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How to Set Limits With Students


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Title: How to Set Limits With Students

How to Set Limits With Students
The CPI Crisis Development Model
Rational and Primitive Communication
Characteristics of Effective Limit Setting
  • Avoid personal power struggles
  • Establish clear, objective limits and enforce
  • Listen actively

Common Types of Power Struggles
  • Defending your authority or credibility
  • Reacting to personal button pushing
  • Issuing unenforceable consequences
  • Getting sidetracked by irrelevant issues

Establishing Clear, Objective Limits and
Enforcing Consequences
Establishing Clear, Objective Limits and
Enforcing Consequences
Five-Step Approach to Setting Limits
  • Explain exactly what behaviour is inappropriate.
  • Explain why the behaviour is inappropriate.
  • Give reasonable choices and enforceable
  • Allow time.
  • Enforce consequences.

Listen Actively (CARE)
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Thinking ErrorsWe all tend to think in
extremes...and when traumatic events happen we
think that way even more. Here are some common
cognitive distortions. Take a look and see if any
of them are getting in your way.
  • All-or-nothing thinking You see things in black
    and white categories. If your performance falls
    short of perfect, you see yourself as a total
  • Overgeneralization You see a single negative
    event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
  • Mental filter You pick out a single negative
    detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your
    vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the
    drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of
  • Disqualifying the positive You reject positive
    experiences by insisting they "don't count" for
    some reason or other. You maintain a negative
    belief that is contradicted by your everyday
  • Jumping to conclusions You make a negative
    interpretation even though there are no definite
    facts that convincingly support your conclusion

Thinking Errors
  • Mind reading You arbitrarily conclude that
    someone is reacting negatively to you and don't
    bother to check it out.
  • The Fortune Teller Error You anticipate that
    things will turn out badly and feel convinced
    that your prediction is an already-established
  • Magnification (catastrophizing) or minimization
    You exaggerate the importance of things (such as
    your goof-up or someone else's achievement), or
    you inappropriately shrink things until they
    appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the
    other fellow's imperfections). This is also
    called the "binocular trick."
  • Emotional reasoning You assume that your
    negative emotions necessarily reflect the way
    things really are "I feel it, therefore it must
    be true."

Thinking Errors
  • Should statements You try to motivate yourself
    with shoulds and shouldn'ts, as if you had to be
    whipped and punished before you could be expected
    to do anything. "Musts" and "oughts" are also
    offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt.
    When you direct should statements toward others,
    you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.
  • Labeling and mislabeling This is an extreme
    form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing
    your error, you attach a negative label to
    yourself "I'm a loser." When someone else's
    behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a
    negative label to him, "He's a damn louse."
    Mislabeling involves describing an event with
    language that is highly colored and emotionally
  • Personalization You see yourself as the cause of
    some negative external event for which, in fact,
    you were not primarily responsible.
  • From Burns, David D., MD. 1989. The Feeling Good
    Handbook. New York William Morrow and Company,