Title: Social Psych 3 Things that make us feel good: ourselves and others
1Social Psych 3Things that make us feel good
ourselves and others
2So much to tell
- Ironic monitor
- Attraction
- Stereotypes
3Re-visiting Persuasion
- Testing the sound quality of stereo headphones
- Vs.
- Listen to a speech advocating tuition increase
- OR
- Listen to a speech advocating tuition decrease
4Influenced by Ourselves
5Influenced by Ourselves
Implications ???
6Movie Clip Sex The City
- Passion w/out intimacy
- Unrealistic optimism
7Compared to other UT students
8Self-Deception?
- 98 high school seniors perceive selves above
average in leadership - 0 rated selves below average on ability to get
along with others - 25 rated selves as top 1
- 90 of adult sample rated selves as above average
drivers - 94 of college profs rated selves as better than
average at their job
9- Distortion
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- OR
- Biased sampling
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10Self-Service
- Overly positive self-evaluations
- Exaggerated perceptions of personal control
- Unrealistic optimism
- Downward social comparisons
11Self-Service I
- Overly positive self-evaluations
- Above-Average 60 believe happier than most
- Overestimate contributions to teamwork
- K.A.T.E. N.
I know youd like to think your dont
stink Roses really smell like poo-poo
12Which is most important?Rank these traits
- Intelligence
- Sense of humor
- Kindness
- Creativity
- Sensitivity
- Industriousness
Is it important for people to be kind, funny,
etc. ?
13How well do they represent you? Rank again
- Intelligence
- Sense of humor
- Kindness
- Creativity
- Sensitivity
- Industriousness
Is creativity your strong suit? Then 1
14How well do they represent you?
- IMPORTANCE
- Intelligence
- Industriousness
- Sense of humor
- Creativity
- Sensitivity
- Kindness
- REPRESENTATIVENESS
- Intelligence
- Industriousness
- Sense of humor
- Creativity
- Sensitivity
- Kindness
Manipulating relative importance boosting our
self-esteem I have whats most important
15Self-serving Biases in Sports Pages Lau
Russell (1980)
- Personal credit for successes
- External forces for failures
- Players, coaches, commentators Our teams
ability vs. their good luck - Also on SATs
16Self-Service II
- Exaggerated perceptions of personal control
- Perceive control in chance situations
- Tossing dice, lucky t-shirts
- Powerball, 1995 pick your own, let computer
pick? - I figure I have a better chance of winning
17Self-Service III
- Unrealistic optimism
- Future oriented hopeful confident of
improvement - More likely than peers to graduate higher in
class, better job, happier marriage, like their
1st job, have gifted child - Fired, divorce, car accident, heart attack,
depression (Weinstein, 1980)
18Self Service IV
- Social comparisons
- Festinger, 1954 fundamental drive to evaluate
opinions and abilities AND, do so by comparing
ourselves to others - WHEN?
- Ambiguity
- WHY?
- Accuracy and Enhancement
19Comparing to Feel Good
- Downward social Comparisons
- w/others who are less successful, happy, or
fortunate - Uplifts our mood and improves outlook for future
- Life could be worse
- Older woman w/ breast cancer
- The people I really feel bad for are these
young gals. To lose a breast when youre so young
must be awful - Young girl
- If I hadnt been married, this thing would have
been really gotten to me
20Do we turn to others to determine something as
personal and subjective as our own emotions?
- Ps given injection
- Epinephrine-informed
- Epinephrine-uninformed
- Placebo
- Waited with confederate who took same injection
- angry or happy
- Are they influenced by social cues?
21Paradoxical Enhancement
- Self-Handicapping
- PPL worry they wont live up to expectations
deliberately set up for failure to lower
expectations - Drinking, drugs, not practicing
- Stress, physical symptoms
- Sandbagging for all to hear
- Saving face AND extra credit
22Berglas Jones (1978)
- Experiment on effects of drugs on intellectual
performance - All Ps told did well BUT 1 group had insolvable
problems - Given choice of Actavil (improvement drug) or
Pandocrin (impairment drug) before next test - Ps from insolvable group more likely to choose
Pandocrin. - convenient excuse for failure on the second test
23DISCUSSION
- Are positive illusions a sign of well-being or
symptoms of a larger problem?
24Highly adaptive?
