These are things that I have learned from my relationship and you should too

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These are things that I have learned from
my relationship and you should too For me, love
has always been a beautiful feeling that comes
along with a lot of ups and downs. If you are
truly in love, no matter what the situation
calls for, youd sail through it holding hands
but you fail to feel the feeling, youre sailing
in a sinking ship. With a lot of unpredictable
twists and turns coming your way, all you got to
do is, hold on to that feeling of being loved by
the other person and respect the efforts made by
them.
Ive been in a relationship for 9 years before we
fell apart succumbing to the situations that led
us to separate and this is what I have learned.
Knowing the things that I learned from my
relationship, you can benefit in yours and this,
as a result, will help you grow together. Love
is not always sunny and beautiful Though the
feeling of being in love makes you look and feel
extraordinary, the situations are not always the
way we expect them to be. Therell be times when
you sleep on the different sides of the bed with
a pillow wall between you two and therell be
less of conversations and more of fighting.
However, if you hold on through the tough time,
Im sure your relationship will bloom.
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Trust is the key If you arent trusting enough of
your partner, you arent doing justice to the
relationship. Not like you start trusting him/her
from the very first time, the trust has to build
up and once built, you need to keep on making it
stronger. You can ask questions if you have
doubts but doubting that stays for a longer
duration can cause issues. Confronting the other
is better than keeping it all in the head and
troubling yourself.
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Texts can be misinterpreted The very first time
when the crack came in our strong relationship
was when I saw my partner texting someone who I
did not know. The late-night texts and constant
update of what was going on and how they missed
each other was the last day of our relationship.
The last time it happened was a false alarm and
I had to say sorry, but then this time it had to
happen.
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Looking good is a necessity In every
relationship, you must make sure that you pay
keen attention on how you dress up and keep up
with your personality. Whether it is in the
starting of the relationship or the mid, keeping
a focus on how your outfit looks like, your mens
underwear also matters. You can invest in a
variety of mens underwear styles for different
occasions to keep that spark going. Comparison
isnt healthy When there was love between us,
there was no scope of comparison between me and
the others but when love walked out of our
relationship, this too stepped in. The comparison
is something that makes the other person feel
extremely inferior. Well, if you cannot praise
for all the efforts one has put in bringing you
both where you are today, you shouldnt compare
as well. This by far is the very important thing
I learned in my relationship.
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The feeling of possessiveness is beautiful but
obsession is unhealthy Often we see that the man
is possessive to send out his partner with her
friends and will ask her about her whereabouts.
Theres a thin line between being possessive and
obsessive about someone. You wont even know
when youll cross the line and come to the part
where things take an ugly turn.
If the other wants to go, let them go I did not
experience heartache before I had this
relationship. When my partner wanted to separate
ways, I constantly wanted to make things okay
and wanted to stay together. However, there was a
point
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where I realized that setting someone free is the
only option to free yourself from the pain that
youre going through. Hence, I let go and now
its been a while that I feel better. Once the
person went away from me, I had so many things
to do - catch up with my old friends, go on solo
trips, took myself for solo dates, binge-watch
and chill and so so many other things can be
done. Letting them go is probably the best
decision that you made for a better you and a
better future.
Theres always a new beginning When you have
lost your only partner and the one that you
thought would stand by you in times of need, it
is finally time to move on. I am not saying that
the moment you separate, you should start looking
for a new partner. Heal yourself, let time do
that for you and spend time with the best people
in your life. Time will give you an opportunity
to meet someone wholl fill in the void for you.
I am looking for that moment to come.
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Now I found someone who accepted me with my past
and I am happy. Coping up with what happened
with me, hope you all find true love and do
everything to make it work between you both.