How to raise happy kids

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How to raise happy kids!
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How to raise happy kids!

• A Contest of PHILOSOPHIES
• Between
• HUMANISM (Dr. Wayne Dyer)
• And
• THE BIBLE (Their Creator)

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How to raise happy kids!

• HOW TO RAISE HAPPY KIDS
• An invaluable Guide From the Man Whos Helped
  Millions!DR. WAYNE W. DYER
• What Do You Really Want For Your Children?
• MANY USEFUL STRATEGIES PARENTS CAN USE TO HELP
  THEIR CHILD San Francisco Chronicle

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How to raise happy kids!
Children, obey your parents in the Lord for
this is right. Honour thy father and mother
(which is the first commandment with promise)
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest
live long on the earth. -Ephesians
61-3 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!What Do you Really Want
for Your Children?

• I want my children to be happy, and free from
  hang-ups in life.

I have no greater joy than to hear that my
children walk in truth. 3 John 4 KJV

• I want them to feel successful and
  significant as people regardless of what they do.

• I want them to have positive feelings about
  themselves and about life.

• I want them to have a strong sense of inner
  peace that will sustain them through difficult
  times.

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How to Raise Happy Kids!What Do you Really Want
for Your Children?

• All parents have the same dream for their
  children that they grow up happy, healthy,
  self-reliant, and confident in themselves and
  their abilities.
• Now Dr. Wayne W. Dyer uses the same dynamic
  techniques that fired his previous
  multimillion-copy best sellers to show us how to
  make those special dreams for our kids come true.
  
• Here is straightforward, commonsense advice about
  raising children of all ages which no parent can
  afford to be without
• - Dr. Dyer, Back Cover

And that from a child thou hast known the holy
scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto
salvation through faith which is in Christ
Jesus. All scripture is given by inspiration of
God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof,
for correction, for instruction in
righteousness That the man of God may be
perfect, throughly furnished unto all good
works. - 2 Tim 315-17
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How to Raise Happy Kids!What Do you Want More
than Anything for Your Children?

• After reviewing your objectives for your
  children and considering all the possibilities of
  things you might provide for them, it almost
  always boils down to this one wish I would love
  for my children to always have the ability to
  enjoy life.
• The truest definition that I know of a no-limit
  person is simply a person who knows how to enjoy
  life, especially when those around him are going
  mad.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 30

And I will say to my soul, Soul, thou hast much
goods laid up for many years take thine ease,
eat, drink, and be merry. But God said unto him,
Thou fool, this night thy soul shall be required
of thee then whose shall those things be, which
thou hast provided? So is he that layeth up
treasure for himself, and is not rich toward
God. - Luke 1219-21
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How to Raise Happy Kids!What Do you Want More
than Anything for Your Children?

• The importance of a positive self-image cannot
  be over stressed. It is not an accident that the
  subject of self-image is presented in the opening
  pages of this book. It is the single most
  significant attribute of a no-limit person.
• When a child grows up to be self-confident, to
  have high self-esteem, and to respect himself,
  there are literally no obstacles to his total
  fulfillment as a human being.
• Once a strong self-portrait is in place, the
  opinions of others will never be able to
  immobilize your child.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 44

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit but
in humility regard others better than
yourselves. - Philippians 23 NRSV For
whosoever exalteth himself shall be abased and
he that humbleth himself shall be exalted. -
Luke 1411 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Value Themselves
And he said, That which cometh out of the man,
that defileth the man. For from within, out of
the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts,
adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts,
covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness,
and evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness All
these things come from within and defile the
man. - Mark 720-23

• Always focus your criticism on a childs
  behavior instead of his value as a human being.
  The simple statement, You are a bad boy! is an
  attack on a childs worth.
• The effective statement You have behaved badly
  puts the focus on behavior which can be adjusted
  children should never believe that they are
  inherently bad.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 62

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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Value Themselves

