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Title: Etiquette

What is Etiquette?
  • It is an indefinite set of rules of good manner
  • Comes from an old French word meaning ticket.
    Later came to mean a prescribed routine that is
    passed down, especially in court behavior.

The Evolution of Eating
  • Middle Ages-
  • Would use fingers to eat with
  • Reserved spoons as serving utensils only
  • Men brought own dagger to a meal
  • Used a hollowed out piece of brown bread as a
    bowl, called trencher
  • In a formal banquet, what you ate where you sat
    at a table based upon your station in life

  • 11th Century-
  • Italian, Domenico Selvo, marries a Greek Princess
    who brings the practice of using forks to his
  • This is considered scandalous and heretical
  • 1364-
  • Charles V of France declares that forks are only
    to be used for foods that might stain fingers
  • 1669-
  • King Louis XIV of France bans pointed knives, as
    a weapon or at the table, as a method to reduce
  • Starts the movement to a blunt tip knife

  • Mid 18th Century-
  • Forks achieve their modern form of being 4
  • 1920s-
  • Stainless steel utensils are created

Styles of Service vs.Styles of Cutting
Styles of Serving
  • Russian Service-
  • Elaborate Dinners with glorious foods presented
    in great style
  • Food cut in the kitchen, reassembled to look
    whole, paraded around dining room then served
  • Foods served in succession of each other
  • French Service-
  • All food served in beautiful serving pieces
    arranged on table repeated at several intervals
    so that the same food was in reach for all
  • Origins of family and buffet styles of serving
  • Downfall- food gets cold

Styles of Cutting
  • Continental
  • Knife in right hand
  • Fork in left hand
  • Tines of fork remain down
  • Knife used for cutting and pushing food onto fork
  • American
  • Knife held in right hand to cut
  • Place knife down and put fork in right hand to
    bring food to mouth
  • Tines of fork are up
  • Americans only people to eat this way

A Modern Look at Etiquette
The Basics
  • Good Manners come from the inside and do not
  • Etiquette Rules come from the outside are
    always changing
  • Knowing the rules is essential because it puts
    you in the position of knowing when its
    appropriate to bend them.
  • A persons feelings are always more important than
    strictly adhering to the rules

Public Etiquette
1st Impressions
  • Clothing
  • No such thing as neutral clothing
  • Everything you put on communicates something,
    your image is either working for or against you
  • Introductions
  • Proper distance for speaking is 18 inches
  • If someone mispronounces your name dont make a
    big deal about it
  • Keep all personal belongings off the table
  • Shaking Hands
  • 1..2..3.. Release (you are not pumping gas)
  • Hold your drink in left hand to avoid giving
    someone a cold wet handshake

  • The proper shake ...
  • gt Involves eye contact
  • Is firm but painless
  • Lasts about three seconds
  • Takes only two or three pumps
  • Starts and stops crisply
  • Doesn't continue through the entire introduction
  • Begin with your fingers together and your thumb
  • Shake hands web to web, with a firm but not
    crushing grip.
  • Keep your fingers together and your thumb up.
    Slide the web of your hand all the way to the web
    of the other person's hand. Otherwise, he or she
    ends up shaking hands with your fingers. Also,
    shaking web to web effectively prevents the other
    person, no matter how strong, from crunching
    your knuckles.
  • Never offer only your fingertips, causing a weak,
    limp handshake.

10 Commandments of a Business Meal
  • Thou shall not jump straight into business talk
  • Thou shall not be late
  • Thou shall not table hop
  • Thou shall not talk politics, diet or family
  • Thou shall not dominate the conversation
  • Thou shall not dawdle over the ordering or eating
  • Thou shall not drink to much alcohol
  • Thou shall not fight over who pays the bill
  • Thou shall not neglect thy table manners
  • Thou shall not forget to show appreciation
  • 11th- Thou shall not have bad breath !!!
    (esp. smokers)

Ready, Set. Drink
  • Ordering Alcohol-
  • When in the company of strangers, follow the lead
    of the host if it is appropriate or not to order
  • Wine-
  • White Wine glasses are held by the stem, as not
    to diminish the chill
  • Red Wine glasses are help by the bowl, the warmth
    of the hand release the bouquet
  • Sugar Packets-
  • Limit the number of packets used
  • Place trash under saucer or tucked under

Ready, Set Eat
  • Napkins-
  • Place on lap as soon as you are seated
  • Place on your chair when you must leave the table
  • The host should be the first to put the napkin on
    the table at conclusion of meal
  • Never flap it open or tuck it into shirt
  • What stuff is mine?
  • Drinks on the right, solids (bread plate) on the

  • When to start-
  • Start only when everyone every one else has been
  • Buffets are the exception
  • Do not serve yourself bread unless the host has
    signaled you to do so
  • Pick it up and offer it to the person on your
    left, then serve yourself and pass to the right

No, Nos
  • Dont salt your food before you taste it-shows
    you make hasty decisions
  • Dont push your plate or chair away unless you
    are getting up from the table
  • Dont rearrange or stack your dirty dishes
  • Never tilt your chair
  • Dont ask people where they are going when they
    get up from the table
  • If you belch, excuse your self to no one
  • Never crumble crackers in your soup or blow on it
  • Dont chew ice or other inedible parts of the
  • Put butter first on your plate, not directly onto
    your bread
  • To get the last bit of soup, tilt the bowl away
    from you- the Tug boat goes out

Yes, Yess
  • Always pass the salt pepper together
  • Need to get something out of your mouth- use your
    tongue fork
  • When in doubt, use a utensil rather than your
  • Hair in your food- dont spoil someone elses
    meal by talking about it
  • Food in teeth, blow nose, rearrange hair- go to
    the restroom
  • Food in someone elses teeth- let it go if you
    can not be completely subtle
  • Dont like your meal- who cares- tell the host
    you do!

Words to the Wise
  • Nothing that touched your mouth should ever
    directly touch the table
  • When you are finished- place your silverware at 4
  • If you spill something dont make a big deal
    about it- offer to pay for cleaning
  • If you decide to pass on food being offered,
    simply say No Thanks- no explanation is needed
  • Learn to try new foods when you have the
    opportunity- you may be confronted with
    unfamiliar choices in the furture

Special Needs
  • Tell the host when you accept the invitation
    (esp. if meal is in their home)
  • New restaurant- call ahead
  • Never make this a topic of conversation
  • Dieting? Not when you accept an invitation to
    eat compliments of someone else

Set the record straight
  • Elbow on the table?
  • It is acceptable to have your elbows on the table
    if you are not eating
  • If you are eating, forearms only on the table
  • Table Manners for Kids
  • Same as adults

  • Statistics from 3 separate research projects by
    Harvard, Carnegie Foundation and Stanford
    Research Institute-
  • Success in getting, keeping and advancing in a
    job depends on 85 on people skills and 15 on
    technical knowledge and skills
  • (This is one of the most frustrating things
    youll have to deal with !!)

  • When in doubt, follow the lead of the host
  • The meal is time to visit interact, the is
    always more important than the function of eating
  • Eating Talking at the same time- take small
    bites so you can quickly finish and swallow
    before speaking
  • Thank your host with a handwritten note- classy

  • Smile- it is the ultimate gesture understood by

The End!