Factors That Affect a Person When Choosing a Partner

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Factors That Affect a Person When Choosing a
Partner
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1. What is the purpose of dating?!
2. Would you know after a few dates if a person was
   right for you or not?
3. Is there only ONE true partner you were made to
   be with in this world?

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Journal QuestionTopic Ideal Mate Date 11/29/12

• REALLY think about what you want in an ideal
  mate.
• Draw a van diagram in your journal and write
  characteristics of an ideal date/bf/gf on one
  side, and the other side characteristics of a
  future husband or wife. The center is for
  similarities in both.
• Now, go over each characteristics you have wrote
  and put a check next to those you would be
  willing to give up, circle those you might bend
  on, and put a start next to those you would never
  give up in a mate.
• Lastly, make a list of things that are
  turn-offs and aspects in a mate you know you
  definitely do not want or know would not work out
  in a relationship.

Same
Bf/Gf
Marriage
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1 The Parents Marriage(s)

• Traits that you admire about your parents are
  also traits that you look for in the future.
• Dislikable characteristics of your parents are
  traits that you consider undesirable.

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2 Personalities That Blend

• The differences between you and your partner need
  to be complimentary.
• Complimentary means that these traits blend in a
  way that helps your marriage grow.
• REMEMBER What are the three factors of your
  personality?
• Heredity, Environment and Response to
  Environments

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3 Shared Interests

• The factor that often brings couples together.
• Helps build companionship.
• Helps keep the marriage (aside from children)
  fresh and alive.

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4 Cultural Background/ Religious Beliefs

• Religious Beliefs
• A marriage of two of similar faiths have the
  greatest chance of success.
• Affects all areas of a persons life.

• Cultural Backgrounds
• Different cultures teach different roles.
• Celebrations and crises may differ.

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5 The Age Factor
Society Acceptable -men should be older than women -women should date younger or the same age. B) Maturity -any marriage in which one of both of the partners is immature may be at risk of divorce.
C) Statistics Say -a difference in age is probably not what determines the success or failure of a marriage. D) Greatest Success -those who wait until their late 20s any early 30s for marriage are most likely not to end in a divorce.
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6 Education

• Education affects a couples communication.
• You want to be able to have an intelligent, but
  not overwhelming conversations with your partner.

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7 Work

• 1 place to meet each other.
• Work schedules can affect a persons marriage.
• Determining household work may cause conflict too.

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8 Income

• Some may argue it as the most important factor.
• If worries about financial situations take its
  place, love may fade.
• 1 reason why couples argue.

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9 Family Approval

• Its been proven that there is a strong
  relationship between family approval and
  successful relationships.
• In the end, it is your decision who to marry,
  what your feelings are and beliefs.

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10 Similar and Realistic Expectations

• No matter how wonderful you think your marriage
  may be, it will never be perfect.
• Most peoples expectations are TOO HIGH! For life
  in general and for marriage.
• It is important to inform your partner of your
  wants and needs before you get married.
• Without knowing a partner, you may find marriage
  full of conflict.

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Mystery 11 ATTRACTION!!!

• It doesnt make the TOP 10 Factors List, but its
  an important thing not to over look.
• In theory, you are attracted to a person based
  off the 10 factors alone, but if a couple is not
  physically attracted to each other even in the
  slightest
• it could be the end of the couple as well.

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Love can bring the most happiness and the most
pain.

• Now we will watch clips showing how people are
  choosing each other.
• Use the worksheet to answer how the characters in
  each clip chose each other.
• You may pick 1-11.
• You may reuse factors each skit.
• AND each clip may have a few factors in each.
• Base you answers off the clip you see, not off
  the whole movie.

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Movie Clips

• Titanic
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vNvoJFlLkXm4
• Notebook (start at 120)
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vn0uZjkBRoyo
• Meet the Parents
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vKe2Ho4JqgsI
• Big Fat Greek Wedding (425-600)
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vQcAL5ljKvqE
• Sweet Home Alabama
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vILT70PICagI
• Yes Man
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vNtkL0TsSYKk
• Legally Blonde (700-930)
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vbUbD-rHSQHs