Are We Technically Killing Our Relationships ?

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Are We Technically Killing our Relationships?
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•  All you need is love..love is all you need
• We as a society have come a long way since
  Beatles sang this in 1960s.
• Today we do need love, but with it, we also need
  Space, money, self esteem, egos, big cars, cool
  gadgets, hi fashion clothes, no questions please,
  maybe a little freedom to stray in our
  relationships. Love, obviously has taken a back
  seat.
• Ironically, now, whenever we are asked, Who is
  your ideal couple?, we usually point at someone
  from the previous generation. Our parents,
  grandparents or uncles and aunts. I wonder what
  is it that they did right and got it going. Well,
  most of them at least seemed to

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• For starters I think, they said their I love
  yous in person, one on one rather than declare
  their undying feelings on Facebook. I guess they
  spent more time talking face to face than on SMS
  and Whatsapp.
• Today when couples go out for dinner, their first
  priority seems to be clicking a selfie and
  putting up on a social media site. Throughout the
  dinner, they are constantly checking how many
  likes their picture gets. The entire idea of
  spending time with each other goes for a toss.
  Isnt it?

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• So before we all relationships fall prey to
  technical glitches, here are a few relationship
  vows put together by couples who have been
  through rough patches and relationship
  turbulences, yet stuck to each other and complete
  each other
• I will give you my time Make a together
  ritual. It can be your morning tea in the
  balcony, a post dinner walk or gardening time.
  Something you do together, when you are
  exclusively there for each other. Do not
  compromise on it, put your gadgets aside and just
  be there in person.
• I will give you your dreams Many times you give
  your dreams a break so that the other one can
  flourish. You do it because the happiness and
  needs of your loved one is more important. But
  with time frustration sinks in, you feel your
  sacrifice is not being appreciated. So lets be
  sensitive, appreciative each other and
  communicate how important the partners role is.
  When the time is right, give each other the right
  momentum to start again, gain the lost confidence
  once again.

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• I will not judge you You are a team. Win or lose
  you have to stick together. Blame games just make
  the team fall apart.
• I will fight my battle in the right spirit One
  thing leads to another, its always like this. So
  if theres an issue, sort it out then and there.
  Dont let it snowball into an avalanche. Agree,
  its difficult, but fight your battles with some
  logic. An interesting tip someone gave was, if
  you are mad at your partner, write a mail venting
  your anguish, dont censor anything, just write.
  But dont send the mail. Read it the next day,
  with a cooler mind. Most of the times, you would
  end up thanking yourself for not venting out and
  saying things you shouldnt have.

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• I will share my responsibilities When you are
  sharing love, you better share your liabilities
  and responsibilities too. Fair enough.
• I will not smother you in the relationship Love
  shouldnt spell the end of your social life and
  other relationships. You still have a life to
  live, work to do, relationships to keep. Please
  give each other space and time to pursue your
  interests. You must feel happy not tied down.
• So folks, lets fall in love and rise in it.
  Lets revel in our relationships and celebrate
  the joy of being together with someone we love.