers of the King.
• As true believers and image bearers a
  supernatural change has taken place!
• Can our family see this supernatural change, this
  enabling to exhibit the fruit of the Spirit in
  the every day activities of family life?

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WHO AM I AS A CHRISTIAN?

• Member of the family and household of God
  Galatians 610 Ephesians 219
• Complete in Christ Colossians 210
• Possessor of every spiritual blessing
  Ephesians 13
• Born of the Spirit John
  36
• Baptized with the Spirit 1 Cor. 1213

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WHO AM I AS AN IMAGE BEARER?

• Indwelt by the Holy Spirit Jn. 739 Rom. 55,
  89 1 Cor. 316, 619 Gal. 46 1 Jn.
  324
• Sealed by the Spirit Eph. 430 2 Cor. 122
• Given spiritual gifts 1 Cor. 12-14 Rom. 12
• We are IN CHRIST Jn. 1420 Col. 127
• A member in Christs body 1 Cor. 1213
• A branch in the Vine John 155

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Recipientof eternal life John 315 and 16,
John 1028, 1 John 511-13

• Seated in heavenly places Eph. 26
• Minister of the N.T. 2 Cor.
  36
• Ambassador of Christ 2 Cor. 520
• A living letter 2
  Cor. 33
• A minister (servant) of God 2Cor. 64
• Gods inheritance Eph.
  118
• Redeemed Rom. 324 Col. 114 1 Pet. 118

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Christians are Gods house on earth
1 Cor. 39 2 Cor. 51

• An heir of God Rom. 817 1 Pet. 14
  
• Joint heir of Christ Rom. 817 Heb. 915
• Have access to God Rom. 52 Eph 218
  Heb. 416, 1019
• A called and protected people Titus 214,
  1 Peter 29
• Delivered from the power of sin Rom. 62
  Phil. 33 Col. 211

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A living stone Eph. 221,22 1 Pet. 25

• A sheep in His flock John 1027-29
• A part of Christs bride Eph. 525-27
• A priest in Gods Kingdom 1 Pet. 29
• A new creature 2 Cor.
  517
• A child of light Eph. 58 1 Thess.54,5
• In the Spirit Romans
  89
• Positionally glorified Romans 830

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Delivered from the kingdom of Satan
Colossians 113, 215

• Foreknown Acts 223 Rom. 829 1 Pet. 12
• Elect Rom. 833 Col. 312 Tit. 11 1 Pet.
  12
• Predestined Rom. 829 Eph. 15,11
• Chosen Matt. 2214 1
  Pet. 24
• Called Matt. 2214 1Thess.
  524
• Reconciled by God 2 Cor. 518,19 Col. 120
• Reconciled to God Rom. 510 2 Cor.520

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Redeemed how I love to proclaim it, redeemed by
the blood of the lamb! Rom324 Col 114

• All condemnation removed Jn524Rom81
• Crucified with Christ Rom. 66 Gal. 620
• Dead with Christ Ro 68 Col 33 1 Pt 224
• Buried with Christ Rom. 64 Col. 212
• Raised with Christ Rom. 64 Col. 31
• Regenerated Jn. 1310 1 Cor. 61 Tit. 35
• Born Again Jn. 37 1 Pet.
  123

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I am forgiven all my sins!!! Eph. 17, 432
Colossians 114, 213,
313

• Child of God Gal 326 Jn 112 2Cor 618
• A New Creation 2Cor 517 Gal 615 Eph 210
• Adopted Rom. 815,23 Eph.
  15
• Acceptable to God Eph. 16 1 Pet. 25
• Made Righteous Ro 322 2Cor 521 Phil 39
• Perfected forever Hebrews 1014
• Justified Ro 32451,9 830 1Cor 611 Tit 37

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We have heavenly citizenship Luke 1020
Eph. 213,19 Phil. 320

• Within the much more care of God
  Romans 59,10
• Object of Gods love Eph. 24,
  52
• Object of Gods power Eph. 119 Phil. 213
• Object of His faithfulness Phil 16 Heb
  135,6
• Object of Gods peace John 1427
• Object of Gods consolation 2Thess 216

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Object of Gods intercession
Romans 834 Hebrews 725

• Object of Gods grace
• For salvation Ephesians
  28,9
• For keeping Rom. 52 1Pet.
  15
• For instruction
  Titus 212
• These 64 identifying distinctives are who we are
  as the image bearers of the Lord Jesus Christ.
• All of this starts at home.

