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Title: Friendships, relationships, intimacy Sexual lives and orientations


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Friendships, relationships, intimacySexual lives
and orientations
  • Myths and stereotypes

2
Same-sex friendships
  • Stereotype
  • The friendships between men are stronger and
    deeper than those between women.
  • Media examples?
  • Men tend to report lower needs for affiliation
    (Mazur, 1989)

3
  • Men report more friendships than women, but they
    are less close and less intimate
  • Role of self-disclosure
  • Gender is related to self-disclosure- women tend
    to disclose more and be the recipient of
    disclosure more
  • Gay men- reported more self-disclosures (to men)
    than heterosexual men (Bliss, 2000)

4
  • Values in friendships
  • Women talking and sharing emotions
  • Men shared activities, external world
  • Reports of subjective satisfaction tend to be the
    same

5
  • Important components
  • Males expression of control
  • Females expression of affection
  • Males more goal, instrumental-oriented
  • Females more expressive, emotion-oriented

6
Some important variables
  • Age 56 and older
  • men and women both less likely to be
    confrontational in friendships- mens
    relationships still focus on activities and work
  • Gender role and sexuality

7
Other sex friendships
  • The sex of other-sex friendships
  • Seems to be stronger among men than women
  • Abbey (1982)-m-f pairs in 5-minute conversation-
    and observers
  • Rated on traits and sexual attraction

8
Main findings
  • Male actors and observers rated female
    friendliness as a cue of sexual interest
  • Males were more attracted to
  • Male observers also rated the male actors as more
    sexual
  • Cross-sex friendships as less satisfactory (Mc
    Williams Harber, 1993)

9
Sexuality, intimacy, and romantic relationships
10
Women need a reason to have sex
  • Men just need a place.
  • Billy Crystal

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The double standard
  • Two different standards of sexual behavior, one
    for women and one for men

12
The myth of the vaginal orgasm
  • Females can experience 2 kinds of orgasm
  • Clitoral and vaginal
  • Freud
  • Masters and Johnson research

13
Peplau (2003)
  • 4 areas of difference between men and women
  • Sexual desire
  • Context for sexuality
  • Aggression and sexuality
  • Fluidity of sexuality

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Sexual desire
  • Would you go to bed with me?
  • (Clark Hatfield, 1989)

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Sexual desire (contd)
  • SEX DRIVE
  • Men think more about sex
  • Have more sexual fantasies
  • Masturbate more
  • More willing to initiate sex
  • More willing to make sacrifices for sex

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  • Frequency versus type of activity
  • Love and intimacy versus sexually arousing
  • No differences in frequency of fantasy
  • -men more urges and masturbatory fantasies

17
Context for Sexuality
  • Committed relationships
  • Attitudes toward casual sex
  • What are your motives?
  • Love and commitment
  • Physical needs and pleasure

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Fluidity and change
  • attitude-behavior consistency
  • Women more variable in frequency
  • Men more consistent
  • More changes in women- lesbian to hetero and
    v.v.
  • Education and homosexuality

19
Sexual Activity
  • Much information comes from self-reports elicited
    through surveys
  • First time intercourse- hetero
  • Most surveys find discrepancies between male and
    female reports

20
Homosexual activity
  • Like with heterosexual reports, males tend to
    report more activity

21
Across the Life Span
  • Women are much more likely to report increases
    from young adulthood to older age in frequency,
    pleasure and satisfaction
  • The influences of social beliefs on experiences
    of sexuality

22
Responses to Erotica
  • Belief that men are more frequently and more
    easily aroused by erotic material
  • most material that is arousing is meant for the
    male eye
  • Women as idealized and belittled

23
  • Studies suggest that women are as physically
    aroused to x-rated films and videos
  • However, women are less likely to seek these
    materials out

24
Couple relationships
  • Choosing a partner
  • Hetero women and men are drawn to physically
    attractive partners
  • Buss work
  • the drive to get married

25
Marriage
  • The loving relationship is now a legal and
    economic contract
  • There are legal rights and responsibilities as
    determined by the government

26
Nontraditional families
  • house-husbands
  • Majority not by choice, but rather necessity
  • Not all families based on hetero concept
  • Not a single study exists that children of
    lesbian and gay families are disadvantaged
    (Patterson, 1992 Tasker Golombok, 1995)

27
Same Sex Marriage
  • The Civil Marriage Act
  • BILL C-38

28
  • Stereotype nice guys finish last

29
  • Jensen-Campbell et al. (1995)
  • Role of dominance in sexual attraction of men to
    women
  • Sadalla et al (1987)- dominant behavior increased
    womens sexual attraction

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  • Dominance is complex
  • Expression of agentic behavior
  • This might be attractive to women-
  • Might be moderated by content of the agency
  • Agency cooperative/altruistic tendencies
  • Agency- competitive/selfish tendencies
  • Main findings

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  • Communication
  • Women disclose more
  • Mixed-sex couples- women provide more support to
    male speakers than vice versa
  • Women use nonverbal communication

32
  • Permanence/Stability
  • Men may be more devastated after breakup of an
    intimate relationship than women

33
  • Relationship quality and satisfaction
  • Trust is a variable
  • Poor relationship quality
  • arguing about money, intrusion of work into
    relationship, spending much time apart, and
    non-monogamy
  • Similar for homosexual relationships

34
  • Marital satisfaction
  • Men are more likely to be satisfied
  • Men and women emphasize different things
  • satisfaction and perceived equity

35
Sexual orientation
36
The problem with definition
  • Lack of conceptual agreement
  • Personal labeling
  • The implicit link between gender and sexual
    orientation

37
Assumptions narrow the approach
  • each category as discrete and to look for a
    single cause of each
  • Belief that orientation is set early on in life
  • Heterosexuality as the natural state

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Biology
  • Hormones
  • CAH girls most are hetero although some
    homosexual
  • Genetics brothers of gay males
  • Transsexuals not inter-sexed and normally
    sexually differentiated
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