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9 Reasons Why Men Betray Their Wives
One of the most common questions women ask when
they find out that their husband betrayed them is
"why?"
As a marriage counselor in Denver, I have worked
with hundreds (if not thousands) of couples over
the years. One of the most common reasons that
brings couples to my office is because one of the
spouses jumped the fence
and had an affair. One of the most common
questions I hear when a woman
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  • discovers that her husband betrayed her is "why?"
  • Well, after several years of helping couples
    recover from betrayals, here are nine of the most
    common reasons that cause men to betray.
  • Lack of romance
  • It is assumed that being married is also being in
    love and being romantic. Unfortunately, many
    women are victims of the "Prince Charming
    Fallacy," believing that their husbands should be
    the only romantic in the relationship and they
    need not be romantic with them in return. Well,
    after several years, some men just get tired of
    being the only ones trying to create romance, and
    they go out to meet him somewhere else.
  • Lack of intimacy
  • This is cliché, but it's true too. Many men marry
    in the expectation of having wonderful intimate
    relationships with their wives. But they may find
    that their sex life is scarce - or nonexistent.
    Because intimacy is an important part of the
    human being, some men seek outside their
    marriages to fulfill this need.
  • Lack of love
  • Men do not just have physical needs. They need
    love too. They want to feel cared for. They want
    to feel that the wife misses him when he walks
    away. When men do not feel loved, some choose to
    divert from their marriages and find love in
    another person.
  • Emasculation
  • Just as many women like beautiful clothes and
    crafts, many men like to watch football or play
    cards with friends. After the wedding, however,
    many men feel that they can not express their
    manly sides without criticism from their wives.
    After years of being castrated in their
    masculinity in this way, if they find someone who
    accepts them for what they are, the betrayal
    follows.
  • Life changes
  • People change. Or at least they should. You do
    not want your 50-year-old

husband to act like he's 20. Unfortunately, you
can not predict all the many
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  • ways a person can change in your life. You can
    not even predict every way you change yourself.
    Some men, as they get older, may realize that
    they are not as happy in their lives as they
    would like to be and make drastic changes (that
    is, they start a case).
  • False beliefs about masculinity
  • As they grow up the boys watch TV shows that show
    that the "cool guy" wins every girl. They see the
    handsome school guy being pampered and always
    having a pretty girl on the side. As a result,
    many men mistakenly believe that in order to be
    real men, they have to be able to have all the
    girls. They continually try to hold on to not
    flirting and facilitating with women.
  • But when men hold on for too long, they
    eventually break loose and infidelity occurs.
  • Tired of the same old routine
  • Humans need novelty. They need to move constantly
    and grow. Unfortunately, many times in life,
    people find themselves bored and unlucky in life
    - tired of the same old routine. Some men go out
    of their routines for extra novelty and
    excitement.
  • Tired of being pestered
  • Women are usually more meticulous than men. For
    example, women are much more likely to use a
    specific sponge for dishes and a totally separate
    sponge for cleaning, but men use the same sponge
    for both. Instead of valuing these differences,
    some women complain. When the husband (or anyone)
    feels ever criticized and devalued, he may choose
    to seek out relationships to gain appreciation.
  • The dissatisfaction
  • That sums it all up. Some men cheat - even if
    they are happy with their wives
  • - because there are vulnerabilities in their
    relationships. These vulnerabilities are often a
    form of dissatisfaction - emotional, practical,
    intimate, etc.
  • While many of these reasons point to a wife's
    failures, it is important to understand that a
    husband's betrayal is not his wife's fault. While
    many men

may blame their partners, a husband obviously has
his share of blame for his
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weak marriage, and he must identify his role in
letting the relationship deteriorate. He also
needs to identify why he allowed himself to have
an affair instead of choosing a number of other
options available to handle an unhappy marriage.
Together, couples can rebuild their relationships
to be happier and stronger than before. Read
more how to make you understand your husband more.
5 reasons why your husband does not want to talk
Wives need to pay special attention to their
husbands in the conversations. Learning a few
secrets can open the door to enriching your
marital relationship.
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Many, but many women complain that they fail to
engage their husbands in meaningful conversation.
