Roles in Godly Families:

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Roles in Godly Families Husbands Wives
Bible Blueprints for Good Homes
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Role of Husbands
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Ephesians 523-33 23For the husband is the head
of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the
church, being himself the saviour of the body.
24But as the church is subject to Christ, so let
the wives also be to their husbands in
everything. 25Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up
for it 26that he might sanctify it, having
cleansed it by the washing of water with the
word, 27that he might present the church to
himself a glorious church, not having spot or
wrinkle or any such thing but that it should be
holy and without blemish. 28Even so ought
husbands also to love their own wives as their
own bodies. He that loveth his own wife loveth
himself 29for no man ever hated his own flesh
but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as Christ
also the church 30because we are members of his
body. 31For this cause shall a man leave his
father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife
and the two shall become one flesh.
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Genesis 221-24 21And Jehovah God caused a deep
sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept and he
took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh
instead thereof 22and the rib, which Jehovah God
had taken from the man, made he a woman, and
brought her unto the man. 23And the man said,
This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my
flesh she shall be called Woman, because she was
taken out of Man. 24Therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto
his wife and they shall be one flesh.
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Deuteronomy 245 When a man taketh a new wife,
he shall not go out in the host, neither shall he
be charged with any business he shall be free at
home one year, and shall cheer his wife whom he
hath taken.
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Colossians 319 Husbands, love your wives, and
be not bitter against them.
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Duties of Husbands Summarized

• Love wife with a superlative degree of love
• As Christ loved gave Himself for the church
• As a man loves his own body (Luke 631)
• Leave father mother cleave to wife - primary
• Take responsibility of headship in family
• Leaving father mother implies new place
• Headship is not function of selfish domination
• Must be sacrificial in leading to best for family
• Be concerned about well-being of wife
• This is necessarily a part of love commanded
• Responsibility to cheer wife is principle
• Opposite forbidden of being bitter against them

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Role of Wives
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Ephesians 522-24, 33 22Wives, be in subjection
unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For
the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ
also is the head of the church, being himself the
saviour of the body. 24But as the church is
subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to
their husbands in everything. 33Nevertheless do
ye also severally love each one his own wife even
as himself and let the wife see that she fear
her husband.
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Colossians 318 18Wives, be in subjection to
your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
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1 Timothy 211-15 11Let a woman learn in
quietness with all subjection. 12But I permit not
a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a
man, but to be in quietness. 13For Adam was first
formed, then Eve 14and Adam was not beguiled,
but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into
transgression 15but she shall be saved through
her child-bearing, if they continue in faith and
love and sanctification with sobriety.
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Titus 24-5 Older women are to teach younger
women 4that they may train the young women to
love their husbands, to love their children, 5to
be sober-minded, chaste, workers at home, kind,
being in subjection to their own husbands, that
the word of God be not blasphemed
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Duties of Wives Summarized

• Respect for husbands foundational to all
• Must be in submission to own husbands
• Commanded as a responsibility by Scripture
• As unto the Lord or As is fitting in Lord
• Responsibility spurned by feminism is of God
• Reasons given for subjection
• Man created first then woman
• Woman (Eve) was deceived in the fall
• Nature of subjection commanded
• Not due to any lesser nature of the woman
• Due to a place or function to facilitate order
• Parallel to submission in government work

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Principles from 1 Peter
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Following the Theme of Service

• 211-12 Theme stated
• 213-17 Subjection to governing powers
• 218-25 Subjection of servants to masters
• 31-6 Subjection of wife to husband
• 37 Husbands, in like manner
• Point is on service a husband owes
• Giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
  vessel
• Joint heirs of the grace of life

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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
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1 Peter 31-6 1In like manner, ye wives, be in
subjection to your own husbands that, even if
any obey not the word, they may without the word
be gained by the behavior of their wives
2beholding your chaste behavior coupled with
fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be the outward
adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing
jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel 4but
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the
incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For
after this manner aforetime the holy women also,
who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection to their own husbands 6as Sarah
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children
ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in
fear by any terror. 7Ye husbands, in like manner,
dwell with your wives according to knowledge,
giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker
vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of
life to the end that your prayers be not
hindered.
What is meant by giving honor unto the woman, as
unto the weaker vessel?
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Inside Out Look at 1 Peter 31-7

• Lessons husbands learn from verses on wives
• Should learn from godly example of wife
• Dont ignore them act like a know-it-all
• Look for ways to increase godliness from word
• Use leadership to require proper dress conduct
• Lessons wives learn from verses on husbands
• Aid husband by communication
• Silence makes problem more difficult to resolve
• Live in a way causing honor from husband all
• Not a tag-a-long to heaven, but joint-heir of
  life

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1 Peter 38-11 8Finally, be ye all likeminded,
compassionate, loving as brethren, tenderhearted,
humble-minded 9not rendering evil for evil, or
reviling for reviling but contrariwise blessing
for hereunto were ye called, that ye should
inherit a blessing. 10For, He that would love
life, And see good days, Let him refrain his
tongue from evil, And his lips that they speak no
guile 11And let him turn away from evil, and do
good Let him seek peace, and pursue it.
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Principles for All Right Relationships

• Seek to be Selfless, not Selfish
• Compassionate
• Loving
• Tenderhearted
• Humbleminded
• Not Vindictive
• Careful in Speech
• Pure in Action
• Seek Pursue Peace