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WHERE DO WE START?

• Perhaps a good place to start (today) the first
  day of the rest of your life is to examine and
  test yourself to see if you are a true Christian.
• Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith.
• 2 Corinthians 135

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HOW DO WE PERSEVERE?

• Whatsoever things were written aforetime were
  written for our learning, that we through
  patience and comfort of the scriptures might have
  hope.
• 5Now the God of patience and consolation grant
  you to be likeminded one toward another according
  to Christ Jesus 6That ye may with one mind and
  one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our
  Lord Jesus Christ.
• 7Wherefore receive ye one another, as Christ also
  received us to the glory of God. Romans 154-7

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HOW DO WE PERSEVERE?

• We must be aware of the intense spiritual battle
  which engages us, to destroy us individually,
  destroy our marriages, steal our children and
  reek havoc in the church.
• Ephesians 610-19

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2 CORINTHIANS 1012

• For we dare not make ourselves of the number,
  or compare ourselves with some that commend
  themselves but they measuring themselves by
  themselves, and comparing themselves among
  themselves, are not wise.

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• Gods word is our standardwe must keep our eyes
  fixed on things above not on things that are on
  the earth. Keep looking ahead.
• Keep the eternal perspective!
• 27Why sayest thou, O Jacob, and speakest, O
  Israel, My way is hid from the LORD, and my
  judgment is passed over from my God? 28Hast thou
  not known? hast thou not heard, that the
  everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the
  ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is
  weary? there is no searching of his
  understanding. 29He giveth power to the faint
  and to them that have no might he increaseth
  strength. Isaiah 4027-29

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HOW DO WE PERSEVERE?

• Depravity is now the accepted lifestyle and has
  penetrated the church.
• Good is evil and evil is good (Isaiah 520).
• Immorality is accepted
• Adultery is accepted
• Homosexual lifestyle is accepted
• Lying and cheating are accepted
• Biblical Truth is being severely compromised!

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The Depravity Factor

• Two of the great dangers we face as parents
• 1. becoming so immunized to apostasy and evil
  that it seems normal and no longer alarming
• 2. becoming discouraged and deciding that there
  is no use in standing up to such overwhelming
  evil.
• So dont lose your perspectivegodly parenting is
  more than worth the costs, sacrifices, and
  inconveniences.

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ROMANS 151-6

• 1We then that are strong ought to bear the
  infirmities of the weak, and not to please
  ourselves. 2Let every one of us please his
  neighbour for his good to edification. 3For even
  Christ pleased not himself but, as it is
  written, The reproaches of them that reproached
  thee fell on me. 4For whatsoever things were
  written aforetime were written for our learning,
  that we through patience and comfort of the
  scriptures might have hope.

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ROMANS 151-6 (continued)

• 5Now the God of patience and consolation grant
  you to be likeminded one toward another according
  to Christ Jesus 6That ye may with one mind and
  one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our
  Lord Jesus Christ.

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THE COST

• There is a cost as we persevere in dedicated
  godly marriage and parenthood.
• I must die daily (1 Corinthians 1531b).
• I must die to selfishness.
• I must die to pride. (Philippians 21-4).
• A GODLY FAMILY BRINGING GLORY TO OUR GREAT
  CREATOR AND SAVIOR, THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, IS
  WORTH ANY COST, IS IT NOT?

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• Perhaps our biggest problem

PRIDE!
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A GREAT OBSTACLE TO GODLINESS

• Pride in adults
• Pride in husbands and wives
• Pride in parents
• Pride in teenagers
• Pride in children
• Pride in brothers and sisters

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• I can take care of myself!
• I am indestructible!
• I can handle these drugs!
• I can handle social drinking!
• I will not be seduced by internet or by women!
• ROMANS 123
• For I say, through the grace given unto me, to
  every man that is among you, not to think of
  himself more highly than he ought to think but
  to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to
  every man the measure of faith.

