SAFE Ambassador Program

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SAFE Ambassador Program
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SAFE Ambassador ProgramOCPSJody Bernier
Avalon MSCynthia Bocanegra District SAFEAmy
Ellis District SAFERick Frederick District
SAFEAdrienne Sears Walker MS
Summer 2007
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R E S O N A B L E
RELATED
RESPECTFUL
CONFIDENTIALITY
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Ice Breaker
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COMMUNICATION
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PERCEPTION
Your perception is how you view the
world. Everyone has a different perception. Ten
people may have ten different perceptions of one
eventand thats okay!
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Active Listening

• TO LISTEN OBJECTIVELY WITHOUT INTERRUPTING

• Verbal Nonverbal
• Body Language
• Eye Contact
• Facial Expression
• Tone of Voice
• On/Off Topic

• Things to Avoid
• Crossing your Arms
• Yawning
• Looking at the Clock
• Rolling your Eyes

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Nonverbal communications is just as Important!

• 7 of communication is verbal.
• 38 of communication is how you say what you
  say.
• 55 of communication is nonverbal (body
  language).

• E-mail

• Internet

• Texting

• Instant Messaging

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Communication Styles

• Passive submissive, not voicing concerns,
• thoughts and feelings

• Assertive clear, honest, respectful

• Aggressive hurtful, using threats,
• intimidation and anger

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Gossip Rumors

• Gossip
• Based on facts
• To talk about other peoples business
• Rumors
• Unverified information hearsay
• To talk to others about what may or may not be
  true.
• Damaging to someones reputation malicious.
• They are both HURTFUL and examples of POOR
  COMMUNICATION!!

Can you think of a personal experience that
involved Rumors???
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Tattling vs Telling

• Tattling is getting someone
• INTO trouble.
• Telling is getting someone
• OUT OF trouble.

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Collusion
Collusion is letting other people assume that
you think the same as they do by not telling
them that you think differently. You may have a
different point of view, but to openly state
these views would be more difficult than going
along with the crowd.
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Collusion contd
Collusion takes on many forms

• Silence
• Inappropriate laughter
• Negative body language
• Hurtful behaviors

Collusion is something that weve all done at
some point in time. Breaking the code of silence
and the cycle of collusion starts with SAFE
Ambassadors!
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Silence Hurts
In Germany they came first for the Communists,
and I didnt speak up because I wasnt a
Communist. Then They came for the Jews, and I
didnt speak up because I wasnt a Jew. Then
they came for the trade unionists, and I didnt
speak up because I wasnt a trade unionist. Then
they came for the Catholics, and I didnt speak
up because I was a Protestant. Then they came
for me, and by that time No one was left to speak
up. Martin Niemoeller (1892-1984)
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DIVERSITY
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Diversity Is
Being different from one another.
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Diversity Contd
What Do We Do About Diversity When We Really
Dont Get to Know One Another ???? We
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Stereotype

• Oversimplified belief or over generalization
  about a group of people.
• Making assumptions about a person based on what
  they look like without knowing them
• (i.e. categorizing).

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Prejudice is a negative feeling about a group
based on stereotypes a
preconceived judgment or opinion an adverse
opinion formed without grounds or before
sufficient knowledge.
Discrimination is the unfair treatment of a
person or a group based on prejudice.
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..isms
ethnocentrism
ageism
lookism
heterosexism dogmatism/religionism
nationalism
racism
sexism
classism
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Stages of Acceptance Defined
1. Tolerating to put up with something
or someone.
2. Accepting to receive willingly, but not
necessarily agreeing with it.
3. Respecting to consider worthy of high
regard or esteem to show consideration.
4. Welcoming to greet hospitably and with
courtesy or cordiality.
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Welcoming
Stages of
Acceptance
Respecting
accepting
tolerating
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SAFE WORLD
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Violence
is the threat of or actual use of physical
force against self or others.

• There were 14, 504 deaths by homicide
• 1 in every 36 min.
• There were 31, 655 deaths by suicide
• 1 every 17 min.
• There were 95, 136 raped women
• 1 every 5 min.

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Orange County Statistics for 2006
County Level Student Behavior Stats 2006
6th-8th
9th-12th Alcohol 19.0
41.8 Binge Drinking 8.4
23.0 Marijuana 5.2
16.0 Attacking Someone with Intent to
Harm 6th-8th 9th-12th
16.3
16.0
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Risk Factors for Violence

• Poverty
• Family Violence
• Media Violence
• Violence in Video Games
• Availability of Weapons
• Drug Abuse
• Gang Membership

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BYSTANDERS
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Bystander Behavior

• A bystander is a person who witnesses an act
  or
• an event without participating in it.
• Bystanders are the majority and they have the
• power to make a difference,when they
  choose
• to do so!
• Bystanders feel
• 1. Fearful
• 2. Powerless to change the situation
• 3. Guilty.

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STORY TIME!!!
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The Murder of Kitty Genovese

• At approximately 320 on the morning of
• March 13, 1964, twenty-eight-year-old
• Ms. Catherine (Kitty) Genovese was returning
  to her home in a nice middle-class area of
  Queens, New York, from her job as a bar manager.
  She parked her red Fiat in a nearby parking lot,
  turned-off the lights and started the walk to her
  second floor apartment some 35 yards away. She
  got as far as a streetlight when a man grabbed
  her.

