Comparing With Premarital Sex Is a Poison for Sex Desire

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Comparing With Premarital Sex Is a Poison for Sex
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• Comparing With Premarital Sex

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Comparing With Premarital Sex Is a Poison for Sex
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Comparing With Premarital Sex Is a Poison for
Sex Desire A 32 year handsome professional man
came with complains of reduced desire for sex and
ED for 1 year. His was an arranged marriage with
a good looking educated girl. He had a premarital
affair with a girl for 3 years. They had sex 3
times a week . He was very happy with the sex
life before marriage as the girl was fully
cooperative, experimental , had sex in different
ways but his wife was very shy. She insisted to
switch off lights before sex which made him very
uncomfortable. Last 1 year was full of
frustration and arguments . Sex was once in 15-20
days . Now they wanted to plan a baby so he came
to me . The problem was that he had poor
communication with wife and was comparing his
girl friend with her.
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Sex is not the romance and explosive as in
movies. It is very different with girl friend
because you have to wait for the opportunity, it
is occupying top priority . You will meet her
,come what may but after marriage, the priority
is different. You have to face nitty gritty of
married life , complete many other jobs so sex is
the last thing to be done in the day. if you
dont grant priority to some thing, you are
unlikely to enjoy. When his wife could not meet
his expectations, he felt angry but never
communicated this to his wife. this led to
anxiety and avoidance. This further will worsen
the sexual dysfunction. I suggested him to come
with his wife. I suggested non demand pleasuring
with psychotherapy . Shyness was reduced with
encouragement and he started to have good
erections with satisfactory sex life . They had
sex once in full light and next in dim light