Expanding the Space Between Reflective Pauses To Deepen Integration IAF Baltimore 2006 Lawrence E Ph

1
Expanding the Space Between Reflective Pauses
To Deepen IntegrationIAF Baltimore
2006Lawrence E Philbrook
2

• Conversation Moments of Silence and Awareness
• in the midst of facilitation
• Presentation Reflective Pauses in Facilitation
• Self and Group, Interactive
• Options
• Haiku Poetry
• Mindfulness Walk
• Affirmative Reflection
• Life Charting
• Dialogue Leading from Stillness and Profound
  Respect
• Design Applications and Q A

3
INSIGHTS ON LIFE

• Purpose Question - What brings meaning to your
  life and fills you with confidence and joy?
• Generative Questions - Questions which
  cause/enables another (or oneself) to create new
  experience (from a book called "Narrative
  Therapy.")  e.g.  At that time when you greatly
  resented your mother, what was life like for
  her?  When in your life did you first begin to
  experience this compulsion? (A friend asked me
  this about my compulsion to be on time).Zen
  meditation - Everything which comes to your mind
  is a thought form.  Learning to quiet one's mind
  has to do with noticing, then (if needed)
  re-labeling it as a thought form and letting it
  go.Being in the moment -  There is no reality
  other this one, this moment, this conversation,
  this place.  The past is your creation (sometimes
  with help from others), the future is totally a
  fabrication of what might be, more often of sheer
  desireAddiction to interpretation If things
  come out the way I want them to, they're good. 
  If they don't, they're bad.  When, in fact,
  things just come out the way they come out.  Life
  is a series of requests and promises...Having
  an Impossible Task is necessary for any
  intentional human being to be on course that's
  how the course direction gets created.  And of
  course, you just make it up...Your body will
  tell you everything you need to know if you
  listen to it.Everyone heals themselves.  Others
  may help some by asking you helpful questions,
  but finally you heal yourself (or not).Growing
  Yourself Back Up by John Lee --  Every time I
  criticize, preach, or suggest I know another's
  motives, I (by definition) am regressing back to
  an earlier time in my life, rather than living in
  the moment as a mature adult.  It is possible to
  identify those regressions and clear them.
• Every group is self-organizing.  Open Space just
  is...  What difference would it make if I lived
  my life out of that understanding... not allowing
  my space to be closed down or others to try to
  organize me around their own neuroses (as we used
  to call them)...I/You/We grounded group process
  comes through grounded individual process.

4
The WholePerson Paradigm
To Learn Mind
Intelligence IQ
Spirit
SQ
Heart Relationships
Body To Live
EQ Emotion
PQ Physical
Steven R. Covey
5
Developing the Four Intelligences/Capacities

• Four simple assumptions for a better life
• Body Assume you have had a heart attack
• Mind Assume everyone and every situation is a
  learning opportunity
• Heart Assume you have nothing to defend
• Spirit Assume that you have a one-on- one visit
  with your creator

6
IQEQSQ-EGO what shows up in a human being!

• Ricardo Semler says, For decades, IQ has created
  an artificial (and loaded) baseline for
  intelligence and capability. More recently,
  evaluating EQ, or the emotional content of
  intelligence, has become popular. Now SQ, or
  spiritual quotient, has been added to the
  equation. I mix the three together, and then
  subtract ego (I know Id be in trouble with
  psychologists because ego includes most of the
  above, but I need a bit of poetic license for
  this home-grown theory).
• Why are we able to answer e-mails on Sundays,
  but unable to go to the movies on Monday
  afternoons?
• Why cant we take the kids to work if we can
  take work home?
• Why do we think the opposite of work is leisure,
  when in fact it is
• idleness?

