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Welcome to Gita Coaching http//vedicilluminatio
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Helping devotees succeed!
Gita Coach
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Coming Up!

• Wisdom stories
• Instructive DVDs
• Interactive exercises
• Building your skills
• Powerful personal success tools
• Individual coaching taster sessions
• Coaching demonstrations

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Who will help us succeed?
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How to achieve success?
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What is coaching all about?
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Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati

• The world stands in no need of any reformer. The
  world has a very competent person for guiding
  it's minutest happenings. The person who finds
  that there is scope for reform of the world,
  himself stands in need of reform.

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• The world goes on it's own perfect way. No person
  can deflect it but the breadth of a hair from the
  course chalked out for it by providence.

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• When we perceive any change being actually
  affected in the course of events of this world by
  the agency of any particular individual, we also
  know very well that the agent possesses no real
  power at any stage.

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• The agent finds himself driven forward by a force
  belonging to a different category from himself.
  The course of the world does not require to be
  changed by the activity of any person. What is
  necessary is to change our outlook to this very
  world.

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• This was done for the contemporary generation by
  the mercy of Sri Caitanya. It could be only known
  to recipients of His mercy. The scriptures
  declare that it is only necessary to listen with
  an open mind to the name of Krishna from the lips
  of a bona fide devotee.

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• As soon as Krishna enters the listening ear, He
  clears up the vision of the listener so that he
  no longer has any ambition of ever acting the
  part of a reformer of any other person, because
  he finds that nobody is left without the very
  highest guidance.

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• It is therefore his own reform, by the grace of
  God, whose supreme necessity and nature he is
  increasingly able to realize, by the eternally
  continuing mercy of the Supreme Lord.

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DVD 1 Legacy
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Do We Need Coaching?

• Most people change only when it hurts too much.
• Prevention is better then cure.
• We have a choice!

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Sink or Swim!
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• How to get the most benefit from the
• Gita Coaching Course?

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Follow Up!

• Practical application
• Working with a coach
• Peer coaching
• Personal journal
• Audio learning
• Reading books and articles
• Keeping in touch
• Counsellor system

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Krsna Consciousness and Coaching

• Fan the spark!
• Introspection
• Fresh challenge
• Lazy intelligent
• Independently thoughtful
• and competent
• Self discipline

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Krsna Consciousness and Coaching

• Revealing one's mind in confidence, inquiring
  confidentially
• Developing unbreakable determination
• Powerful questions
• Failure - pillar of success
• Yukta vairagya

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Krsna Consciousness and Coaching

• Make the best of a bad bargain
• Prevention better than cure
• See through the eyes of the scriptures
• Mode of goodness
• Make your mind a friend

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• Some look on the soul as amazing, some
  describe him as amazing, and some hear of him as
  amazing, while others, even after hearing about
  him, cannot understand him at all.
• Bg 2.29

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Story Acres of Diamonds
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Limiting Beliefs

• KC means that we have to give up EVERYTHING
• KC means that we can't maintain personal traits
• Suffering means advancement
• In KC there's no room for creativity
• Success is a bad word
• Devotees are poor

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Limiting Beliefs

• Devotees are not organized materially
• Rather than taking action, we rely on Krishna
• Reading Srila Prabhupadas books means to mainly
  understand how terrible this world is
• Non-devotees are without worth
• Everything is maya
• KC means no more fun
• Great material accomplishments mean nothing and
  we should look down upon them

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Excuses by Arjuna

• Compassion Bg 1.27
• Fear (mouth, limbs, hair) Bg 1.29
• Enjoyment of the kingdom Bg 1.32-35
• Sin Bg 1.36, 37-38
• Destruction of dynasty Bg 1.39
• Unwanted progeny Bg 1.40

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• Do you want excuses in your life or results?

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Story Eagle
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Maximize the mind!

