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Title: Earthsoft Foundation of Guidance presents -Tips for saving marriage-life and partner


1
Saving marriage?
2
Index
  • Marriage
  • Happy living
  • Issues
  • Conflicts resolution

3
Objective
  • To understand divorce its impact
  • To understand the reasons of incompatibility
  • To strengthen intellectual, emotional and
    spiritual aspects of your personality
  • To select the best possible ways to save marriage
    life
  • To be happy in fulfilling your duties and
    responsibilities towards your spouse families
  • To be a mature, spiritually emotionally
    healthy and committed spouse
  • To prepare for future challenges and conflicts
  • To change grow to be better person and
    well-adjusted marriage partner

4
Reasons for marriage
  • Marriage is a virtually universal human
    institution
  • Right reasons to marry
  • Companion throughout life, Unity
  • Togetherness - Sharing good or bad moments,
    realizing dreams together
  • Sharing, Loving, Caring, Giving
  • Continuing generation, beautiful creation Child
  • Wrong reasons to marry
  • Money, or just Papers
  • Position in company
  • Just to have kids
  • To serve ME

5
Gain
  • Long term relationship stability
  • Better ritual culture due to common deep
    understanding, supportive for next generation
  • Improved family relationship
  • Increased ownership, higher commitments
  • Feeling of proud of relationship
  • Feel of satisfaction delight from peaceful
    happy environment
  • Financially wealthy successful
  • Active participation for function celebration
  • Increased morale no conflicts

6
Successful marriage
  • Reasons for successful marriage
  • Common skills
  • Good emotional physical health
  • High self esteem
  • High education level
  • High social status
  • Pressure from society kids

7
Start a day - Breakfast table
Decide life partner carefully!
Which scene do you want to see across the
breakfast table for the rest of your life?
8
Saying believing!
  • The value of person depends upon
  • Skills attained
  • Knowledge acquired
  • Money earned
  • Assets build
  • Good deeds executed
  • Relations maintained
  • Love spread and
  • Behavior exhibited!
  • There is nothing better in the world than a good
    wife. A good wife is the one whose husband
    becomes glad upon seeing her.

9
Partnering
Caring
Loving
Sharing
Way of life Methodologies
Environment Culture
Partnering
Trust
Respect
People Families
Honesty
Dignity
Transparency
10
Seven vows
  • 7 Vows- Promise to God to be partner throughout
    the life
  • To walk together throughtout life to get pure
    food
  • To walk together for a healthy prosperous life,
    seeking physical, spiritual and mental health
  • To support each other to be wealthy, asking
    strength to share the happiness and pain
    together.
  • Determined for love and respect for each other
    and their respective families
  • Pray for the beautiful, heroic noble children
  • Request for the peaceful long life with each
    other
  • For companionship, togetherness, loyalty and
    understanding to be friends for lifetime
  • Marriage is a symbol of purity, union of two
    different people, community and culture

11
Divorce
  • Divorce or the dissolution of marriage is the
    final termination of a marital union, canceling
    the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage
    and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the
    partners!
  • As of 2011, divorce rate in India is 1.01 for
    every thousand marriages annually, is too high?

12
Reasons
13
Issues
  • Lack of understanding
  • Priorities differs
  • Methodologies differs
  • Above results in Disregard Distrust, cycle
    continues
  • Missing on Loving, Caring, Sharing, Giving
  • Different values
  • Own world Ignoring not sharing time
  • Lack approval from family (for love marriage)

14
Before marriage
  • We hide the things
  • We ignore
  • We mislabel
  • We agree on irrelevant matters
  • We believe our loved one will change after
    marriage

15
Voice before after
  • You are just made for me
  • You arent the man/woman I married.
  • I want you to be my partner for all the births
  • You seem different now.
  • I am so lucky, feel like in heaven
  • It isnt the same as when we were dating.
  • I trust you
  • You cheated me.

16
Incompatibility reasons
  • Intellectual gap
  • Physical, age-wise, health related, sex related
  • Comfort, Fun, Materialistic, Financial
    instability
  • Spiritual differences
  • Social life style
  • Ego
  • Missing on expectations
  • Ability not to accommodate varieties
  • Methodology differs slightly
  • Twisted distorted facts or inputs
  • Wrong impression / prejudice
  • Expectations to be ideal!

17
Incompatibility
Deep fry ice-cream?
18
Divorce globally
In India divorce rate is doubled in last 7 years
19
Mature steps needed
Death statistics in USA! Take mature steps
related to love marriage
20
Avoid divorce
  • To avoid
  • Unhealthy life, psychological madness
  • Loneliness unhappiness
  • Social insult over ability to manage
  • Lesser combined income
  • Risk of suicide for both children
  • Shorter life expectancies
  • For children
  • Suffer physical health
  • Risk of school failure
  • Psychological distress mental illness
  • Miss on guidance developing

21
Most effective-first hand solution
  • Think strategically about solution
  • Communicate have a dialogue
  • Discuss, dont quarrel
  • Clarify Apologize if mistaken
  • Start clean slate fresh
  • Enhance understanding
  • Set the guidelines if needed
  • Understand before being understood
  • Avoid to be misunderstood, make a point
  • Do not involve many
  • Acknowledge and respect individual identity
  • Avoid compromised confused situation

22
Most effective-first hand solution
  • Be REAL realistic
  • Plan for outing
  • Enhance listening abilities
  • Express issues, wish and needs honestly
  • Understand viewpoints sincerely
  • Respect one another as peers friends
  • Constructive resolutions build trust, follow
    those
  • Maintain a diary jotting down own mistakes

23
Fight but marriage under hold
  • Unable to articulate all issues at one time
  • Unable to convince conclude who is wrong?
  • Unable to address ego
  • Inability to stand on own
  • Social pressure
  • Deep responsibility of children serious views
    not to ruin their lives
  • Unclear answer to What next?
  • If views till in favor to continue, not to cut
    thread
  • Compromising nature patience
  • Hope is the strategy!!! (cannot be!)

24
Happily married life
  • Bargaining compromise with respect dignity
    (deal for both, remember marriage is not a deal!)
  • Agreement as a gift (without resentment)
  • Coexistence Agree (to disagree live with it)
  • The object of marriage peaceful coexistence
  • Be totally honest and kind at the same time.
  • Control negative destructive impulses
  • Control your anger
  • Express your deepest fears, hopes, and emotions
    and everyday thoughts

25
Tips
  • Beautiful tips
  • Do not hit head against wall
  • Know.....who matters
  • Acknowledgement is the first step towards
    improvement
  • Never try to straighten dogs tail
  • Keep cool calm, grow and behave!

26
Accept totally
  • Lifetime to know each other
  • People do not really know each other well
  • Continue applying corrections keep aligning
  • Be flexible unforeseen events will happen.
  • Be prepared for change people change,
    situations shift, relationships take on new
    dimensions, Couples can cope adapt
  • Have a positive attitude.
  • Express positive comments most of the time.
  • Criticism about inadequacies eliminates emotional
    space.

27
Key element
  • Commitment as a symbol, not as a contract
  • Equal focus on win-win, always!
  • Trust which offers closeness, fluent
    communication synergistic relationship
  • Mutual goals objectives can be achieved with
    deep support
  • Continuous improve
  • Timely communication responsiveness
  • Involvement of partners with each other , trust
    respect for each other, must be magnified

28
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