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Title: Growing Great Girls

Growing Great Girls
  • This workshop is a REPEAT
  • of this mornings session.

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  • You Cant Paint the Walls Pink and Call it a
    Girls Program

Girls Psychology - Carol Gilligan
  • Girls experience a psychic split
  • They need to connect the inner and outer
  • Women socialized to be self-less

Girls Psychology
  • Girls need to silence the false feminine voice
    and speak for themselves- sacrifice of self
  • Boys a process of separation - Soldiers
  • Girls a process of dissociation
  • Premium on physical appearance and relationship

  • Speaking is relational connected to being heard
  • Girls have difficulty hearing their voice
  • Girls often use voice to cover instead of convey

  • We experience the world differently
  • Gender matters
  • Intersections
  • Dynamics of Oppression global dynamics
    objectification of women
  • Polygamy case in Texas
  • Reach potential

Gender Responsive Services
  • Designed to meet the unique needs of girls and
    takes into account female development and the
    female perspective
  • Celebrates Girlhood
  • Helps her find her voice
  • Focuses on gender identity
  • Builds her capacity and expands competency
  • Leads to a process of self-discovery, self
  • Holistic, strength-based, individualized and
  • Reach potential

Holistic Approach
  • Physical
  • Sexual
  • Emotional
  • Relational
  • Intellectual
  • Spiritual

  • Best Practices
  • Gender and Trauma
  • Responsive Services

  • Herstory
  • Context Content of experiences
  • Identify the root causes vs. Symptoms
  • Triggers and self-soothers
  • Alignment - Referral - Diagnosis

Stages of Trauma Recovery
  • 1. Safety
  • Tense Present (potential)
  • Across all domains
  • 2. Remembrance and Mourning
  • Tense Past (pathology)
  • Giving a voice to the unspeakable
  • 3. Reconnection to Ordinary Life
  • Tense Future
  • Healing occurs in the context of relationships
  • Judith Herman, M.D., Trauma and Recovery

Physical Domain
  • Developmentally Body is changing, nutrition,
    health issues, sleep disruption, self-injury,
  • Strategies Restore natural rhythms eating,
    sleeping, exercising
  • Program Ideas Teach them about their bodies,
    cycles, access to health care, physical fitness

Sexual Domain
  • Developmentally Sexual development and identity,
    acting out, pregnancy and STD prevention
  • Strategies Need education about their bodies
  • Program Ideas Connect to a safe place,
    clinically address sexual trauma

Symptoms secondary to sexual trauma
  • Risk-taking behavior
  • Sexual problems / dysfunction
  • Sexual activity triggers memory of trauma
  • Feelings of intolerable coercion during sexual
  • Compulsive sexual behavior
  • Significantly increased risk for rape, sexual
    harassment, battery
  • Confusion with Sexual Orientation

  • 10 of 12 year olds, 40 of 16 year olds and 80
    of 19 year olds have had sex
  • Among girls who had sex before age 13, 22
    reported that first sexual experience was
    non-voluntary and an additional 49 categorized
    it as unwanted
  • 30 of lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents
    attempt suicide

  • Many teens who have been sexually active wish
    they would have waited longer

  • 88 of births by teen women are unintended
  • 34 of young women become pregnant at least once
    prior to age 20
  • About half of teens say they want more
    information about sexual health from their health
    care providers

Sexual Domain Practices
  • Use materials / language that honors all sexual
  • Use materials that assist girls in understanding
    their sexuality and creating / discovering
    guidelines for safe sexual activity
  • A picture of sexual health for girls
  • Offer guidelines for healthy sexual activity
  • Teach them to listen to themselves and their

Emotional Domain
  • Developmentally Resilient, negative,
    manipulative, co-occurring disorders, history of
    trauma, self-medication
  • Strategies Identify triggers and self-soothers,
    build emotional knowledge, increase protective
  • Program Ideas Individual, group, family therapy,
    gender identity life skills curriculum

Intellectual Domain
  • Developmentally Difficulty in school
  • Strategies Education is empowering, young people
    need a voice in the design and evaluation of the
  • Program Ideas Individualize educational plans,
    journal writing, practical applications, youth
    development model, non-stereotyped career

Relational Domain
  • Developmentally Contextual framework, loss of
    permanency, multiple family problems
  • Strategies Creating Safe space
  • Program Ideas Address relational aggression,
    family system approach

Spiritual Domain
  • Developmentally Encourage them think about how
    she is connected to something larger
  • Strategies Foster balance of mind, body,
  • Program Ideas Art as a pathway to spiritual
    health, healing, giving of time and talents,
    teach spiritual tools, story telling

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • Its not the Drama...
  • Its the Trauma!
  • Screen for both Exposure and Symptoms of Trauma
  • -issues of historical trauma

Complex Trauma
  • CT exposure refers to the childs experiences of
    multiple traumatic events that occur within the
    care giving system-the social environment that is
    supposed to be the sources of safety and
    stability in their life.

