HOW TO HANG ON WHEN YOU WANT TO HANG UP

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HOW TO HANG ON WHEN YOU WANT TO HANG UP!!

• Marriage Seminar
• Presented by Dr. Walter Sims
• Pastor Sweet Bethel Baptist Church

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Outline

• This seminar is not.
• Questionaire
• WoMan piece of the marriage
• Keys to a successful marriage
• How to get there?
• Questions and Answers

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This is not MEN BASHING

• It is always easy to say what the other (husbands
  in this case) is not doing!!!!!!

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This is not marital therapy

• Menstuff has compiled the following information
  whether marital therapy works as well as it
  should.
• Each year, hundreds of thousands of couples go
  into counseling in an effort to save their
  troubled relationships.
• But does marital therapy work? Not nearly as well
  as it should, researchers say. Two years after
  ending counseling, studies find, 25 percent of
  couples are worse off than they were when they
  started, and after four years, up to 38 percent
  are divorced.
• Many of the counseling strategies used today,
  like teaching people to listen and communicate
  better and to behave in more positive ways, can
  help couples for up to a year, say social
  scientists who have analyzed the effectiveness of
  different treatments. But they are insufficient
  to get couples through the squalls of conflict
  that inevitably recur in the long term.

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Questionaire

• Are you saved?
• What are my goals in my marriage?
• What can my husband do to make me happy?

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SETUP QUESTIONS
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WoMan Piece
The Proverbs asked a question Who can find a
virtuous woman? You are not men. We have been
made in Gods image (Genesis 126-27) You were
taken from the side of man.rib!!! You are our
help mateSUPPORT SYSTEM.
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WoMan Piece
You were with God before you were with your
husbandGod brought you to Adam. You should not
be looking for Adam.stay in position. Eve got
in trouble when she left Adam. Most importantly,
the wife is the church. The church is called the
bride of Christ.
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WoMan Piece
The wives are commanded by God to Wives, SUBMIT
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the
Lord . Ephesians 522
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WoMan Piece
SUBMISSION
Not in the worldly sense of the word.but rather
in Gods view of it. Lets look at 1 Peter 31,
wives be in subjection to your own husbands.
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WoMan Piece
None of these passages teach that women are
inferior in intellect, but that her feminine
qualities preclude her being as well endowed for
leadership. The subjection does not mean
servitude. It is not the relationship of master
and slave or as a maid or servant. Hers is a
recognition of the husband's leadership, wisdom
and tenderness. He should be as loving toward her
as Christ loved the church. At this point,
there are several privileges that belong to the
wife. For instance, she is to be loved like
Christ loved the church as commanded in Ephesians
525. She is to be honored as none other in I
Peter 37, and she is to be praised by her
family, Pro. 3128. In Titus 24 we read, "That
(the aged women) may teach the young women to be
sober, to love their husbands, to love their
children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at
home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that
the word of God be not blasphemed".

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WoMan Piece
Titus 25 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at
home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that
the word of God be not blasphemed. 1Peter
36 Sarah called Abraham Lord

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KEYS to a Successful Marriage

• Submit to Christ.
• Spend more time with the Lord.
• Study His word more.
• Worship the Lord.
• Pray for your husband.
• That he be the man God has called him to be.

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KEYS to a Successful Marriage

• Allow your husband to lead.
• Support your husband in the Lord.

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How Do I Get There???

• Pray
• Lord, help me to be submissive!!
• Study Proverbs 31.
• Repent share with your husband that you will
  allow him to be the spiritual leader of the
  family.

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Questions and Answers