7 Reasons Why You’re NOT READY for a Relationship

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• Is she not ready for a relationship? Or are YOU
  not ready for a relationship?
• Right now, there are over 3.5 billion women in
  the world. 2 billion of them are between 24-54
  years old. Lets assume half of them are single.

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• That leaves 1 billion women who based on my
  experience are actively looking to meet a man
  or are open to it. So why then are you struggling
  to meet ONE?

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• Why is it that you cant find a girl?
• Why do you go on dates and put in all this
  effort but still arent getting anywhere?

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• There are 7 reasons why and Renee Slansky from
  The Attractive Man team is here to tell you what
  those 7 fatal reasons are, and exactly how to
  turn them around.

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1 You dont know what you want

• If you are out there dating and trying to have a
  relationship and have absolutely no idea, or a
  really vague idea of what you want, then its
  going to be a very confusing process for everyone
  involved.
• Think of love like a map. In order to set a
  course, you have to know where you are and where
  you want to get to. This is what gives you a
  point of direction to work towards.

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• If you dont have a sense of direction, youll
  just aimlessly wander around from girl to girl
  and never actually get anywhere.

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• Heres what I want you to do I want you to sit
  down, grab a piece of paper and actually write
  down WHAT YOU WANT! List the top 5 qualities in
  your dream girl and dream relationship and then
  ask yourself, how can I make that a reality? Do
  you want a long-term or casual relationship?
  Because identifying what type of relationship you
  want will help you work out what qualities that
  girl will have that can give you that type of
  relationship.

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• Do you need to be more proactive? Do you need to
  do some work on yourself? Do you have any idea
  where this type of girl might hang out?
• The clearer you are the more chances youll have
  of attracting her and recognizing her when she
  comes along.

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2 You need to sort out your baggage

• Lets be adults now and understand that no one
  is coming to rescue us and that we are actually
  the common denominator in our lives. If you are
  struggling to hold a girl or find a girl then it
  could be because you need to sort your crap out!

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• A high value awesome woman isnt going to put up
  with a guy that still lets his past get him down.
  Stop making excuses and do something about what
  you are bitter or angry about.
• Having a great relationship is about being a
  great partner who doesnt hold onto unnecessary
  destructive crap.

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• I want you to do something I want you imagine
  grabbing a suitcase and load it up with 10 or 20
  kgs of weight, then I want you to take it on
  every date with you and try to meet women.
  pretty sure women are going to run a mile .
• Well thats what having baggage is likeit
  repels the right people from our life and
  attracts the ones who also have unresolved
  baggage.

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• So heres what you need to do to get rid of it
  Write a list of all the people who hurt you, list
  what they did, speak forgiveness over them and
  yourself out loud for each person which is
  something as simple as I Rob forgive you Jane
  for breaking my heart and hurting me in 2010, I
  release you and myself from this experience .

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• Then burn that list. It might seem stupid, but
  hey Im the coach and I actually know what works,
  so try it for me.
• Remember you cant correct what you arent
  willing to confront.

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3 Choose commitment.

• I will say this, you arent alone and it is more
  common for men to fear commitment than women, but
  just because you are in company doesnt mean its
  going to justify your fears or that its good
  company!
• Its time to grow up and realise that commitment
  is not a prison sentence, its an opportunity to
  be loved wholly by someone and open your heart to
  another who can actually enhance it.

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• Statistically speaking, married men actually
  live longer and have less stress, because they
  understand that a problem shared is a problem
  halved!
• There will always be risk involved but you get
  to choose how you respond to life. So, try and
  just take commitment in baby steps instead of
  being scared away from the big picture.
• And ask yourself where does this fear come from,
  is there baggage from point number 2 you need to
  sort out?

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4 Youre dating the wrong woman over and over
again!

• If you have a type thats a great starting
  point, but just make sure its women who are also
  good for you.
• You see you cant choose who you are attracted
  to, but you can choose who to fall in love with.
  Not all women are money hungry, blood sucking,
  heartbreakers (shock horror I know!)

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• But you have to weed out the good from the bad
  and learn to identify them early on. Make sure
  when you are attracted to a woman that you are
  taking your time to get to know her, look at what
  shes consistent in, and ask yourself if she has
  more than just looks and sexual attraction going
  for her.

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• One thing I get my clients to do is an ex mug
  line up basically I want you to profile all your
  exs and previous dates and see what common
  qualities and similarities they all have. Then
  trace back what could be indications of these
  such as her looks, way to act, dress, her friends
  etc.
• Then once you have an idea, you will be able to
  pick up on it before its too late!

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5 Youre not making room for anyone in your life

• If you want someone to fit in, then you have to
  make them feel like they have a place. I get it,
  you want to have all your ducks lined up in a
  row, but if you keep delaying because you dont
  feel ready, youll keep missing out and losing
  more time.

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• Its not about trying to squeeze her in when you
  finally have everything perfect, you can still
  have a relationship even while everything else is
  in progress.
• So, heres what I want you to do. I want you to
  set 12 nights a week free where you would
  eventually want to spend quality time with her.
  Right now, shes not in your life, but its about
  getting prepared and in a positive routine to
  receive her.

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• Dedicate these two nights to either proactively
  trying to get a date, by being social or
  interacting with women or doing something fun.
• Next, I want you to clear a space in your
  bathroom for her yep when she eventually comes
  you will already have a space for her to fit in!
  Also, this physical reminder will keep you
  accountable to what you want and need to do as
  well to get it.

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6 Your standards are too high or too low

• Guys, get to know what a healthy and realistic
  standard is. Stop guessing or basing it off your
  past experiences and get educated.

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7 You dont have a clue about women!

• Ok lastly this is a pretty big one. If you dont
  know a thing about women then we arent going to
  feel like you add value to us. This is why you
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  literally give all the juicy details away.

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• If your standards are too low you will always be
  disappointed and unfulfilled. But, if they are
  too high, then women will never feel like they
  can please you and you will end up alone. The two
  indications of a healthy relationship are peace
  and progress. If you dont have either then you
  are either too high or too low!

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• Guys women arent that complicated. We teach you
  how to talk to them and woo them, so if you
  havent downloaded one of our escalation cheat
  sheets then do so now.
• Heres the thing, a lot of the time all we want
  is to feel like a priority, have some security
  and know that you think we are beautiful and
  valued. Its that simple.

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• If you want to know how we tick you have to get
  inside our heads and hearts! Make the effort to
  invest getting to know how we tick, what we feel
  and want, because its actually going to be to
  your own advantage, plus youll make up for lost
  time and set yourself apart from every other man
  out there.
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