Complex Trauma Diagnostic Issues
  • The current psychiatric diagnostic classification
    system does not have an adequate category to
    capture the full range of difficulties that
    traumatized children experience
  • Although PTSD diagnosis is often used, it rarely
    captures the extent of the developmental impact
    of multiple and chronic traumatic exposure

Complex Trauma
  • Self-regulatory, attachment anxiety, affective
    disorders in infancy and childhood
  • Addictions, aggression, social helplessness,
    eating disorders
  • Dissociative, somatoform, cardiovascular,
    metabolic, immunological disorders
  • Sexual disorders in adolescence adulthood
  • Vacillating Victim, Victimizer, Re-enactor,

Do No Harm
  • Elimination of Protocols that re-traumatize
  • Forced disrobement, body cavity searches,
    solitary confinement, body wraps,
    institutionalized abuse, etc.


  • You say one for the treble two for the time
  • Come on y'all let's rock this
  • You say one for the treble two for the time
  • Come on

  • Speech is my hammer bang the world into shapeNow
    let it fall...
  • My restlessness is my nemesisIt's hard to really
    chill and sit stillCommitted to page I write a
    rhymeSometimes won't finish for daysScrutinize
    my literature from the large to the miniatureI
    mathematically add-minister

  • Subtract the wackSelector, wheel it back, I'm
    feeling thatFrom the core to the perimeter
    black,You know the mottoStay fluid even in

  • (Mos Def) Full blooded, full throttleBreathe
    deep inside the trunk hollowThere's the hum,
    young man where you fromBrooklyn number
    oneNative son, speaking in the native tongueI
    got my eyes on tomorrow (there it is)While you
    still try to follow where it is
  • I'm on the Ave where it lives and dies

  • Violently, silentlyShine so vibrantly that eyes
    squint to catch a glimpseEmbrace the bass with
    my dark ink fingertipsUsed to speak the king's
    EnglishBut caught a rash on my lipsSo now my
    chat just like dis

  • Long range from the base-line Move like an
    apparitionFloat to the ground with ammunition
    Move from the gate, voice cued on your
    tapePutting food on your plateMany crews can

  • Who choosing your fate We went from picking
    cottonTo chain gang line choppingTo
    Be-BoppingTo Hip-HoppingBlues people got the
    blue chip stock option

  • Invisible man, got the whole world
    watching(where ya at) High, low, east,
    west,All over your mapI'm getting big props,
    with this thing called hip hopWhere you can
    either get paid or get shotWhen your product in
    stockThe fair-weather friends flockWhen your
    chart position dropThen the phone calls....

  • Chill for a minuteLet's see who else topsSnatch
    your shelf spotDon't gas yourself ockThe
    industry just a better built cell blockA long
    way from the shell topsAnd the bells that L
    rocked (rock, rock, rock, rock)

  • Hip Hop is prosecution evidenceThe out of court
    settlementAd space for liquorSick without
    benefits Luxury tenements choking the
    skylineIt's low life getting tree-top high

  • Here there's a back water remedyBitter intent to
    memoryA class E felonyFacing the death penalty
  • Stimulant and sedative, original
    repetitiveViolently competitive, a school

  • The break beats you get broken withon time and
    inappropriateHip Hop went from selling crack to
    smoking itMedicine for lonelinessRemind me of
    Thelonius and DizzyPropers to B-Boys getting
    busyThe war-time snap shotThe working man's

  • A two dollar snack boxSold beneath the crack
    spotOlympic sponsor of the black glockGold
    medalist in the back shotFrom the sovereign
    state of the have-notsWhere farmers have trouble
    with cash crops

  • It's all city like phase twoHip Hop will simply
    amaze youCraze you, pay youDo whatever you say
    doBut black, it can't save you.

Core Values of Growing Great GirlsLife Skills
  • Protect
  • Respect
  • Connect

  • We will protect ourselves and others by creating
    and nurturing powerful boundaries across the six
    developmental domains. We will keep our eyes open
    and fearlessly care for the physical, sexual,
    emotional, relational, intellectual and spiritual
    domains with a priority on safety. We will care
    for one another with compassion, and bold

  • We will respect ourselves and others by honoring
    our individual wisdom and dignity. We will create
    a safe haven built on trust and mutual concern
    where we can open our hearts, listen to one
    anothers story, and be heard. We will believe
    in our unique potential, help each other stand,
    and see that each one of us grows stronger.

  • We come together in a spirit of gratitude to
    connect with ourselves and each another, creating
    bridges that unite us.  We will recognize the
    needs in our community, reach out, and act.  We
    will use our voices to call out to one another
    and confidently move into the future together.

  • Wild Geese
  • by Mary Oliver

  • you do not have to be good.
  • you do not have to walk on your knees for a
    hundred miles through the desert repenting.
  • you only have to let the soft animal of your body
    love what it loves.

  • tell me about your despair, yours, and I will
    tell you mine.
  • meanwhile, the world goes on.
  • meanwhile, the sun and the clear pebbles of rain
    are moving across landscapes, over the prairies
    and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers

  • meanwhile, the wild geese, high in the clear blue
    air are heading home again.
  • whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world
    offers itself to your imagination,

  • calls to you like wild geese,
  • harsh and exciting,
  • over and over,
  • announcing your place in the family of things.
  • the end.

  • denise e. bray, president
  • bray associates, llc
  • 727.365.5641
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