- Happier
- More caring
- More productive
- PPL who are depressed or have low SE have more
realistic views of themselves than those who are
better adjusted
25PRO vs. CON
- Depressed PPL
- Self appraisals match those of neutral observers
- Make fewer self-serving attributions
- Less likely to exaggerate control over
uncontrollable events - More balanced predictions about their future
- Positive illusions lead to chronic self-defeating
behavior - Escaping from self-awareness
- Self-handicapping to underachievement
- Deny health related problems until too late
- Rely on illusion of control for protection
26Determinants of Attraction and Friendships
27Determinants of Attraction
- Here and Now
- Situation (propinquity, repeated exposure)
- Individual attributes (attractiveness,
similarity) - Behavior (conveying liking, clumsiness)
28Predicting the Success of Dating Shows
- Getting acquainted in real-life settings
(Sprecher Duck, 1994) - Random pairing of Ms Fs on get-acquainted
date - Questionnaires
- Physical attractiveness
- Similarity
- Quality of conversation
- Friendship vs. (romantic) dating attraction
- M- similarity then attractiveness
- F- Quality of communication then similarity
29How Does It Feel to See a Perfect 10?
30What is Good is Beautiful?
- Attractive people are judged to be smart, happy,
well-adjusted, socially skilled, confident, and
assertive -- AND vain. - Stereotype?
- Good-looking people do have more friends, better
social skills, and a more active sex life. - But beauty is not related to objective measures
of intelligence, personality, adjustment, or
self-esteem
31Winning friends by being critical, and clumsy
- You look nice from doting husband vs. bystander
at a party same compliment becomes new and
exciting - Very attractive superstar does something
embarrassing - Their pratfall boosts rating even higher
32Gain/Loss
- P talks with partner
- P eavesdrops on conversation btw. partner
experimenter (evaluating P) - 7 times hears appraisal by confederate
- All positive
- 3 neg, 1 neutral, 3 pos
- 3 pos, 1 neutral, 3 neg
- All negative
- How do you (P) really like this person?
33Winning friends by being critical
- 6.42
- - - 0 7.67
- 0 - - - .87
- - - - - - - - 2.52
- Working to gain approval?
- Deficit Idea?
- Discernment/ credibility?
34Winning friends by being clumsy College Bowl
Quiz team try-outs
- Average person gets 30 right
- Interview shows avg. credentials (ran for office,
proofreader of yearbook, tried out for team)
- Superstar gets 92 right on difficult test
- Interview shows high credentials (yearbook
editor, president, captain)
- Interview ends (no pratfall)
- OR
- Loud crash with coffee spill (pratfall)
35Clumsiness Humanizes
- No Pratfall Pratfall
- Superstar 20.8 30.2
- Average 17.8 -2.5
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37What is Love?
- Caring
- Happiness
- Friendship
- Warmth
- Trust
- Commitment
- Caring
- Euphoria
- Sexual passion
- Heartrate increases
- Passion
- Intimacy
- Commitment
FA (68)
38Sternbergs Triangular Theory
- Passion
- Physiological arousal, longing to be with someone
- Euphoria, butterflies in stomach
- Intimacy
- Close bond, sharing, support, exclusivity
- Feeling free to talk about anything
- Commitment
- Willingness to define as love, long-term decision
- Devotion, putting other first
39Intimacy Liking
Companionate Love
Romantic Love
Consummate Love
Commitment Empty Love
Passion Infatuated Love
Fatuous Love
40Hatfield Rapson, 1987
41Goals of Romantic Relationships
- Obtaining Sexual Satisfaction?
- "Did you think about sex even for a moment during
the last 5 min?" - 26-55 1 in 4 men, 1 in 7 women
- Ive seen you around, I find you very
attractive, would you go to bed with me - Man 100 women no
- Women 76 men yes, rest apologetic
42Ive been noticing you around campus. I find you
to be very attractive (Clark Hatfield, 1989)
43Styles of Loving
- Eros
- Erotic, passionate, intimate
- Ludus
- Playful, multiple short-term, no jealousy,
shallow - Storge
- Slowly developing emotionally sexually, LT
expectations - Mania
- Obsessive, jealous, intense, insecure
- Pragma
- Based on vital stats (ludus Storge)
- Agape
- Altruistic love duty, gentle caring, guided by
ideals