Title: Third Australian EvidenceBased Coaching Conference Wellbeing and Coaching: How Well is Coaching Real
1Third Australian Evidence-Based Coaching
ConferenceWellbeing and Coaching How Well is
Coaching Really Doing?
2ENGAGE Creating Leadership Partnership Across
Boundaries
3Engagement
4Relationships In Business
5Partnering
- A Relationship in Which We
- Are Jointly Committed to the Success of Whatever
Process or Project We Are Engaged in
6Key Mindset
- Much That Looks Personal (The Trout)
- Is Not Just Personal Its Also Systemic (The
Pond)
7Partnership Breakdown
- Often Occurs Because We Do Not Understand
Peoples Worlds (Ponds). - In Fact We Rarely Consider
- Them At All.
8Key Objectives
- Enhance pond appreciation of those you coach.
- Assess why partnerships break down.
- Provide 4 overall Pond Strategies to help the
leaders you coach master the systemic space they
are in.
Based on the work of Dr Barry Oshry Seeing
Systems
9POSITIONS
Customer
Customer
Top
Middle
Bottom
Customer
Customer
10POSITIONS and PONDS
TOP MIDDLE BOTTOM CUSTOMER
POSITION
POND
OVERLOAD TORN DISREGARD NEGLECT
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15Stuff
16All right!
17Ouch!
Noxious Stuff
18Mysterious Stuff
?
19?
Ouch!
Noxious and Mysterious Stuff
20Well?
21Minus Stuff
22Key Take Away
Edge Of Your Seats
23Stuff Happens!!!
24Much That Seems Personal (POOR TROUT) Is Not
Personal Its Systemic (POND)
25OUR REACTIONS
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
26TOP WORLD
Complexity
Accountability
27BOTTOM WORLD
Vulnerability
28MIDDLE WORLD
T e a r i n g
29CUSTOMER WORLD
Plop
Neglect
30 Top
Complexity
Middle
Accountability
Customer
T e a r i n g
Plop
Neglect
Them
Bottom
Vulnerability
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34Still waiting
35OUR REACTIONS
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
36Partnership!
37Partnership!
Them
38MORE VULNERABILITY
Them
P a r t n e r s h i p
39Yawn
40OUR REACTIONS
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
41Can we have lap tops?
42MORE TEARING
43Ill see what I can do
?
44OUR REACTIONS
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
45I think Ill do something nice for customer
Plop
46MORE NEGLECT!!
Nice Gesture
Plop
47OUR REACTIONS
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
48Stuff Happens
49Complexity
Accountability
T e a r i n g
Plop
Neglect
Them
Vulnerability
50Partnering Time
- Discuss with your buddy
- What of this is familiar?
- What ponds do you find yourself in?
- How does this show up in your coaching?
51Alternative Responses
- Increased Empathy/Understanding
- Dont Take It Personally
- Stay Focused
- Dont Get Hooked by Stuff
- Be Strategic -- Take Others Worldsinto Account
- Ease Their Condition
- Partnership
52Side Show Door A
- Make Up a Story
- Evaluate the Others
- Malicious
- Insensitive
- Incompetent
- Take It Personally
- React
- Get Mad
- Get Even
- Withdraw
- Lose Focus
- Partnership (Relationship)
- Engagement
53Centre Ring Door B
- Increased Empathy/Understanding
- Dont Take It Personally
- Stay Focused
- Dont Get Hooked by Stuff
- Be Strategic -- Take Others Worldsinto Account
- Ease Their Condition
- Partnership
- Engagement
54- The Side Show is predictable but not inevitable.
(Door A) - The Centre Ring is not predictable, but it is a
human possibility. (Door B)
55Not With Everyone Not Every Time ButWith
GreatRegularity
56Reactions Experiences
Pond Condition Response Experience
- TopOverload Suck It Up Burdened
BottomDisregard Hold Them Responsible Oppressed
MiddleCrunch Slide in Between Torn
CustomerNeglect Hold It Responsible Righteously
Screwed
57LEADERSHIP STAND
Door A Response
Condition
Door B Response
58General Leadership Stands
- Be a Top Who Creates Responsibility Throughout
the Whole System
TOPS
Be a Bottom Who Is Responsible for My Condition
and for the Condition of the Whole System
BOTTOMS
59General Leadership Stands
- Be a Middle who Maintains My (Our) Independence
of Thought and Action
MIDDLES
Be a Customer Who Gets in the Middle of the
Delivery Process and Helps Them Make it Work for
Them
CUSTOMERS
60Questions and Comments
61Engagement
62Relationships In Business
63Partnering
- A Relationship in Which We
- Are Jointly Committed to the Success of Whatever
Process or Project We Are Engaged in
64Final Reflections For Coaches
- Its not just about the TROUT.
- Much of our IDENTITY, growth and our suffering is
around RELATIONSHIPS PARTNERSHIPS. - COACH awareness of your leaders PONDS.
- Educate them as to the LEADERSHIP STANDS they can
take. - Make it a lifelong quest to GROW YOUR OWN POND.
65And then They GROW Themselves Laddie