• Parents who push their children into thinking
  and believing as the parents do, and pursuing the
  goals that the parents have set for them, are
  encouraging the children to doubt their own
  choices and inner signals. Self-doubt creates a
  lack of self-confidence.
• The healthiest thing you can do for your children
  is to give them some guidelines on their choices
  but always convey that you personally will not be
  upset or in any way immobilized by the choice
  that they make.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 68

And these words, which I command thee this day,
shall be in thine heart And thou shalt teach
them diligently unto thy children
-Deuteronomy 66-9 KJV Foolishness is bound in
the heart of a child but the rod of correction
shall drive it far from him. -Prov 2215 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Be Risk Takers

• Make an effort to have children visit as many
  different places of worship as possible. Expose
  them early to the great ideas of religious
  thinkers from around the world and throughout
  humanity. No one ought to have a monopoly on
  religious thinking and behavior. Obeying the
  commandments that are practiced by Christians
  need not conflict with learning the teachings of
  Buddha or Confucius or Mohammed or Moses. Young
  people need to be exposed to all religious ideas
  and then encouraged to make up their minds about
  what particular institution they will join, or
  even if they want to belong to any one particular
  sect.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 97

Neither is there salvation in any other for
there is none other name under heaven given among
men, whereby we must be saved.
- Acts 412 KJV I marvel that ye are so
soon removed from him that called you into the
grace of Christ unto another gospel Which is not
another but there be some that trouble you, and
would pervert the gospel of Christ. But though
we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other
gospel unto you than that which we have preached
unto you, let him be accursed. - Galatians
16-8 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Be Risk Takers

• We want children to think for themselves, to
  behave toward others based upon an ethical set of
  principles that they carry with them. Remember
  the admonition from the Bible, The kingdom of
  Heaven is within. If they are restricted in
  their religious thinking, and so conditioned to
  believe that they will only get into heaven if
  they join the Baptist, or Catholic, or Moslem
  institution, then you are going against the basic
  principle of an internal kingdom of heaven.
  Encourage them to determine their own ethical
  thought processes, rather than making robots of
  them by having them believe only as you and your
  family have for generations.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 97

Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there!
for, behold, the kingdom of God is within
you. (among you margin) Luke 1721
KJV Nor will they say, 'Lo, here it is!' or
'There!' for behold, the kingdom of God is in the
midst of you." Luke 1721 RSV
There is no internal kingdom of heaven. The
idea is false.
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Be Risk Takers

• Self-reliance, when fostered within a child for
  a lifetime, encourages risk-taking rather than
  fearing it, and creates a kind of inner security
  which tells the child realistically that if I am
  going to get where I want to be in life, I cant
  rely on anyone but myself in order to make it
  happen, since I am the only person that I am
  absolutely certain will be with me at all times,
  whenever these problems in life crop up. If I am
  all Ive got, then I want to be certain that I
  can call upon me at any time. This is the
  essence of becoming a risk-taker.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 86

Let your conversation be without covetousness,
and be content with such things as ye have, for
he hath said, I will never leave you nor forsake
you. So that we may boldly say, the Lord is my
helper, and I will not fear what man shall do
unto me. - Hebrews 135,6
KJV Trust in the LORD with all thine heart and
lean not unto thine own understanding. In all
thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy
paths - Proverbs 35,6 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Be Free From Stress and Anxiety

• Guilt is the weapon of the weak. It is used
  exclusively as a manipulator. Its purpose is to
  get others to live their lives as we feel that
  they should, or to feel badly about how they have
  behaved in the past so that we can control them
  now and in the future. Avoid any discipline
  technique which has internal pain and anguish of
  children as its major purpose. A guilty child is
  a manipulated child who soon learns to abandon
  his own inner voice in favor of doing what he is
  supposed to do to make sure that you do not feel
  bad.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 152

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be
joyous but grievous nevertheless afterward it
yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness
unto them which are exercised thereby.
- Hebrews 1211 KJV Blessed is he whose
transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
I acknowledged my sin unto thee and mine iniquity
have I not hid. I said, I will confess my
transgressions unto the LORD and thou forgavest
the iniquity of my sin. - Psalm 321,5 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Have Peaceful Lives