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The Murder of Kitty Genovese
She screamed. Lights went on in the
10-floor apartment building nearby. She
yelled, Oh, my God, he stabbed me! Please
help me! Windows opened in the apartment
building and a mans voice shouted, Let
that girl alone. The attacker looked up,
shrugged and walked-off down the street. Ms
Genovese struggled to get to her feet.
Lights went back off in the apartments. The
attacker came back and stabbed her again. She
again cried out, Im dying! Im dying! And
again the lights came on and windows opened in
many of the nearby apartments. The assailant
again left and got into his car and drove away.
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The Murder of Kitty Genovese
Ms Genovese staggered to her feet as a city bus
drove by. It was now 335 a.m. The attacker
returned once again. He found her in a doorway at
the foot of the stairs and he stabbed her a third
time--this time with a fatal consequence. It
was 350 when the police received the first call.
They responded quickly and within two minutes
were at the scene. Ms Genovese was already dead.
The only person to call, a neighbor of Ms.
Genovese, revealed that he had phoned only after
much thought and an earlier phone call to a
friend.
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The Murder of Kitty Genovese

• He said, I didnt want to get involved.
• Two social psychologists, Bibb Latané and
• John Darley, unsatisfied with the above
• explanations, began a series of research
• studies to identify the situational factors
  that
• influence why people may be reluctant to
• come to the aid of others. Their explanation
• has been called diffusion of responsibility
  or
• the bystander effect and holds that an
• individual is less likely to provide
  assistance
• as the number of bystanders increases.

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Your Role as a Bystander

• If you find yourself in a bystander
  situationwhat will you choose to do???
• Friends acquaintances often put pressure on
  people to fight. These same people can play a
  role in preventing fights to resolve conflict by
• 1. Ignoring those people who make negative
  remarks
• about other people
• 2. Refusing to spread rumors
• 3. Refusing to spread a threat,
  insult or rumor from one
• person to another
• 4. Staying away from any area where
  you expect a fight
• could take place

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Empathy

• How one feels by putting
• Oneself in another
• persons shoes.

Ally
Someone that can be counted on in times of need.
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HARASSMENT
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Harassment

• is any unwanted remarks or
• actions that cause a
• person emotional or
• physical harm.

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Sexual Harassment
is any uninvited sexual remarks or sexual
advances.

• Forms of Sexual Harassment may include (but are
  not
• limited to)
• 1. Making comments about a persons body
  part
• 2. Touching inappropriately
• 3. Spreading rumors about a persons body
  part.
• 4. School Games
• 5. Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment

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What should you do about Sexual
Harassment?

• Speak up assertively when you feel
  disrespected.
• Use your refusal skills to reject unwanted
  sexual
• advances.
• Avoid having to be alone with someone you
• dont trust.
• Report behavior that you may think is sexual
• harassment.

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BULLYING
BEHAVIOR
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What is Bullying?

• A student is being bullied when he or she is
  exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative
  actions on the part of one or more students.

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Bullying is
Longstanding violence Imbalance of
power The use of verbal or nonverbal
threats, physical force or exclusion to
intimidate and control another person
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Types of Bullying

• Physical
• Verbal
• Nonverbal
• Cyber bulling

• Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting, getting
  someone to assault another person
• Taunting, teasing, racial or ethnic slurs, sexual
  harassment, spreading rumors, telephone
• Threats, obscene gestures, deliberate exclusion
• Texting, emails, IM, websites, My Space

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Bullying Hurts Everyone

• Bullies
• learned their behavior
• learned to feel good at
• the expense of others
• take out their frustrations
• on others
• have high self-esteem
• are more likely to fail in
• school and become
• criminals.

• Victims/Targets
• are targets of bullies
• have lower self-esteem
• more illnesses
• have higher absenteeism
• are more likely to be
• depressed
• experience thoughts of
• suicide.

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Provocative Victim One who is a target of
bullies and often exhibit bullying behavior, has
low self-esteem, has been victimized or is
presently being victimized.
Bystander One who observers bullying may
feel helpless or afraid and have feelings of
guilt, fear shame by doing or saying nothing.
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Strategies to Stop Bullying

• Be an ally
• Tell an adult
• Say something
• Distract
• Pull the victim away from the situation

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Reporting

• I Promise to Notice
• Acts of Bullying
• Violence
• Harassment
• Threats hurtful
• behavior

• I promise to report act on
• behaviors considered to be
• Red Flags to
• SAFE Coordinators
• Administrators
• Teachers
• Guidance
• Parent

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If you do NOTHING you are saying that what is
happening is OK with you!!!
You have the POWER to STOP and PREVENT unwanted
acts and to make your campus a Safer Place.
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Signs to Look for
RED FLAGS

• Gang Activity
• Potential Violence
• Threats
• Family physical or Sexual
• Abuse
• Cutting/Self Injurious
• Behavior
• Acts of Retaliation
• Relationship Violence
• Drag Racing

• Talk of Suicide
• Knowledge of Homicide attempt
• Physical Fighting
• Weapons
• Knowledge or witnessing drug
• deal
• Alcohol or Drugs on Campus
• Rape
• Under the Influence

School Hotline
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Graceful Exits
Face ones public self image. Losing
Face To lose dignity embarassment. Saving
Face To regain ones dignity control.
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SAVING FACE

• One more time
• Slowly
• Last Word
• Laugh
• Lie

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TAKE A STAND STAND UP IF....
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Affirmations
Plate Activity
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Personal Action Plan

• What do you plan to do to make a difference at
  your school and in your community?

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ATOD
Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs
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Name It
Tame It
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Acknowledgments
Thank you for choosing to be aSAFE Ambassador!
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