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Title: Counseling

  • An Introduction

Counseling What Is It?
  • Assisting people to change or to cope with change
    that has occurred

Counseling Ministry Gal. 61-2
  • Caught the condition (sinfulness)
  • Restore the mission (heart transformed)
  • Gently the attitude/character (do no harm)
  • Watch the protection (watch self
    ministry) see also I Tim. 416
  • Carry daily goal (help bear burdens in
    personal relationships with people)
  • See also Hebrews 51-4 Paul Tripp, CCEF

Purpose of Counseling C2
  • To enable persons to glorify God and to enjoy Him
    forever. (Westminster Confession of Faith,
    Shorter Catechism, 1)
  • The central objective of all pastoral care and
    personal counseling is that Christ be formed in
    the personality of the individuals who seek
    help. (Oates, Christian Pastor, 3rd rev. ed, 77)

Who Needs Counseling? CCEF
  • Everyone! Including the counselor.
  • Three reasons
  • (1) Creation - because we are human need
    truth outside ourselves. God counseled
    Adam Eve before the Fall.
  • (2) Fall presence of another untruthful
  • (3) Redemption the heart is deceitful, sinful

A Biblical Model of Counseling
  • Important Elements
  • Goal to enable persons to glorify God enjoy
  • Focus the Heart whole person
  • Perspective/Agenda Gods, as defined in
  • Value Holiness
  • Practice Love (reflecting Gods character)
  • Power Holy Spirit

The Change Process in BC
  • The Heart changed by Christ leads to Obedience
    Transformation, according to Gods will as
    revealed in Word and Spirit
  • Obedience to Gods Word (change behavior via a
    changed heart)
  • Maturing in Christ (i.e., that Christ be formed
    continually in ones personality or, renewing
    the mind)

Counseling Faith Working Through Love
  • A relationship of trusted motive prevails only
    when you as a Christian pastor voluntarily accept
    and effectively carry through with your power as
    a representative of the love of Christ. You are
    a servant of people for Jesus sake. The
    effectiveness of all pastoral procedures depends
    upon the singleness of this motivation, . . .
    (Oates, Xn Pastor, 78)

  • The focus of your pastoral identity and the end
    of your conversation with those whom you would
    serve is incarnate in Jesus Christ, the Word of
    God. Both you and those whom you would serve are
    on a pilgrimage of self-hood, the end result of
    which is either a self in Christ or a self apart
    from Christ. The encounter of redemption is
    initiated neither by the pastor nor by the
    parishioner but by God. (Oates, Christian
    Pastor,3rd, 82)

  • Every knowledge of the human heart, every skill
    in dealing with human problems, is as dangerous
    as it is useful, and ordinarily it is the
    presence or absence of the love of Christ that
    makes the difference.
  • Wayne E. Oates, The Christian Pastor, 3rd ed,
    rev. (Philadelphia Westminster, 1982), 81.

Effectiveness in Counseling
  • The basic characteristics of a helping
    relationship are
  • accurate empathy
  • nonpossessive warmth
  • inherent genuineness

Effectiveness as a Biblical Counselor 1 CCEF
  • Character Qualities
  • Humility
  • accurate self-assessment, flexibility of spirit
  • Love
  • encouragement hope, servant attitude
  • Faithfulness
  • dependability, discipline
  • Spiritual Maturity
  • personal holiness, Biblical/theological wisdom

Effectiveness as a Biblical Counselor 2 CCEF
  • Functional Qualities
  • Building relationships
  • gentleness, kindness, sensitive, peacemaking
  • Understanding the counselees environment
  • data gathering, uncovering heart issues, Biblical
  • Communicating
  • listening, other-centeredness, clarity presenting
  • Planning Action
  • application, oversight/accountability,

Some Assumptions in Counseling
  • Sinfulness is assumed (gtgtgt brokenness)
  • Distinguish between ultimate and penultimate
  • Repentance (change) is required when dealing with
    issues of personal sin
  • Not all problems demand repentance as the central
    focus (support/encouragement)
  • Restoration is not always possible

Context for Effective Counseling
  • Safe environment - safe, holding environment
  • Comfortable - lighting air furniture tissues
  • Confidentiality - white noise not alone
  • Non-distracting Clock(s)
  • Furniture Arrangement - extra chairs couch
  • Forms Record-keeping
  • Lending Library
  • Referral Network in place

9 Things To Remember About The Counselee
  • Acknowledge hurdles many overcame just to contact
    you for help (self-image issues)
  • Recognize risks exposure (vulnerability)
  • Each seeks, needs, a place of security safety
    (Is. 421-4)
  • Recognize that some, if not most, do not want to
    be there
  • Be aware of the tension between request for help
    refusal of it

9 Things To Remember, continued
  • Each comes with ideas, assumptions,
    expectations that need to be explored (pastor as
    mind-reader, fix-it person, condoner of sin,
  • The 1-to-1 relationship and total privacy may
    stir up intense and disturbing fantasy
    perception formations
  • Gender issues warrant consideration
  • Clear boundaries are essential. The counselor
    bears final responsibility for establishing,
    maintaining, rectifying appropriate boundaries.

Assessment in Counseling with Adults 1
  • Basic anxiety neuroses (disorder in how one
    thinks about oneself and ones life)
  • Depression
  • Psychotic (inability to distinguish reality from
    fantasy impaired reality testing)
  • Neurological (organic mental disorder, mental
    retardation Alzheimers etc.)