• There is one higher level that people who aspire
  to no-limit living endorse when it comes to this
  business of anger. Expressing the anger you
  experience in a way that is not harmful or
  inconvenient to anyone else is healthier than
  storing it away for a later explosion. And
  turning the anger to a mobilized outlet rather
  than letting it immobilize is even better. But
  the highest position to get to is to stop having
  the angry thoughts in the first place. Learning
  to accept people who are different is far
  superior to being mad at them for being the way
  they are.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 207

God is angry with the wicked every day.
- Psalm 711 KJV And when he
had looked round about on them with anger, being
grieved for the hardness of their hearts, he
saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand.
And he stretched it out and his hand was
restored whole as the other. -
Mark 35 KJV Be angry and sin not let not the
sun go down upon your wrath. -
Ephesians 426 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Have Peaceful Lives

• Children who have discipline imposed upon them
  by their parents experience the same dilemma.
  Why and when should they behave? Strictly,
  adult-imposed discipline gives children no reason
  to develop self-discipline. Then when you leave
  town for a week-end, you will find that they will
  go wild. As long as you are around they will
  behave, but do not take your eyes off them for a
  moment or you will have chaos.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 209

Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child
but the rod of correction shall drive it far from
him. - Proverbs 2215 My
son, despise not the chastening of the LORD
neither be weary of his correction For whom the
LORD loveth he correcteth even as a father the
son in whom he delighteth. -
Proverbs 311,12
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Have Peaceful Lives

• I do not believe in beating children and
  administering pain as a means of punishment, yet
  I know that many of you do. To me corporal
  punishment has no place in raising no-limit
  children period. If you feel however, that you
  must administer regular spankings, or even
  bearings, I suggest before you proceed that you
  answer two questions honestly.
• Whose needs am I serving? That is, are you in
  fact serving your own needs to be all-powerful,
  to show that you are bigger and stronger, or even
  to receive some pleasure from dishing out
  corporal punishment to smaller people?
• Am I administering this beating to help them to
  change or simply to administer pain? When used
  routinely, beatings do not help people to
  change.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 223

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not
thy soul spare for his crying. - Proverbs
1918 Withhold not correction from the child
for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall
not die Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and
shalt deliver his soul from hell. - Proverbs
2213,14 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a
child left to himself bringeth his mother to
shame. - Proverbs 2915 He that spareth his rod
hateth his son but he that loveth him chasteneth
him betimes. - Proverbs 1324
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Fulfill Their Higher Needs and to Feel a Sense of
Purpose

• This is one of the most difficult areas to write
  about, and yet it is crucial that you understand
  what I am saying right here in these sentences
  you are now reading. A sense of purpose is not
  something that you find, it is something that you
  are. Truth is not something that you look for
  it is something that you live.
• Finally the higher need of spiritual awakening
  will fit into their lives in the same manner.
  Again, this is a matter of being spiritual,
  rather than attempting to attain spiritual
  awakening through a certain religious
  orientation, belonging to a particular church or
  practicing religious beliefs imposed by someone
  else. Attaining spiritual awakening means being
  willing to be spiritual, rather than asking for
  guidance from above.
• - Dr. Dyer, Pg. 362

My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide
my commandments with thee that thou incline
thine ear unto wiSo sdom, and apply thine heart
to understanding Yea, if thou criest after
knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for
understanding If thou seekest her as silver and
searchest for her as for hid treasures Then thou
shalt understand the fear of the LORD, and find
the knowledge of God.
- Proverbs 21-5 KJV But if I tarry long, that
thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave
thyself in the house of God, which is the church
of the living God, the pillar and ground of the
truth. -1 Tim
315 KJV
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How to Raise Happy Kids!I Want My Children to
Remain in Gods Favor
He that overcometh shall inherit all things and
I will be his God, and he shall be my
son. Revelation 217 KJV

• - Dr. Dyer, Pg.