• Change your thinking, change your life
• One must deliver himself with the help of his
  mind, and not degrade himself. The mind is the
  friend of the conditioned soul, and his enemy as
  well.
• Bg 6.5

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Metaphors for a Coach

• Mental fitness trainer
• Instruction manual
• Lighthouse
• Bridge
• Facilitator
• Pyramid explorer

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Metaphors

• Guru
• Supersoul
• Compass
• Guide
• Fellow traveller
• Motivator

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Story Butterfly
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Pitfalls in Coaching

• Lecturing
• Advising
• Talking too much
• Judging
• Emotional involvement
• More?

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Coaching Facilitates

• Being self-reliant
• Taking responsibility
• Making wise choices
• Increasing awareness
• Setting clear goals
• Achieving goals

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Benefits of Coaching

• Clarity
• Self coaching
• Overcoming bad habits
• Focus
• Self discipline
• Increased self awareness
• Taking responsibility

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Benefits of Coaching

• Effective communication
• Become firm and free from doubt
• Positive mindset
• Reform bad habits
• Self control
• Anger management
• Creativity
• Overcome obstacles

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Story Mango Lover
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Qualities
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DVD 6 Coach Stone
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Qualities

• A greater interest in people than in things
• A genuine desire to offer service to devotees
• Genuine interest in devotees
• The ability to balance his own life and to put
  his own issues on hold
• Being totally committed to the devotees success

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Qualities

• Excellent Verbal Communicator 17.15
• Confidential Upadesamrta 4
• Non-Judgemental and Non-Critical
• Explorer and Provider of Options (various yogas)
• Committed

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Goal Setting
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Goals In The Gita

• I am the goal 9.18
• Their aim is one 2.41
• Disturbance is due to want of an ultimate goal
  2.66 P
• Cross the obstacles of conditioned life by My
  grace 18.56
• Deliberate on this fully, and then do what you
  wish to do 18.63

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Goals Areas

• Self discipline
• Sadhana
• Service
• Skills
• Self renewal

• Relationships
• Health
• Finances
• Learning
• Family

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Who really wants it?
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On a Scale of 1 to 10

• How strong is your desire to achieve this goal?
• How determined you are?
• If it's not 10, what needs to happen to make it
  10?

• What is it in you that holds you back?
• How important this is to you?
• How ready you are to take action to achieve this
  goal?

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DVD 12 Goal!
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Exercise

• Think about one area of your life that you would
  like to change (e.g., sadhana, service, career,
  relationships, health, etc.)
• Write it down and explain to a devotee next to
  you why and how you would like to change it

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A Journey

• To assist a devotee to get from where he is now
  to where (s)he wants to be.

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Devotees Journey

• adau sraddha tatah sadhu-
• sango 'tha bhajana-kriya
• tato 'nartha-nivrttih syat
• tato nistha rucis tatah
• athasaktis tato bhavas
• tatah premabhyudancati
• sadhakanam ayam premnah
• pradurbhave bhavet kramah
• Bg 4.10 P

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Two Main Ingredients Of Coaching

• Helping the devotee to define where he wants to
  be ? setting his goals
• Helping the devotee to reach that destination ?
  achieving his goals

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Write down your goals!
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Case Study

• Yale University survey in the 1950s
• And survey after 20 years
• 3 worth more than 97 combined
• Better health, relationships and
• finances

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SMART Goals

• Specific - clearly defined
• Measurable - tangible, practical,
• quantifiable
• Attractive inspiring, exciting
• Realistic - within your
• capacity/influence
• Time-bound - have a deadline

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Exercise

• Choose one goal for the next
• week
• Turn it into a SMART goal
• Choose someone to report to
• about your progess

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Coach-Coachee Relationship
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• Great devotees see Krsna as the reservoir of
  all relationships.
• He is the ocean of all the relationships
  exchanged between two living entities, between
  the gods, or between the Supreme Lord and His
  devotees.
• Bg 11.14 P

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Establishing Rapport

• Get in tune with the devotee so that your mutual
  communications are totally successful
• Make it easy for the devotee to relate to you

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Exercise

• Rapport self-test (Handbook)
• Practice establishing rapport with another
  devotee
• Report to the group

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Coach As Servant

• Did you ever have a teacher, a leader, a friend,
  a coach, or an adviser who believed in you when
  you didn't believe in yourself? One who stayed
  with you regardless? Not someone who was soft and
  permissive with you, someone who gave in to you,
  but someone who would neither give in to you nor
  give up on you.