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• The proud teenager says
• I can do all things.
• The humble teenager says I can do all things
  through Christ Who strengthens me.

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• A fool loves and lives the ways of darkness and
  death!

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WHAT IS A FOOLISH YOUTH?

• He may be a teenager who has attended church
  for years. He is there because his parents make
  him come. He will daydream during most of the
  lesson, and the part that he does hear, he has
  already made up his mind to ignore. He is
  foolish.
• Jerry L. Ross, The Teenage Years of Jesus Christ,
  (ISBN 0-87398-898-1) p. 8

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A WORD TO YOUNG LADIES

• Young ladies, dress modestly and appropriately.
  Tight-fitting clothes do not make you look sexy
  they make you look cheap. Dont be a flirt! Keep
  hands off. Be especially appropriate around
  married men. No one respects a girl with loose
  morals. Wicked men may give you attention, then
  use you, but they wont marry you. Be an example
  of the Believer in purity. (Ross, p. 69-70,
  italics are from Ross)

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• Lesser shades of darkness do not expose the
  darkness!

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WHAT ABOUT THE TEACHING ASPECTS OF ALL OF THIS?

• Do we have a clear purpose Glorify God.
• What is our focus God, spouse, children
  discipleship.
• Do we have an agenda, an overarching plan.
• At what spiritual targets are we aiming our
  children?
• Colossians 110

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THE PLAN

• As a Christian I must know, live, and teach
  the foundational beliefs, freedoms and
  restrictions of TRUE BIBLICAL FAITH.
• Ezra 710
• For Ezra had prepared his heart to seek the law
  of the LORD, and to do it, and to teach in Israel
  statutes and judgments.

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THE FAMILY PLAN

• Compose a family definition of success using
  Scripture. A BIBLICAL DEFINITION OF SUCCESS IS A
  GREAT AID TO ESTABLISHING PRIORITIES.
• As for me and my family, by Gods grace and
  in His mercy we will walk in a manner worthy of
  our Lord, to please Him in all respects. We will
  in His power bear fruit in every good work and we
  will keep increasing in the knowledge of God.
  (paraphrase of Colossians 110)

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• Compose a family doctrinal statement. A
  FAMILY DOCTRINAL STATEMENT ESTABLISHES LIBERTIES
  AND LIMITATIONS.
• Others can, we cannot.

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DOCTRINAL STATEMENT

• Include Scriptures for which there is no
  compromise
• Creation Genesis 1
• Entrance of sin, The Fall Genesis 3
• Trinity Romans 120 cp Genesis 11
• Salvation Romans Road323 623 58 109-13
  etc
• Resurrection 1 Corinthians 15
• Eternal Life Revelation 22

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THE PLAN (Doctrinal Statement, Definition of
Success) ESTABLISHED UNDER THE MANTLE OF
PARENTHOOD

• Certain things are never an option for us
• Certain attitudes
• Certain behaviors
• Certain clothing styles
• Certain types of music
• Certain kinds of friends
• Certain varieties of entertainment
• ETC.
• Ecclesiastes 811 Nip it in the bud!!!!

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• As a parent do not ever think Well, thats just
  a little thing. It is not worth risking a dispute
  over that.
• A seed is a little thing, but it can grow into a
  mighty tree!
• Exercise your God-given loving leadership and
  authority as a parent Nip it in the bud!

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THE PLAN ESTABLISHED UNDER THE MANTLE OF
PARENTHOOD

• Certain things are always acceptable options
• Humbling ourselves before our Lord and each other
• Exhibiting a loving and forgiving spirit
• Practicing generosity and hospitality
• Eagerly seeking ministry opportunities
• Practicing servanthood at home with each other

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THE PLAN ESTABLISHED UNDER THE MANTLE OF
PARENTHOOD

• Certain things are always acceptable options
• Establishing acceptable habit patterns
• Exhibiting obedience
• Learning diligence and attentiveness
• Demonstrating wise use of time and money
• Becoming well-mannered
• Practicing the fruit of the Spirit Love, Joy,
  Peace, Longsuffering (patience), Gentleness,
  Goodness, Faith, Meekness, and Temperance
  (self-control). Galatians 522, 23

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• Godly parenting is not
• Do as I say, not as I do!

