Test Time

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Test Time

• Take out pen and paper
• Number your paper from 1 to 24
• Select one relationship to analyze
• Past or Present
• Be honest---these will NOT be collected!

Love It!!
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• 1) My lover and I have the perfect physical
  chemistry between us
• 2) I feel that my lover and I were truly meant
  for each other (fate)
• 3) My lover and I really understand each other
  (soul mates)
• 4) My lover fits my ideal standards of physical
  beauty (my idea of a 10)
• 5) I try to keep my lover a little uncertain
  about my commitment to him/her
• 6) I believe that what my lover doesnt know
  about me wont hurt him/her (I keep secrets)

Love??
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• 7) It is important that our relationship is fun
  and exciting
• 8) When my lover gets too dependent on me, I want
  him/her to back off
• 9) To be genuine, love must develop over time
  (not an over-night thing)
• 10) I expect to always be friends with my lover
• 11) Our love is really a deep friendship, not a
  mysterious, mystical emotion
• 12) Our love is the most satisfying because it
  developed from, and is based on, a deep caring
  relationship

My new favorite
4

• 13) In choosing my lover, I believed it was best
  to love someone with a similar background
• 14) A main consideration in choosing my lover was
  whether my family would approve
• 15) An important factor in choosing a partner is
  whether or not he/she would be a good parent
• 16) One consideration in choosing my lover was
  what career he/she selected
• 17) When things arent right with my lover and
  me, my stomach gets upset
• 18) Sometimes I get so excited about being in
  love with my lover that I cant sleep

I Dont Get It?
5

• 19) When my lover doesnt pay attention to me, I
  feel sick all over (emotionally, physically,
  etc.)
• 20) I cannot relax if I suspect that my lover is
  with someone else
• 21) I try to always help my lover through
  difficult times
• 22) I would rather suffer myself than let my
  lover suffer
• 23) When my lover gets angry with me, I still
  love him/her fully and unconditionally
• 24) I would endure all things for the sake of my
  lover

Gotta Love the 80s
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Calculating the Results

• Statements
• 1-4 are Eros
• 5-8 are Ludus
• 9-12 are Storge
• 13-16 are Pragma
• 17-20 are Manic
• 21-24 are Agapic
• Highlight your high and low brackets
• 3 to 4 Trues or Falses are Markers

Not All Love Is Healthy Love
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Now What?

• 1) What do these findings tell you about
  yourself?
• Illuminate Mistakes?
• Illuminate Successes?
• Do you wish you could make different decisions
  about love?
• 2) Do it again with another love in mind
• See how they differ
• 3) Have your boy/girlfriend take the test with you

Im Embarrassed