What can we do to make a big difference in the lives of children

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What can we do to make a big difference in the
lives of children? School Council
Presidents Dinner July 2009
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• The major risks that kids face that parents worry
  about today are
• drugs
• poor attitude to learning, school
• lack of values, crime
• depression suicide
• costs 12 billion p.a.
• Teachers and schools just arent doing enough to
  fix these problems

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250,000 hours of quality one-on-one time per
school
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The greatest untapped resource in our community
to reduce these risks is fathers
father-figures.
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• teeenage depression and suicide
• drugs
• difficulties at school
• crime, lack of purpose in life.

65 of teenagers committing suicide lack father
input 68 of kids lack father input 75 of
boys and girls with behaviour problems lack
father input 82 of adolescents in jail lack
father input
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The mathematics of this issue. School
teacher class 30, 30 hrs/wk 4 of time for 1-on-1
3 mins/week/child
Chaplain School of 600, 40 hrs/wk restricted to
25 hours/wk. Av time for 1-on-1 3
mins/week/child
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One-on-one time
Fathers class of 2 168 hours/wk (60 work - 56
sleep 52) If 20 of free time is with kids
300 mins/wk/child 100 fold increase in
one-on-one time
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1000 kids Total per year 50 weeks _at_ 5h/wk
250,000 hours/school
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What do kids really need from their dads?
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• Stats
• Stories
• Tips

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What do daughters need from their dads

• A sense of their beauty
• Confidence
• Learn how they can expect to be treated by men

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1. Beauty
Linda Carlson, Actress LA and New York
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40
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Which Nobel prize-winning novelist said I am a
great writer because when I was a little girl and
walked into a room where my father was sitting,
his eyes would light up. There isnt any other
reason.
2. Confidence
Answer Toni Morrison
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81
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Fathers can erode a girls confidence.This
effect can last their lifetime.
Carol GisselquistPennsylvania
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3. Relationsjhips with men
The 1 factor that determines whether or not a
woman is likely to have a successful long term
relationship with a man is the
relationship that she had with her father.
Dr James Dobson, Clinical Psychologist
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Getting fathers father-figures more involved in
childrens school lives
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• 1. Value their roles
• - canteen duties etc
• - get dads to take the lead- Men of the
  School.
• 2. Improve their fathering skills.
• seminars, books, DVD
• go after them!

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• Summary
• Fathers as the missing resource in childrens
  lives
• What kids really need from their dads BUS
  Being there Unconditional love Special.
• Helping dads to change
• DVD, regular events, Men of the School

It works.
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THE END
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Do what? Seminars breakfast, lunch,
evening Books DVD Encourage regular
stuff Create a new peer pressure
Encourage and upskill dads
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What kids really need from their dads
Being there
Unconditional love
Special
Help
BUSH
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Being there
Being there for them
Being there with them
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CHANGING THE SHAPE OF YOUR WEEK
M T W T F
NB. NOTES, EMAILS, CALLS
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Unconditional Love
Academic Sport Looks Personality Behaviour Beliefs
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S TREAT THEM AS SPECIAL - as a valuable
gift, not as green grass - wonderful, special
future
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H HELP

• Main risks
• teeenage depression and suicide
• drugs
• school/learning
• crime, lack of purpose in life.

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• How dads can help their childrens learning
  some tips
• Value and thank their teachers
• Stimulate curiosity and problem solving
• Remember that the kids are not studying for your
  benefit
• Get involved in the school

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What daughters need from their dads or other
father figures
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• 1. to let them know that they are beautiful
• 2. to give them confidence
• 3. to tell them how they should expect to be
  treated by a man

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Do what? Seminars breakfast, lunch,
evening Books DVD Encourage regular
stuff Create a new peer pressure It works.
Dream
2. Encourage and upskill dads
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• Summary
• Fathers as the missing resource in childrens
  lives
• Maths dads 1500 increase in 1-0n-1 time
  250,000 hours per school
• What kids really need from their dads BUSH
  Being there Unconditional love Special
  Help.
• Helping dads to change

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THE END
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