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Intimate Relationships and Communication

• Chapter 4

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Developing Intimate Relationships

• Successful Relationships require
• Positive Self-concept and Self-esteem
• developed in infancy and childhood
• gender roles
• attachment
• adult styles of loving
• less than ideal childhood can still have a
  successful relationship

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Developing Intimate Relationships

• Successful Relationships require
• Friendships
• based on companionship, respect, acceptance,
  help, trust, loyalty and reciprocity
• may be longer lasting and more stable

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Love, Sex, and Commitment

• One of the most basic and profound human
  emotions.
• These 3 are linked ideals in intimate
  relationship.
• Characteristics of love, sex and commitment.

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Sternbergs Classifications of Love

• Based on degrees of intimacy, passion and
  commitment
• Liking
• Infatuation
• Romantic
• Fatuous
• Empty
• Companionate
• Consummate

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The Pleasure and Pain of Love

• Recognize the human emotions
• Two components
• Physiological arousal
• Emotional explanation

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The Transformation of Love

• All relationships change over time.
• High levels of passion.
• Growth of intimacy.
• Reduction of romance and or passion to the
  transformation of deep love.

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Stresses on a Intimate Partnership

• Unequal or Premature commitment
• Unrealistic Expectations
• Competitiveness
• Balance of Time together and apart
• Jealousy

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Successful Relationships

• Realistic expectations
• Mutual trust
• Open communication
• Effective ways to resolve conflict
• Agreement on religious/ethical values
• Equal roles
• Balance of individual and joint interests

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Ending a Relationship

• Reasons why?
• Guidelines of a breakup
• Fair chance
• Be fair
• Be tactful
• Time for resolving your anger and pain
• The value of the experience

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Communication

• Nonverbal
• Ability to interpret nonverbal messages
• Self-disclosure
• Listening
• Feedback is a constructive response
• Gender differences in communication

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Conflict and Conflict Resolution

• Conflict resolution skills are vital for
  maintaining intimate relationships.
• Clarify the issue.
• Find out what each person wants.
• Identify various alternatives.
• Decide how to negotiate.
• Solidify the agreements.
• Review and negotiate.

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Pairing and Singlehood

• Choosing a Partner.
• Attraction.
• Similarities.
• Communication.
• Acceptance.

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Dating

• Different cultures have different rituals for
  finding a mate.
• American Culture.
• Getting to know each other.
• Traditional male-female dating pattern.
• Dating of young people.

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Cohabitation

• Factors of acceptance
• Rarely continues indefinitely
• Advantages
• Liabilities

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Partnership

• Gay and Lesbian
• Sexual orientation
• Homosexual relationships in relation to
  heterosexual relationships
• Traditional gender roles
• Societal attitudes

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Singlehood

• Diverse group
• Factors that contribute to a growing number
• Advantages
• Disadvantages
• Enjoyment depends upon

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Marriage

• Benefits of Marriage
• Issues of marriage
• Role of Commitment

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Divorce

• High rates.. Why?
• Process of Divorce.
• Physical separation.
• Emotional separation.
• Greatest stress producing event next to the death
  of a spouse.
• Recovery from divorce.
• Remarriage.

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Family Life

• Becoming a Parent
• Family life cycle
• Preparation for parenthood
• Own stability and readiness to be a parent
• Physical health
• Teenage parenting
• Over the age of 35
• Nutritional habits
• Genetics

• Financial
• Considered educational and career plans
• Emotionally ready
• Social support
• Attitudes and aptitudes

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Preconception Care

• Preexisting medical condition
• Current use of medications and drugs
• Use of tobacco and/or alcohol
• Past problems with pregnancy

• Disease risks and immunization history
• Dietary habits
• Family history of genetic diseases or multiple
  births

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Birth of First Child

• Stressful transition
• Return to traditional gender roles
• Each stage of the Family Life Cycle
• New parents
• worry about choices and mistakes
• no set rules
• most important is to promote satisfaction for all
  family members.

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Birth of First Child

• Later stages balance between giving freedom and
  setting limits
• Marital satisfaction tends to decline when
  children are in school

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Building Blocks of Parenting

• Modeling
• Trust
• Respect
• Love and Discipline
• Honesty
• Positive Statements
• Time, Attention, Concern

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Single-parent Families

• Differences to a traditional family life cycle.
• Difficulties experienced as a single parent.
• Single Fatherhood.
• Children from single-parent families.

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Stepfamilies or Blended Families

• 3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry.
• Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions
  and relationships of an intact family.
• Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more
  adaptable than healthy intact families. Allow for
  more individual differences.
• More of a history they have the more of a family
  unit is built.

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Qualities of Successful Families

• Commitment
• Appreciation
• Communication
• Time together
• Spiritual wellness
• Coping with stress and crisis

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