Assessment 1
  • Spiritual the heart
  • Psychological (mental, emotional, social)
  • Medical
  • Combination of the above

Assessment 2
  • Distinguish between

Assessment 3
  • CONTENT laundry list of items or
  • PROCESS the dynamics of the major
    issues the source of the laundry list
  • Need to focus on both especially process.

The Phases of Counseling
  • Beginning
  • Middle
  • Ending

The Phases of Counseling 2
  • Beginning joining establishing rapport
  • Practice how you begin!!
  • Middle changing ebb flow of progress
  • Ending consolidating changes blessing

Assessment The Magic ???s 1
  • These questions are magic in the sense that
    they provide focus and perspective on almost any
    situation, enabling one to know at least
    something about how to deal with it.
  • John Patton, Pastoral Counseling A Ministry of
    the Church. Nashville Abingdon, 1983, 90.
  • Question 1 - What are you looking for?
  • Focus communicates its their responsibility
  • Perspective helps identify their needs

Assessment The Magic ???s 2
  • Question 2 - Why now?
  • Focus identifies the urgency
  • Perspective sense of hopefulness/possibility
  • Things have changed and, thus, can change again

Assessment The Magic ???s 3
  • Question 3 - Why me and this place?
  • Focus acknowledges the importance of the
  • Perspective identifies unrealistic expectations

Assessment The Magic ???s 4
  • Question 4 - What hurts?
  • Focus the persons problem or concern
  • Perspective listening stance

How You Begin May Determine the Outcome
Supportive Counseling 1
  • The sustaining function of the cure of souls in
    our day continues to be a crucially important
    helping ministry . . . .
  • William A Clebsch Charles R. Jaekle, Pastoral
    Care in Historical Perspective (Englewood Cliffs,
    NJ Prentice-Hall, 1964), 80, emphasis added.

Supportive Counseling 2
  • In supportive care and counseling, the pastor
    uses methods that stabilize, undergird, nurture,
    motivate, or guide troubled personsenabling them
    to handle their problems and relationships more
    constructively . . . .
  • Howard Clinebell, Basic Types, rev. ed.
    (Nashville, TN Abingdon, 1984), 170.

Supportive Counseling 3
  • Supportive counseling is the primary approach
    used in crisis intervention and in bereavement
    (grief) counseling.
  • A dependable, nurturing relationship (Oates
    relationship of trusted motive) is at the heart
    of the process.
  • Danger development of unconstructive

Supportive Counseling 4
  • Types of counselor responses/interventions
  • Evaluative - judgment of behaviors, actions,
  • Interpretive - informing teaching
  • Supportive - reassurance to reduce anxiety
  • Probing - gather more data questions
  • Understanding - communicate empathy reassurance
  • Advising - recommendations suggestions

Never Underestimate the Effectiveness of . . .
  • the Ministry of Listening

Transference Dont I Know You??
  • Transference the phenomenon of reacting to a
    person as if he/she is another person from ones
    past. A distorted and inappropriate response
    derived from unresolved unconscious conflicts in
    a persons past.
  • (See Richard S. Schwartz, A Psychiatrists View
    of Transference Countertransference in the
    Pastoral Relationship in Journal of Pastoral
    Care 43 (1), Spring 1989, 41-42.)

Transference Countertransference
  • Transference refers to thoughts, feelings,
    attitudes, behaviors of the counselee toward
    the counselor or of the parishioner toward the
  • Countertransference refers to the same process in
    reverse the pastors thoughts, feelings, etc.
    toward the parishioner.

  • Three people stuck in repetitive, malicious
    patterns of interaction. Issue 2 ?
  • Luke 1213-21
  • Teacher, tell my brother to divide the
    inheritance with me. (13)
  • Common triangles encountered in ministry
    couples, parents children, church group
    conflict, issues, etc.

Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Purposes of PM Counseling
  • Education
  • Exploration
  • Establish pastoral relationship of trusted motive
    for future
  • Plan the wedding (worship) service

Pre-Marital Counseling 2
  • Recommend multiple sessions
  • Explore families-of-origin (gives perspective of
    future dynamics of couple)
  • Genogram, Taylor-Johnson Temperament,
    Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, PAI (Premarriage
    Awareness Inventory), SAI (Sex Awareness
    Inventory), PREPARE/ENRICH (Life Innovations,
    Inc.), etc.
  • Contract for post-marital session(s) - in home

The Genogram What Is It?
A Genogram Whose Is It?
Supervision, Consultation, Referral
  • Supervision - too many Know-it-alls
  • Consultation - too many Lone Rangers
  • Referral - the ministry of introduction

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Certifying Organizations
  • AAMFT - American Assoc. of Marriage Family
  • AACC - American Association of Christian
  • AAPC - American Association of Pastoral
  • IABC - International Association of Biblical
  • NANC - National Association of Nouthetic
  • ACPE - Association for Clinical Pastoral
    Education, Inc.

Lay Counseling Training
  • Stephen Ministries
  • Developing the Caring Community Alban Institute
    (10 week course)
  • Communication (Listening) Skills
  • Grief Training - H. Norman Wright Crisis
    Care Video Series

Biblical Counseling Model (Crabb)
  • ID problem feelings
  • ID problem behaviors
  • ID problem thinking
  • Substitute Biblical Assumptions
  • Affirm Spirit-feelings
  • Plan carry out Biblical behavior
  • Secure commitment to Biblical behavior
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