There are reasons why this happens. If you want
to know the secret, open your ears and heart and
be ready to learn. Here are five reasons why men
are much quieter. 1. You talk too much It is an
affliction that strikes most women. It's not your
fault - women were born to talk more than men. In
fact, most men speak only about 12,000 words a
day, while most women speak more than 25,000.
However, this does not entitle women to babble
instead of containing their natural instinct.
Anyone, even eloquent women, can control
themselves. Anyone can learn to "bite the
tongue." Of course, there are times when this
"gift of the word" can be put into full use, such
as at a lunch with her friends or at a baby
shower. But not when talking to your husband or
other couples. He needs his fair share of
time to talk.
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  • We saw the epitome of this at dinner one night.
    Several couples were gathered around the table
    discussing different issues. Someone asked one of
    the men what he thought about a subject. Before
    he had the chance to speak, his wife said, "I
    know more about what he thinks than he does," and
    there she chattered about what she thought his
    opinion would be. He whispered to the man at his
    side, "She has no idea what I think."
    Fortunately, another person, in respect to this
    man, interrupted his wife and said, "Thank you,
    but I really would like to know what Bob thinks."
    Bob was pleased and shared a vision that was
    valuable to all the guests.
  • You do not listen to him
  • You should listen to what he has to say. It is
    important for him to know that you value his
    opinion. Ask him something and then let him talk.
    If he does not expose himself as much as you want
    - and he will not - just accept what he gives
    you. If you listen and try to understand what he
    is saying, then he will be prone to contribute
    more in a new conversation.
  • One frustrated man, who can represent many, said,
    "I gave up on talking to my wife a long time ago.
    Why would I talk? She does not care what I think.
    She only does what she really likes. So, what's
    the problem? "Even if you disagree with your
    husband's opinion, listen to him. You may find
    that he may have an excellent solution to a
    problem.Remember that there is more than one way
    to look at something Let him be part of that
    look.If you do, he will feel respected by you and
    even open up for more meaningful conversations.
  • You are very sure of your point of view
  • One problem women have is the fear that if they
    allow their husbands to speak, they will not take
    their point of view into account. So they
    continually interrupt well in the middle of the
    conversation to make it clear they have their own
    opinion. It comes armed with all the reasons why
    your point is the best. Wives often speak over
    their husbands' speech. This means that he is
    sharing something with her, but that she will
    take his ideas and put them in the bin, replacing
    them with his own instead of fully listening to
    his. Who

wants to have a conversation with someone who
does this? No one!
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  • Especially your husband.
  • Also, stop thinking you're always right. This is
    a very insecure position to be in. Prepare to be
    wrong. People like who they admit to be wrong and
    are willing to learn a better way. This reminds
    us of the statement made by a divorced man who
    described his first wife. He said, "I finally
    found Miss Right. I just did not know that her
    first name was Always."
  • Keep this in mind and let your sweetness flow
    more often and you will enjoy a happy marriage.
    This does not mean that you can not be right at
    various points. It just means that you need to
    split that right more evenly. Privileged his
    opinions and he will be more likely to do the
    same.
  • Do you want to talk at the wrong time?
  • Do not expect anything meaningful to get out of a
    chat in the chaos. To chaos, we mean kids
    running around interrupting with their wants and
    needs or other distractions. Find a quiet time,
    when you two may have a moment to share your
    ideas with one another. This could be during a
    dinner, or a walk in the neighborhood. Sitting on
    a park bench drinking your favorite juice will be
    much easier.
  • Also, a quiet moment in your room works well.
    With the door closed. Closed doors should mean
    privacy time. Teach this to your children, and
    they will not come running and yelling during
    their conversations. When the conversation is
    less serious it is good for the children to see
    them sitting together in the living room talking
    about a movie or something that you appreciate.
    This can help prepare the children for their own
    future marriage. They can see that both husband
    and wife have something to say to one another.
