How to Approach Your Marriage Counselor or Marriage Therapist? 6 Things to Know

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How to Approach Your Marriage Counselor or
Marriage Therapist? 6 Things to Know
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If you're thinking about approaching your
marriage counselor or therapist, you're not
alone. Many couples find that talking to a
professional can help them understand their
issues, improve their communication and
ultimately save their relationship. But what
happens if your partner is reluctant to reach out
for help? How do you convince him or her that
it's time to seek out help from a Los Gatos
marriage therapist, or wherever you live?
Here are some tips for approaching your marriage
counselor or therapist
1. Determine if you are a good candidate for
marriage counseling - Before you schedule your
first appointment, it's important to ask yourself
some questions. Are you willing to work on the
relationship? Do both of you feel comfortable
talking about what is going on in a safe space?
Are there things that are too painful or personal
for one or both of you to share with a therapist?
If talking about these issues together is
difficult, then marriage counseling may not be
right for your situation. If this is the case,
consider individual therapy instead it gives
each person an opportunity to explore their own
thoughts and feelings without having them
interpreted by their partner (or vice versa).
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• 2. Figure out what is causing the problems in
  your relationship and exercise patience
• Determine what is causing the problems in your
  relationship.
• Exercise patience and be prepared to talk about
  your feelings, finances, and previous marriages
  or relationships.

• 3. Make a list of all of your concerns, then
  prioritize them
• Write down your concerns.
• Prioritize the issues.
• Be honest about what's bothering you, but don't
  worry about what your partner will think, just be
  honest.

4. Don't be afraid of being honest with your
therapist - You should be honest with your
therapist, even if it's hard to do. Your marriage
counselor or marriage therapist is there to help
you and will not judge you for anything that
comes out of your mouth. They are there to listen
and offer advice based on what they hear from
both partners, but also from their own
experiences as well as research in the field of
marriage counseling/therapy.
They will keep everything confidential between
themselves and their client(s), so don't worry
about spilling all of the details out on the
table, it's safe.
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5. Be prepared to discuss your financial
situation any previous marriages or
relationships - It's important to be honest with
your counselor about your financial situation, as
well as any previous marriages or relationships.
This is also an opportunity for you to discuss
any other concerns that might arise in the course
of therapy, such as how long you've been married
and whether there are children involved.

• 6. Give yourself plenty of time
• Give yourself plenty of time to schedule
  appointments and keep them, even if you need to
  adjust them because of family commitments or
  travel plans.
• Try your best not to miss an appointment. If you
  do miss a session, contact the therapist as soon
  as possible so that he or she knows where you are
  and can send any messages that need sending in a
  timely fashion.
• Do not make excuses for missing an appointment
  this will only lead your therapist down the path
  of feeling like he/she cannot trust you with
  respect for his/her time (and therefore
  potentially losing some trust).

Here are some tips for approaching your marriage
counselor or therapist
They have years of experience and training, which
means they're often able to tell if something is
wrong just by looking at you. If this makes you
nervous, don't worry. It's normal to feel nervous
when seeing a professional for the first time,
especially when it comes to talking about your
personal life.
You might be thinking "I'm not perfect why
would they help me?" But remember that nobody is
perfect. And even if there are some things in
your relationship that need work, getting help
from a therapist will make sure those issues
don't get worse over time.
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If approaching someone directly isn't working out
for whatever reason, then consider going through
another person instead, such as another family
member or friend who has had success with
therapists before (and knows what kind works
best).
Conclusion
The best way to approach your marriage counselor
or therapist for marriage counseling in Los
Gatos, or anywhere else, is with an open mind and
a willingness to work on your relationship.
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