Title: Sorting Out Allegations of Child Abuse in Custody and Visitation Cases:
1WHAT IS SEXUAL ABUSE ....
and WHY DONT THEY BELIEVE IT IN DIVORCE CASES?
Presenter Seth L. Goldstein Law Offices of Seth
L. Goldstein 2100 Garden Road, Suite
H-8 Monterey, California 93940 (831) 372 9511
2- EVALUATING ALLEGATIONS OF SEXUAL ABUSE IN
CUSTODY/VISITATION CASES - CREDIBILITY IS MAIN ISSUE
3CHILD FAMILY WILL LOOK NORMAL FROM OUTSIDE
- DELAYED REPORT
- AT OR ABOUT TIME DIVORCE FILED
- NO PREVIOUS OFFICIAL HISTORY
- CHILD MAY ALIGN WITH ABUSIVE PARENT
- CHILD SHOWS NO OUTWARD FEAR OF ABUSIVE PARENT
4CHILD OF DV-S/A FAMILY
- CAUGHT IN FEAR CYCLE
- LOVE BOTH PARENTS
- NOT BELIEVE IS INTENTIONALLY HURT
- WILL PROTECT BY
- NOT TELLING ALL
- EXAGGERATION
- MINIMIZATION
5Belief is children learn from their environment
and if that environment is hateful, they learn to
hate
6Judged on attitude toward
the action in which (s)he testifies or
toward the giving of testimony.
7Judged on character for honesty or veracity or
their opposites.
8Judged on statement made by him that is
consistent/ inconsistent with any part of his
testimony at the hearing.
9Judged on the extent of his capacity to perceive,
to recollect, or to communicate any matter about
which he testifies.
10Judged on the extent of his opportunity to
perceive any matter about which he testifies.
11Judged on the existence or nonexistence of any
fact testified to by him.
12Judged on demeanor while testifying and the
manner in which (s)he testifies.
- Offenders are
- CUNNING
- CONNIVING
- CONTROLLING
- CONVINCING
13Carson District judge calls offense 'natural
impulse
- . it's my understanding that most men are
sexually attracted to young women. When I say
young women . I mean women from the time they're
1 all the way up until they're 100." - Carson City District Judge Bill Maddox
14Sexual Abuse Fallacies
- MUST CONSIDER MISCONCEPTIONS
- MUST LITIGATE TO COUNTER MYTHS
- MYTHS
- OFFENSE
- OFFENDER
- VICTIM
15Sexual Abuse Myths Offense
- FALLACY
- Only committed by sex starved maniacs
- TRUTH
- Like rape, often sexual behavior in service of
non-sexual needs - Power, Control, Domination, Degradation
- Example D/V
16PLANNED PATTERN OF COERCIVE CONTROL
- VIOLENCE -CONFLICT
- NOT ALWAYS
17Sexual Abuse Myths Offense
- FALLACY
- Sexual abuse is an isolated event
- TRUTH
- Sexual abuse does not occur in a vacuum the
child is victimized in many ways - There may be other victims and offenders
- There may be evidence of other acts
18THE DV-C/A NEXUS
- 30-70 Cross Relationship
- Most Dangerous Time When Separation
Occurs/Finality Sets In - Object of Attack, Whomever Within Striking
Distance - Child Becomes Both Tool-Weapon
- Conduit of Information
- Missile to Deliver Hurt
19Sexual Abuse Myths Offense
- FALLACY
- When sexual abuse surfaces during divorce, is for
advantage in custody litigation - TRUTH
- Sexual abuse occurs and/or surfaces at time of
divorce for many reasons. False reports no
greater than general population
Judged on the existence or nonexistence of a
bias, interest, or other motive.
20CHILD ABUSE OCCURS BEFORE, DURING OR AFTER
SEPARATION
- DYNAMICS SAME FOR
- PHYSICAL ABUSE
- EMOTIONAL ABUSE
- SEXUAL ABUSE
21Judged on the character of his/her testimony.
- SURVIVAL MODE
- PTSD
- DENIAL
- DEPENDENT
- DELAYED ACTION
- DEBILITATED
22PHYSICAL ABUSE
- ANGER/POWER
- CONTROL
- POOR IMPULSE CONTROL
- VINDICTIVENESS
- EGO CENTRIC
- UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
- SUBSTANCE/ ALCOHOL ABUSE
23EMOTIONAL ABUSE
- MOMS GONE
- LACK OF COMPASSION
- LACK OF UNDERSTANDING CHILDS DEVELOPMENT LEVEL
- IMMATURITY
24SEXUAL ABUSE
- MALE PRIVILEGE
- OBJECTIFICATION
- PUNISH MOM
- PSYCHOPATH
- MASKED PEDOPHILE
- DISCREDIT MOM
25Sexual Abuse Myths Offense
- FALLACY
- Only occurs
- in open cities
- TRUTH
- Occurs in every community
26Sexual Abuse Myths Offense
- FALLACY
- Child Molestation
- perils children only
- in playgrounds and
- alleys
- TRUTH
- Crime is committed
- where children play,
- pray, and stay
27Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Easily recognized
- TRUTH
- No such distinction
28Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Easily recognized as a dirty old man in a
raincoat - TRUTH
- Not dirty, old or senile
29Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Only criminal types commit child molestation
- TRUTH
- No such distinction, they come from all walks of
life
30Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Children are victimized only by strangers
- TRUTH
- Majority of cases involved someone known to the
victim and/or family
31Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Homosexuals molest children
- TRUTH
- Molestation of children must be viewed as a
separate issue from gender identity
32Sexual Abuse Myths Offender
- FALLACY
- Only men molest children
- TRUTH
- The offender may be a woman
33Sexual Abuse Myths Victim
- FALLACY
- Only girls are victimized
- TRUTH
- Only a small percentage of boys actually report
their abuse - Boys are equally in peril
34Sexual Abuse Myths Victim
- FALLACY
- Only children of lower socio-economic status are
victimized - TRUTH
- Victims represent every social and economic level
in society
35Sexual Abuse Myths Victim
- FALLACY
- A child must be forced to engage in sexual acts
- TRUTH
- Many children are willing, non-complaining victims
36Sexual Abuse Myths Victim
- FALLACY
- Children falsely accuse adults
- TRUTH
- False allegations are rare, but, do occur
37DEFENSES - SEXUAL ABUSE
- FALSE REPORT
- IDENTIFICATION - NOT ME
- SODDI M.B.M.B.M.