7
Practices to Nurture Spiritual Wellness

• Centering Retreat, a time of solitude
• Emptying Process of letting go and cleansing
• Grounding Time to access intuition,
  imagination, intellect
• Connecting Reaching out, sharing true self
  with others, being supported supporting,
  serving

8
(No Transcript)
9
A few words to reflect on

• Experience is not what happens to people it is
  what people do with what happened to them.
  Aldous Huxley (with liberties)
• We do not learn from doing, we learn from
  thinking about what we do. Northwest
  Service Academy
• Peace It does not mean to be in a place where
  there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means
  to be in the midst of those things and still be
  calm in your heart. Unknown

10
Haiku
A haiku is a Japanese poem with three lines.
Haikus are probably the shortest poetic forms in
the world.
Each line of a haiku has a certain number of
syllables.
The first line of a haiku contains five syllables.
The second line of a haiku contains seven
syllables.
The third line of a haiku contains five
syllables.
The topic of a haiku poem usually deals with
nature.
The leaves fell slowly
To the unforgiving ground.
Too soon - summers gone!
11
WALKING MEDITATION A form of meditation in
action

• In walking meditation we use the experience of
  walking as our focus. We become mindful of our
  experience while walking, and try to keep our
  awareness involved with the experience of
  walking.
• Obviously, there are some differences between
  walking meditation and sitting meditation. For
  one thing we keep our eyes open during walking
  meditation! We are not withdrawing our attention
  from the outside world to the same extent that
  you might in mindful breathing. You have to be
  aware of things outside (objects you might trip
  over, other people that we might walk into) and
  there are many other things outside of ourselves
  that we will be more aware of than when we are
  doing sitting.
• But one of the biggest differences is that it's
  easier, for most people, to be more intensely and
  more easily aware of their bodies while doing
  walking meditation, compared to sitting forms of
  practice. When your body is in motion, it is
  generally easier to be aware of it compared to
  when you are sitting still. This can make walking
  meditation an intense experience. You can
  experience your body very intensely, and you can
  also find intense enjoyment from this practice.
• The "stages" of walking meditation
• There is a logical sequence to the practice, and
  this sequence is rooted in a traditional
  formulation called "the four bases of
  mindfulness." These are four levels of
  experience in which we can anchor our minds to
  prevent them from being fragmented and strewn
  around like leaves torn from a tree in an autumn
  gale.
• These bases are
• our physical sensations
• our feelings
• our mental and emotional states
• objects of consciousness
• So, as you begin to walk notice how the 4 stages
  appear to you. Then let them go and bring
  attention back to your walking .

12
INTRODUCTION TO DIALOGUE ICA Taiwan

Year
13
INTRODUCTION TO DIALOGUE ICA Taiwan

Year
14
AFFIRMATION EXERCISE 1. Divide the group into
triads (3 people each) with people who know each
other well or have worked together. The three
sit close together facing each other. 2.
Designate one person in each triad as the
Receiver, the other two are Senders. 3. Senders
alternate one after the other in telling the
Receiver what they appreciate or like about her/
him. Say the Receiver's name each time.
Continue this for 5 minutes. "Mary, what I
appreciate about you is ......." 4. The Receiver
makes no response, says nothing, just receives
the affirmation. 5. After 5 minutes, the
Receiver becomes the Sender and one of the
Senders becomes the Receiver. 6. This process
continues until each of the three persons in the
triad have been Receivers. REFLECTION AT THE
END OF THE EXERCISE (With the whole group)
Where were you surprised during the exercise?
Something you didn't expect? Nicest thing
some said about you? What was hardest for
you? What was easiest? How did your feelings
change over the 5 minutes of being a Receiver?
Sender? Who else might you include in this
exercise? What would happen in your
organization or family if everyone did this
regularly? What would help you do this
regularly?
15
Introducing the Facilitator
Lawrence Philbrook CPF

• Lawrence Philbrook has been designing processes
  for teams and leaders in varied cultural settings
  for over twenty years. Lawrence joined the
  Institute of Cultural Affairs (ICA) in 1972 and
  has worked outside the US since 1977 doing
  extensive company and community-based projects in
  over 20 nations. For the past 15 years he has
  been the director of ICA Taiwan while working
  across Asia.
• After leaving the US, his first ten years focused
  on initiating effective development partnerships
  with rural communities in Africa and Asia.
  Beginning in 1985 Mr. Philbrook began
  facilitating private sector groups developing
  leadership and ongoing organizational change.
• His key skill is in design and facilitation of
  processes which recover a sense of respect and
  trust as a basis for establishing organizations
  that can learn and change. His clients have
  included more than 50 multinational organizations
  as well as local companies and government
  organizations. Current clients are primarily in
  Greater China and Japan.