  • You do not know what to talk to him
  • Many conversations are just about solving family
    problems. Although there needs to be time for
    this, you also need to take time to talk about
    the most interesting and fun things. To help her
    start a more interesting conversation

with her husband consider the following
suggestions for a popular wedding
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website. About what to say Hobbies of your
spouse or other interests. Plans for a future
trip together. Memories of your childhood. Movies
or television programs. Things you would like to
experience or places you would like to
visit. Something that you learned during the day
or something that you did differently or new that
day. Discuss your thoughts and feelings about
the day. Share some things that made you happy
during the day or for which you are grateful on
that day. Ask some questions that start with "If
you could", or "You already ...", or "Do you
believe?" Although news, time, children, jobs,
money, housework, health problems, in- laws,
friends, etc., are important topics the two have
to talk about, try not to let them be the main
focus of your conversations .
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Conclusion The bottom line is take the time to
talk to your husband. By using these points you
can encourage him to be an active part of the
conversation. Let him talk and listen to what he
has to say this will make a world of difference
in your marriage.
Read more how to make you understand your husband
more. How The Wife Should Treat Husband (The 2
Perfect Ingredients)
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How should a wife treat her husband? How should a
woman treat a man? How does a man like to be
treated? How to be a good wife? Man, do you like
affection? All the above questions (and many
similar ones) are asked daily by wives who want
to know how to please their husbands a little
more, especially those who have trouble marrying
or are newly married, still learning what their
husband likes and how he likes. Let me tell you
something Man is very different from woman in
regard to treatment If you want to know how to
treat your husband so that he feels good about
you inside the marriage, give him the two
ingredients that I will show you in this
text. Respect the man cherishes a lot for the
respect he receives. Take everything out of a
man, just do not take away the respect, because
he can not live without it. Men have a need to be
respected that goes beyond what any need for
respect that a woman has. Understand one thing
I'm not saying that woman does not like respect
or does not need to be respected, of course she
needs to. But look to the side and see how many
women are with men who beat them, shout at them
with clumsy words, they are real nonsense
machões, they are disrespected in the extreme,
but still they continue with the face. Although
there may be exceptions, the man would not be
able to live with a woman who did the same to
him. Man has a very strong need to be respected,
it is part of a pride, a masculine brio that only
he has. He does not tolerate disrespect at home,
at work, or in any environment he frequents. A
disrespected man feels a nothing, his life no
longer makes sense.
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However, he may be disrespected everywhere, but
if when he arrives in the house he finds a woman
who respects him, considers his opinions, treats
him well, then he finds the strength to continue
fighting and he will love even more the woman who
has. But what we have seen there are completely
crazy women, passing over the husband,
disrespecting his authority as a man of the
house, even wanting, in many situations, to take
the part that belongs to him. Just as a man can
not live without respect, a woman can not live
without attention, without feeling loved. They
are different needs. Does man need attention? It
does, but it's not as important to him as
respect. Does the woman need respect? Of course
you need to, but in the order of priorities, even
if you think not, she puts attention, love and
affection above respect. If you only respect a
woman, but do not pay attention to her, neither
affection, nor love, you will lose her the same
way. But with the man it's different you may
even be very considerate, but if he feels
disrespected, then you may end up losing your
husband even though you are the most caring and
considerate woman in the world Admiration
another thing essential for the man is a woman
who admires him, who prays for him, who is his
number 1 fan. The man who has a woman who sees
him as "the maximum" feels alive. He knows that
she trusts him, that she admires the things he
does, the way he is. She values him, values his
work, values his effort, recognizes the small
things he does, the achievements he
achieves. This need to be admired also makes all
the difference in a man's head. What man would
not want to be an idol? Well, he may not be
famous to people in
general, but if he is famous at least for his
wife, he feels invigorated.
