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• Intro Film clip from
• The Bucket List

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Building an affair-proof marriage

• A presentation by
• Rolan Weng Monje
• Roy Gina Soriano

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Outline

• Four scriptures
• Two principles
• Three practical directions

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Main passages

• 1Co 71-3 Now for the matters you wrote about It
  is good for a man not to marry. But since there
  is so much immorality, each man should have his
  own wife, and each woman her own husband.
• The husband should fulfill his marital duty to
  his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

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Main passages

• Heb 134 Give honor to marriage, and remain
  faithful to one another in marriage. God will
  surely judge people who are immoral and those who
  commit adultery.

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Principles

• 1 Exclusive ownership
• 2 Divine order

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Principles

• 1 Exclusive ownership
• You belong exclusively to each other and no one
  else

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• WHAT IS AN AFFAIR?

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Principles

• 2 Divine order
• Your love and loyalty are expected in the order
  
• God, spouse, children/family, others

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How do affairs start?

• Seldom planned or foreseen
• Mutual needs not met
• Unguarded talks/texts/chats
• Little or no accountability

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Top 3 attitudes that lead to affairs

• 1 Anger
• 2 Pride
• 3 Dishonesty

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The effects of adultery

• The marriage will never be the same
• The kids go through incredible pain
• In-laws are gravely affected
• Friends are distraught and/or divided
• The couples testimony is weakened
• The church suffers in its witness
• Christianity is dealt a shameful blow

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• Col 45 NIV Be wise in the way you act toward
  outsiders make the most of every opportunity.
• Eph 515 NLT So be careful how you live, not as
  fools but as those who are wise. Make the most of
  every opportunity for doing good in these evil
  days. Dont act thoughtlessly, but try to
  understand what the Lord wants you to do.

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Practicals Loving

• Pray for your spouse
• Express their love language/s
• Wag magtipid ng I ? U
• Avoid comparisons
• Lift up privately publicly

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Practicals Guarding

• Wear your ring
• Better to be boring than a player
• Talk about your spouse
• Keep tokens/pictures
• Let him/her know where you are
• No private matters
• Dress modestly

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Pasig mens survey (2008)
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Practicals Creating

• Weekly dates
• Double dates
• Physical time
• Special time away

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Building up to ideal love (motivation for
staying together)

• Walang ibang mapupuntahan
• Nothing better
• Nakakahiya
• Kawawa kasi mga bata
• Maybe it will get better
• We like each other
• We truly love each other

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Principles

• 1 Exclusive ownership
• 2 Divine order

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Practicals

• Loving
• Guarding
• Creating

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• Let us BUILD affair-proof marriages that will
  glorify God and inspire romance in the Pasig
  ministry!

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Building an affair-proof marriage

• A presentation by Rolan Weng Monje
• Roy Gina Soriano