SECRETS EXPOSED

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SECRETS EXPOSED!

• Ingredients to Keep the Professional Woman Sane.
• Pam Schorsch NDCA-2006
• Northland Community and Technical College
• 2022 Central Ave. NE
• East Grand Forks, MN 56721
• [phone]
• pam.schorsch_at_northlandcollege.edu

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Intellectual Survival

• Overcoming the psychological barriers
• More obstacles for women
• Sex biased behaviors
• Intellectual insecurity/inadequacy

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Your Job is Your Job, Not Your Life!

• Yeah-yeaheat right, avoid stress, exercise, be
  flexible, adapt to change, know the office
  culture, continue to learn.
• Can we do it all?

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What do we need?

• A good moisturizer?
• A little black dress?
• The miracle diet?
• Perfect jobschildren...menand salaries?
• Smaller thighs?

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Intellectual Etiquette

• Everyone has the right to be uninterested

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Compassion Fatigue

• Dont be trapped in an unpleasant or boring
  conversation/situation.
• No one has an unconditional claim on your time or
  attention.
• I dont care to talk about this (or to you) any
  further.
• Make the statement matter of fact walk away.

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Everyone has the right not to understand..

• Ask people to repeat or rephrase what is being
  said
• Ask for clarification
• Dont apologize

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Everyone has the right to be uninformed..

• I am not familiar with that. Why dont you
  explain it to me.

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Everyone has the right to make a mistake..

• It is inevitable!
• Find strength in admitting your errors and learn
  from them.

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Everyone has the right to change their mind..

• It is part of the learning process
• Enjoy the discussion phase
• Admit to developing a new position
• Control perfectionism

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Everyone has the right to disagree.

• Break the silence in the face of offensive
  opinions.
• I disagree.
• You can chose to state your case or leave.
• It builds your own self esteem.

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Everyone has the right to their own opinion.

• We all have the right to form opinions based on
  our current level of knowledge.
• Reach an opinion and state it.
• The more you know, the better the chance your
  opinion will be accepted.
• Credibility

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Smart women take some risks

• Dont buy into the notion you have to be colder,
  meaner, or tougher than youd like to in order to
  succeed.
• Being a woman is one of your assets.

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Its OK to have your priorities straight

• Learn your own story and commit to it.
• Use spirit, dedication, and enthusiasm to do your
  best.
• Respect yourself and trust your abilities.
• Ask for what you need.
• Needs verses wants.

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PersonalityAttitude In Action

• Necessary Ingredients
• Be positive and passionate
• Communicate cheerfulness
• Be genuinely interested in others

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Dont try to impress others.

• Let them impress you!
• People hope to be needed, wanted, and
  loved.help create those feelings in others.

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Eliminate self-imposed limitations

• Live up to your potential
• Find mentors
• Be passionate
• Let it go

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Be a squeaky wheel..

• But dont be a jerk!
• Look out for yourself.
• Anger is seldom productive. Humor is more
  effective.
• Relationships endure.
• Listen moretalk less.

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Define Success in Your Terms

• Are you achieving more, but enjoying it less?
• Eliminate the guilt
• Find your meaning and balance

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Trust Yourself
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Resources

• The Reasonable Woman Wendy McElroy
• 9 to 5 Deborah Tannen
• www.employer-employee.com
• Three Black Skirts Anna Johnson
• No More Blue Mondays Robin Sheerer
• www.americanpressinstitute.org