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There is a woman who does not admire and does not
respect her husband, then asks herself why the
marriage does not work, because she herself does
not work with anyone. Although he has men who are
so rough and troglodytes difficult to be admired
for his actions, try to find something to admire
in him. And remember that whoever got into that
marriage with a guy like that was you. If you
married even knowing he was like this, it's your
fault and no one else to live with a man like
that. You see, I've just talked about 2
fundamental emotional ingredients to know how a
wife should treat her husband. Give respect and
admiration to the man and you will have him much
love, attention and affection. But the treatment
that the wife must give the husband goes beyond
the emotional part, also has the physical
part. How a wife should treat her husband -
Things that the husband seeks in his wife (and
that every man seeks in a woman to
marry) Housekeeping - A Home Woman Every man
wants a woman who knows how to wash, cook, pass,
take care of a home. "Does the man want a wife
or a maid?" My daughter, put something in your
head, you're a woman. Every man seeks these
attributes in a woman, there is no escape from
them. Ask any man if he wants a sloppy person who
does not know how to do anything in the house and
you will find that he does not. This does not
mean that you will do everything, it just means
that it is up to you to play this role. Even if
you work out, you can afford to pay a maid who
has little time, yet the man expects you to take
care of things at home and with him. A maid does
not replace you, and if you let her replace you,
she will not replace you with household chores
alone (you understand what I'm
talking about).
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If you do not want to take on your
responsibilities as a woman in the home and in
the relationship, if you want to be paid as a
feminist, then you will be paying yourself, you
will lose your man to someone who does these
things or will fail to find a good man with the
which one would you be very happy. Learn quickly
how a wife should treat her husband. The man
will help you with homework. If he is
intelligent, he will know how to take some of the
weight off his back, but still take on these
tasks as if they were his own, as if he had no
obligation at all, for you are the woman This,
you learned to cook and probably cooks better
than him. You, as a woman, are thorough, know how
to do these tasks better than anyone, know how to
leave a well-worn outfit, well-seasoned and
delicious food, a very clean house. So, my
daughter, if you do not know To
wash Pass Sweep Cook Take care of the house I
think it's good to be learning soon, because
every man admires this in a woman. He feels
careful, feels that there is a strong woman on
his side. Sex Within a marriage, sex is
paramount. A couple that does not go well in bed,
does not go well at the wedding. The frequency of
your sexual life is only up to you, but if you
stay too long without intimacy, you will have
problems. Usually the woman is, most of the
time, responsible for the relationship without
sex for long. She says she is not related, that
she has a headache, that she is not in the
weather, etc. Woman, understand one thing if you
do not give him sex, there's going to come a
daughter from the hood down the street
and will give.
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You are not required to have sex with your
husband, it may actually be that in a few days
you are very unwell, but when it happens every
night, every day, you are putting your marriage
in danger. Sometimes you may not even like it,
but once it gets hot, the will comes. Do not put
your marriage at risk because of something that
is mandatory in marriage, especially for the
man. Now, if you're not married to him, it's
just girlfriend or fiancee, do not give sex to
him, since you will be devaluing yourself and
giving away your intimacy too early for those who
have not yet proven that they really love you.
Leave sex just for marriage. Submission Oops!
Now it's serious, right? He spoke in submission
the ears of the women stand and then say "I
will not submit to any man. Marriage is
partnership, both have to make the decisions
together. " Yes, it's true, marriage is
partnership, you should sit and talk and make all
the important decisions. And there is no better
within marriage. Man is not superior to woman and
vice versa, both have the same role and
importance. However, submission is not when man
commands and you just obey. Submission had its
sense completely changed nowadays mainly because
of the feminist war, which misrepresented the
meaning of the word. Submission is a form of
respect, a way of telling the man that you
respect his decisions, that if he decides one
thing, you will not try to go over him, he will
not disrespect you. You're not just a little
programmed to follow commands, but you must
respect your husband as the man of the house,
someone whose opinion deserves credit more than
any other.
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Every time you try to impose your will over his,
stop doing something he asked for, do not
consider it and do the things in your head
without consulting him, you are sinning in
submission, you are being rebellious towards your
husband within of marriage. Though both should
walk together as equals, understand the
importance of respecting him with your
submission, in this sense I have just reported,
not in the sense that you are a puppy that serves
no purpose other than obeying the master's
orders. Submission is not it. You are not his
property, but your husband will appreciate it if
you let him be the head of the relationship. You
have no idea how much you earn from it in your
marriage. There are still many things I could
talk about, but I leave those that are the most
important and where many women have sinned with
their husbands and partners. Want to be a good
wife? Watch all that, be a caring wife,
capricious, respectful and deep admirer of your
husband, your number one fan, and he will never
need any other on the street. Read more how to
make you understand your husband more.
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