Title: Erotic online dating: Why do some people seek an offline sex
1Erotic online datingWhy do some people seekan
offline sex?
- Anna evcíková
- Cyberspace 2007
- Brno
2Introduction
- Thanks to the Internet the environment where the
sexuality can manifest is enlarged. - The Internet has many erotic, pornographic
websites available and many of them are free. - It is a case of dating websites or erotic online
dating where users can freely enter. The erotic
online dating is an object of this study. - We have no statistic information how many Czechs
use this kind of services. - But www.sally.cz contains 30 000 ads
3Theory review of motivation factors in the
context of the Internet
- Triple-A-engine concept which tries to explain
why the Internet attracts individuals to engage
in online sexual activities (Cooper, 1998) - This theory forms 3 characters of the Internet
Anonymity, Access and Affordability.
4Theory review of motivation factors
- Access individuals have the easy access to
variable websites and communication forms
(e-mail, chat, video-chat). These online pages
can mediate a wide scale of sexual topic (safe
sex, sexual practics) - Affordability the economic competition keeps low
prices of the Internet, the wide society can
afford the Internet and then free sex as well - Anonymity It protects the users against
emotional, physical and social injury, persons
can avoid a social punishment for marginalized
sexual imagination or sex. activities
5Theory review of motivation factors
- The present factors (3A) create a feeling of
freedom and disinhibition which cause the faster
self-disclosure and the willingness to speak
about sex and sexual imagination. - These Internets characters can facilitate an
experimentation with sexuality (such as sexual
activities, choice of sexual partner or
self-image)
6Other engines related to the Internet
- The Internet application online dating offers
the users the opportunity to meet people that
they would never meet in their life. Online
dating offers the privacy and the secrecy. In the
end it is quite comfortable way to meet new
people (Brym Lenton, 2001)
7Theory review of motivation factors
- The concept of personal safety and sexual
grafitication (McKenna et al., 2001) - Personal safety (1) physical,
(2) emotional - Ad,1a- problem of HIV (the HIV transmission from
homosexual community into heterosexual
population), 1b- fear from involuntary pregnancy,
- Ad, 2- the sexual exploring and the sexual
disclosure are associated with social risk in a
real life (some sexual fantasy are depreciated or
in tabu)
8Theory review
- Differerent view on cybersex motivation
- In the Czech study respondents engaging in
cybersex were motivated with following needs
(Divínová, 2005) - a- to relax,
- b- to masturbate,
- c- to gain the intimity,
- d- to vary the sexual life and
- e- to gain new sexual experiences
- These needs can be also saturated in a real life
but the feeling of the anonymity plays the big
role on the Internet, the users dont have to
expose their body and to be gallant
9Theory review
- Engaging in video-cybersex (the naked body is
exposed) responds on stereotype, routine which
are associated with long-term partnership
(Waskul, 2002) - The authors Divínová (2005) and Waskul (2002)
also reflect motives which come from the real
life.
10The present qulitative studyParticipants
- The participants 4 women, 7 men were recruited
from one online erotic dating service
www.sally.cz - The used method was self-selection
- One condition for including in this study was to
have offline free sex with person who had met
thanks to some online erotic dating service. - The range of age 30-49
- All categories of marital status were represented
(unmarried, married, divorced, widowed) - Heterosexual orientation, only one woman has a
bi-sexual orientation - The sample included couples who seeked sex
together and stand-alone men and stand-alone
women as well
11Data collection
- The data come from the transcript of face to face
conversations which were recorded (avarage
duration about 1 hour). Each participant agreed
with the interview recording. The face to face
interview has one advantage to check
participants identity. - The interviews had a semistructured form and were
based on grounded theory (Strauss Corbin, 1999)
12Method of data analysis
- Used method Grounded theory (Strauss
Corbinová, 1999) which is based on 3 phases (1)
open, (2) axial and (3) selective coding. - Open coding perceived phenomenon obtains a term
and based on its characters it gains some
position on multidimensional scales. - Axial coding searching relationship among
created categories - Selective coding based on perceived regularity
the task of this phase consists of searching the
main phenomenon the central category which
integrate the all categories.