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Coach As Servant

• A coach sees you in terms of your potential, not
  in terms of your present behaviour or performance.

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Coach As Servant

• A coach helps you succeed in your chosen area
  by assisting you to clarify what you want, find
  the way to achieve it, overcome obstacles and
  take action.

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Coaching Skills
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DVD 9 Big Rocks
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Coaching Skills

• Listening (Upadesamrta 4)
• Questioning (SB 1.2.5)
• Turning problems into opportunities (2.32)
• Expanding options (beyond this lifetime, beyond
  the body)
• Promoting action (2.40, 3.30, 2.3, 11.33)
• Challenging (2.11)
• Giving feedback (2.11)

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Listening Attentively

• The Skill That Separates the
• Near-Great from the Great

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Everyone likes attention

• A British acquaintance told me about an aging
  executive who could always be seen at London
  restaurants dining with the most beautiful women
  in the world. It wasnt his looks or animal
  magnetism. He was short, jowly, overweight, bald
  and well into his seventies, but when my
  acquaintance asked one woman why she was so
  enthralled with this man, she answered, He never
  takes his eyes off me. Even if the Queen walked
  in, he wouldnt be distracted. He would still be
  devoting his full attention to me. Thats hard to
  resist.

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Listening

• Before the session, clear your mind of all
  personal issues so that you can be fully focused
  on the devotees needs and fully understand him
• Through your understanding enable him to
  understand himself

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Listening

• Listen ¾ of the session time, talk maximum ¼ of
  the time
• Listen attentively seek first to understand
• Encourage the devotee to express himself more
• You may interrupt if the conversation is leading
  astray

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Exercise

• Listen to the devotee next to you for 3 minutes.
• You must not make any sound, say anything, nod,
  shake your head or show any other signs.
• Repeat back your understanding of the key points
  he made. Ask a devotee whether you understood him
  well.

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Questioning
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• To help the devotee succeed, you first need to
  help him feel comfortable sharing information
  openly and honestly with you (guhyam akhyati
  prcchati)
• The questions you ask and how you ask them
  determine his level of comfort and trust in you
  and his willingness to share valuable information

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• Story
• The Question That Saved Lechs Life

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Common Peoples Questions

• Why bad things happen to a nice guy like me?
• Why THEY are not perfect?
• Why I am poor and others are rich? Its not
  fair!

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Powerful Questions

• What one great thing would you dare to dream if
  you knew you could not fail?
• Do you want results in your life or excuses?
• What can I give today?
• How can I add value to people's lives today?
• If you would be superintelligent, how would you
  solve the problems that you face and achieve the
  results you want to achieve?

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Powerful KC Questions

• How can I please Krsna today?
• How can I please Vaisnavas today?
• How can I be selfless today?
• How can I see through the eyes of the scriptures?
• What can I do for Krsna with great enthusiasm and
  determination?

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The Choice Map

• Behind every choice are questions. Ultimately,
  our results in any area of life reflect the
  questions we asked to get us there.
• The Choice Map is a powerful tool for personal
  and professional discovery, action, and results.

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Judger Questions

• Whose fault is it?
• Whats wrong with me?
• Whats wrong with the other person?
• How can I prove Im right?
• How can I be in control?
• Why bother?
• Generally lead to
• A mood of pessimism, stress, and limitations
• A mindset that is reactive, inflexible, and
  judgmental
• Win-lose relationships and results (at work and
  at home)

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Learner Questions

• What do I want?
• What do I appreciate about myself (and the other
  person)?
• Whats useful about this?
• What can I learn?
• Whats possible?
• Whats best to do now?
• Generally lead to
• A mood of optimism, hope, and possibilities
• A mindset that is thoughtful, flexible, and
  accepting
• Win-win relationships and results (at work and at
  home)

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Switch!
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Switch!