(MUST BE MOM BLAMING ME) - IT DIDNT HAPPEN
- CHILD OR MOM LYING
- INTENT
- MISTAKEN AGE
- DIMINISHED ACTUALITY
(LIKE CAPACITY OR INSANITY) - ALIBI
38FALSE REPORTS
- TOTALLY FALSE
- ULTERIOR MOTIVE
- MUNCHAUSEN SYNDROME BY PROXY
- PARTIALLY FALSE REPORTS
- MISINTERPRETED ACTIONS
- DISPLACEMENT ASSIGNMENT
- SECOND PARTY REPORTS
39IS IT FALSE REPORT?
- PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE?
- DO THINGS DESCRIBED EXIST?
- EMOTIONS CONSISTENT WITH ABUSE?
- INCREDUILTY TO INTIMATE QUESTIONS
- PRIOR DISCLOSURE
- EVENTS WOULDNT ORDINARYLY BE EXPOSED TO
- SEXUAL KNOWLEGE
- IDIOSYNCRATIC DETAIL
- DESCRIBES THINGS CONSISTENT WITH ABUSE
40IS IT FALSE REPORT?
- EVENTS WOULDNT ORDINARYLY BE EXPOSED TO
- SEXUAL KNOWLEGE
41IS IT FALSE REPORT?
- EVENTS WOULDNT ORDINARYLY BE EXPOSED TO
- SEXUAL KNOWLEGE
- IDIOSYNCRATIC DETAIL
42FALSE REPORT? ALTERNATIVE EXPLANATION?
- CHILD IS EXPOSED OR HAS ACCESS TO SEXUAL STIMULI
43IS IT FALSE REPORT?
- PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE?
- DO THINGS DESCRIBED EXIST?
- EMOTIONS CONSISTENT WITH ABUSE?
44PREVIOUS
45SEXUAL ABUSE SPECIAL CONSIDERATIONS
- SEXUALIZED CONDUCT
- AGRESSIVENESS
- SUDDEN OR NEW FEARS
- WITHDRAWAL
- SUDDEN CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR
46CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ACCOMODATION SYNDROME
- SECRECY
- HOPELESSNESS
- ENTRAPMENT AND ACCOMODATION
- DELAYED, UNCONVINCING, CONFLICTED, DISCLOSURE
- RETRACTION
47SEXUAL ABUSE SPECIAL EVIDENCE CONSIDERATIONS
- FRESH COMPLAINT
- SPONTANEOUS/EXCITED UTTERANCES
- MEDICAL EVIDENCE
- PHYSICAL EVIDENCE OF INTENT/CORROBORATION
- CONSCIOUS COURSE OF CONDUCT
- SIGNATURE TRAIT
48SEXUAL ABUSE SPECIAL EVIDENCE CONSIDERATIONS
- MEDICAL EVIDENCE
- IS THERE ANY MEDICAL EVIDENCE AVAILABLE?
- IS THERE ACCESS
TO A TRAINED,
EXPERIENCED,
WILLING,
MEDICAL EXAMINER?
49NEED TO KNOW
- WHO DID THE CHILD FIRST DISCLOSE TO?
- WHAT TRIGGERED THE DISCLOSURE?
- WHEN DID THE FIRST DISCLOSURE OCCUR?
- HOW THE ORIGINAL DISCLOSURE
SURFACED?
50NEED TO KNOW
- WHY THE CHILD IS TELLING NOW?
- HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE TALKED TO THE CHILD (AND
WHO ARE THEY)? - EXACTLY WHAT WAS SAID BY THE CHILD TO EACH OF
THESE PERSONS?
51NEED TO KNOW
- EXACTLY WHAT WAS SAID TO THE CHILD BY THESE
PERSONS? - HOW, IF AT ALL, THE AFOREMENTIONED MAY HAVE
AFFECTED WHAT THE CHILD IS NOW SAYING? - WHAT EVIDENCE IS AVAILABLE TO CONFIRM OR REFUTE
THE ALLEGATION?
52NEED TO KNOW
- WHAT EVIDENCE IS AVAILABLE TO CONFIRM WHAT THE
CHILD IS SAYING? - ARE THERE ANY ALTERNATIVE EXPLANATIONS FOR THE
CHILD'S BEHAVIORS AND WHAT (S)HE IS SAYING?
53THANK YOU