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ALL PARENTS FAIL FROM TIME TO TIME

• We always go back to Jesus as our example.
• Jesus came to serve, to destroy the works of the
  devil, and to die for each of us.

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MARK 1045

• For even the Son of man came not to be
  ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his
  life a ransom for many.

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1 JOHN 38

• For this purpose the Son of God was manifested,
  that he might destroy the works of the devil.

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PHILIPPIANS 28-11

• And being found in fashion as a man, he
  humbled himself, and became obedient unto death,
  even the death of the cross. 9Wherefore God also
  hath highly exalted him, and given him a name
  which is above every name 10That at the name of
  Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven,
  and things in earth, and things under the earth
  11And that every tongue should confess that Jesus
  Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

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AS IMAGE BEARERS WE ARE TO IMITATE THE LORD JESUS

• EPHESIANS 51-2
• 1Be ye therefore followers (imitators) of God, as
  dear children 2And walk in love, as Christ also
  hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an
  offering and a sacrifice to God for a
  sweetsmelling savour.

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1 PETER 116

• Be ye holy for I am holy.

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1 PETER 221

• For even hereunto were ye called because
  Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an
  example, that ye should follow his steps.

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• Godly parenting is 24 hours a day.
• There is no such thing as a day off.
• Your spouse will never help you as much as you
  deserve and feel that you dearly need.
• There can be many tears.
• There are days that your feelings tell you this
  is not worth it!
• There are days when you are completely convinced
  that you are into a bottomless pit of absolute
  incompetence.
• Take heartGods mercies are new every morning!

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• It is never too late
• to start doing what is right
• As an individual before God,
• As a spouse,
• As a parent!

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PHILIPPIANS 313, 14

• 13Brethren, I count not myself to have
  apprehended but this one thing I do, forgetting
  those things which are behind, and reaching forth
  unto those things which are before, 14I press
  toward the mark for the prize of the high calling
  of God in Christ Jesus.
• The Holy Bible King James Version. Oak Harbor,
  WA Logos Research Systems, Inc.

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• Forget yesterday.
• Press on.
• Parenting is part of the high calling of God.

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THE PROBABLE FRUIT OF GODLY PARENTING

• I have no greater joy than to hear that my
  children walk in truth.
• 3 John 4

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BY GODS GRACE HOPEFULLY JESUS WILL ONE DAY SAY
TO US

• Well done, thou good and faithful servant
  thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will
  make thee ruler over many things enter thou into
  the joy of thy lord.
• Matthew 2521

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2 TIMOTHY 47, 8

• 7I have fought a good fight, I have finished
  my course, I have kept the faith 8Henceforth
  there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness,
  which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give
  me at that day and not to me only, but unto all
  them also that love his appearing.

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• Let us by our Lords infinite mercy, strength,
  and grace hit His targets with our children.
• Psalm 127

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PSALM 127

• 1Except the LORD build the house, they labour
  in vain that build it except the LORD keep the
  city, the watchman waketh but in vain. 2It is
  vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to
  eat the bread of sorrows for so he giveth his
  beloved sleep.

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PSALM 127 (continued)

• 3Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD and
  the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4As arrows
  are in the hand of a mighty man so are children
  of thy youth. 5Happy is the man that hath his
  quiver full of them they shall not be ashamed,
  but they shall speak with their enemies in the
  gate.

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• Our children are each a very special assigned
  gift to us from Almighty God. Let us equip them
  to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit within
  the framework of Gods Word, the Bible. May we,
  by Gods grace and for His glory, prepare our
  children to be fearless defenders of the Faith,
  . . . rightly dividing the Word of Truth.

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Note to me Steve Green songMay all who come
behind us find us faithfulMay the fire of our
devotion light their wayMay the footprints that
we leaveLead them to believeAnd the lives we
live inspire them to obeyO may all who come
behind us find us faithful.