• Ask Learner Qs to avoid Judger Pit
• Am I in Judger?
• What are the facts?
• What assumptions am I making?
• What are the consequences?
• How else can I think about that?

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Exercise

• Create 10 great questions that will help you
  solve your problems and achieve your goals
• Examples
• What inspires you the most in Krsna
  consciousness?
• What connects you to Krsna the most?
• What would you like to become an expert in?

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Turning Problems Into Opportunities
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• My dear King, although Kali-yuga is an ocean of
  faults, there is still one good quality about
  this age Simply by chanting the Hare Krsna
  maha-mantra, one can become free from material
  bondage and be promoted to the transcendental
  kingdom.
• SB 12.3.51

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• O Partha, happy are the ksatriyas to whom such
  fighting opportunities come unsought, opening for
  them the doors of the heavenly planets.
• Bg 2.32

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Exercise

• Listen to a devotee attentively speaking
• about a problem. Then ask him/her
• What can you learn from this?
• What unseen opportunities lie within this
  problem?

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Expanding Options
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• Mobile phone options
• Who else can give you ideas?
• What else is possible?
• GITA Cards

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Promoting Action
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Do something!

• Its better to do little than nothing
• Even a little endeavor on the transcendental
  path offers a great hope for deliverance.
• Bg 6.37 P
• Its better to do something imperfect, than
  nothing perfect.

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What if I fail?

• Failure is the pillar of success. Then try.
  Again you shall try.
• Room Conversation, August 17, 1977,
  Vrndavana
• Every endeavor is covered by some fault, just
  as fire is covered by smoke. Therefore one should
  not give up the work born of his nature, O son of
  Kunti, even if such work is full of fault.
• Bg 18.48

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Promoting Action

• Clarify what specific action the devotee will
  take in writing
• Ask him for commitment
• Hold him accountable by regular reports

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Personal Action Plan

• What one thing, if you would do exceptionally
  well every single day, will have the greatest
  positive impact on your life?
• Turn it into a written SMART goal with a specific
  reporting time to a specific partner regarding
  your action points

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SMART Goal

• Specific - clearly defined
• Measurable - tangible, practical, quantifiable
• Attractive - inspiring
• Realistic - within your capacity/influence
• Time-bound - has a deadline

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GITA Coaching Model

• GOALS
• What do you want to achieve?
• IDEAS
• What is possible? What are the options?
• TESTS
• What are the challenges or obstacles?
• ACTION
• What will you commit to do and when?

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Practice Coaching

• Use the GITA Coaching Model and coach another
  devotee for 30 minutes. Then switch roles.
• Share with the group what you have learned and
  experienced both as a coach and as a coachee
• Krsna conscious benefits of mutual coaching

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• I am the ability in man. Bg 7.8

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Everything Is Possible!

• Everything is possible by the grace of the Lord.
  SB 3.31.18 P
• By Krsna's supreme will, everything is possible.
  Krsna Book 50
• By the blessings of a Vaisnava, everything is
  possible. SB 5.1.10 P
• For advanced devotee, everything is possible.
  Lecture 1975

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The Result of Coaching

• The result of Krsna consciousness is that one
  becomes increasingly enlightened, and he enjoys
  life with a thrill, not only for some time, but
  at every moment.
• Bg 18.76 P

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Krsna Consciousness Means Great Success!

• Wherever there is Krsna, the master of all
  mystics, and wherever there is Arjuna, the
  supreme archer, there will also certainly be
  opulence, victory, extraordinary power, and
  morality.
• Bg 18.78

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Maha Maha Coaches
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Follow Up!

• Practical application
• Working with a coach
• Peer coaching
• Personal journal
• Audio learning
• Reading books
• Reading articles
• Keeping in touch
• Counsellor system

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Fan the spark!

• Just like people come here with little faith.
  That faith is the little spark of fire. Now you
  have to fan it, fan it, so that fire may
  increase.
• Srila Prabhupada, Lecture 1972

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All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
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Dear Devotees,Gita Coaching is at your service!

• Let's keep in touch
• via email, phone
• Or Skype!

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Thank you!

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