13Method of data analysis
- Illustration of open coding
- IIlustration of axial coding
14Results
15Results engines coming from the user
- Absence of needs saturation in real world
- 1-to avoid a routine stereotype - revive sexual
life - 2-discontent in a marital relationship
searching some new relationship as tendency to
abandon current relationship - 3-absence of sex - solitude
- Ad.1. couple searching the offline sex. partner
tries to avoid the infidelity through the online
erotic dating (its based on their mutual trust) - All free factors are the reactions on the
emotional dissatisfaction in the real life
16Results engines coming from the user
- The sexuality as an object because of which the
people bunch - The need to be in contact whith persons who
have the same attitude to the sexual activities. - The collective hobby of couple leads to
create an ad on erotic websites. - Sexual imagination
- The motive is expressed with desire to realize
sexual phantasy. At the beginnig they can be also
unconscious and the contact with erotic
materials can cause the arising of this phantasy
from the personal unconscious
17Results engines coming from the user
- Motives rising from attitude towards sexuality
- The user is familiar to sexuality (she/he likes
sex sexual experimentation) - The rejection of monogamy concept (the persons in
long-term dont believe that monogamy is natural - Benefit
- Sexual gratification - realization of sex.
imagination - Transcendence of casual life (to gain a strong
experience) - Change in sexual imagination 2 ways of this
change - Gradation of sex. phantasy (de Sade) or variation
of sex. phantasy (Mutzenbacher) - Sex. gratification and change of sex. imagination
iniciate the comeback to online erotic dating and
they transform themselves into motivation
factors.
18Results engines associeted with the aspects of
virtual environment
- Anonymity
- The need to protect the users privacy and to
separate these sexual activities from family,
professional life. - Easy and rapid access to the Internet (in some
cases it can means to gain sex immediately) - Internet as a place to meet people
- Users face to decreasing public area where its
possible to gain a free sex - I go to the bar where the avarage age of girls
is 17 years and I dont think they look for this
what I seek (male user, 40 years old) - Bigger probability to meet people with similar
experiences
19Discussion
- Perceived factors as the anonymity and the acces
partly corresponds with Coopers model
Triple-A-engine (anonymity, acces, affordability)
(Cooper, 1998) - Virtual enviroment mediates the possibility to
meet other people. This advantage also was the
important reason why respondents of Bryms and
Lentons (2001) study used the online dating
services.
20Discussion
- From the view of unsatisfied needs, detected need
to improve sexual life corresponds with results
of Divínová (2005) and Waskul (2002) - From the view of matrimoniology, the attempt to
find free sex is the response to the first
marital crisis (after 6/7 of common coexistece)
which is followed with the experience of
stereotype, with the decrease of sex frequency
and with the decrease of sex quality. This
crisis is legitimate and inevitable in long-term
relationship! (Planava, 1998)
21Discussion
- Why can a couple (e.x.) couple seek a free sex
together? - This phenomenon can be interpreted with two ways
- (1) Czech sexologist Kratochvíl (2005)
distinguish 2 types of individuals, the first
prefers an innovation approach in the sexuality
and the second usually prefers to have sex in
similar conditions. Both participants in couple
could be innovators - (2) The couples usually have already children,
their reproduction intentions are not current and
relevant. A reproduction encertainty (mammas
baby papa maybe or papa without sources)
doesnt have to appear (Buss, 1998)
22Discussion
- Benefit Sexual gratification
- It corresponds with McKenna et al. (2001) and
Divínová (2005) concept and results - consideration when the sexual gratification
become associated only with Internet (online
dating), it can cause a problematic engaging in
the sexual activities -
23Conclusion
- The interaction of the engines coming from the
user on one side and the engines of the Internet
environment on the other side is respondent for
the seeking offline sex. - Benefits such the sex. gratification and the
change in the sex. imagination can transform into
reason why the people seek the offline sex.
partner again - the offline sex can be one of ways how to face
the difficulties which arise from the long-term
partnership - Implication for counselling relativizing of
monogamy
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25- Presented research was supported by Czech
Ministry of Education, Youth and Sport
(MSM0021622406)
26Thank you for your attention