Confession and Asking for Forgiveness

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Dr. Don Welch Moderator
Tonight
Confession and Asking for Forgiveness
Gary Cundiff
Dr. Marcial Felan
645 to 800 pm MPACT Center
Erika Garcia
Dr. Diana Sjostrom
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UnderstandingForgiveness

• What forgiveness is and
• what forgiveness is not.
• From Weekend To Remember
• Familylife Marriage Conference, Pages 170, 171

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Pages 224-227
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Forgiveness begins with the choice to forgive,
that sets a process in motion, that over time
will result in a lessening of painful emotions
(hurt, anger, bitterness, resentment,
embarrassment, wrath, betrayal or whatever the
painful emotions may be) that caused the need to
forgive in the first place.
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Resolving conflict requires forgiveness.
And be kind to one another, tender-hearted,
forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also
has forgiven you. Ephesians 432
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A. The Bible teaches that all Christians are
responsible to God to seek and grant
forgiveness. B. The offender needs to SEEK
forgiveness.
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Seeking Forgiveness

• Be willing to admit, I am wrong. I was wrong.
  
• I shouldnt have ________________.
• 2. Be willing to say, I am sorry. I am sorry I
  did ________________and that I caused you to
  feel_______________.
• 3. Be willing to repent. I know that I have
  hurt you deeply, and I do not wish to hurt
  you this way again.
• 4. Be willing to ask for forgiveness. Will you
  forgive me for doing __________?

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If therefore you are presenting your offering at
the altar, and there remember that your brother
has something against you, leave your offering
there before the altar, and go your way first be
reconciled to your brother and then come and
present your offering. Matthew 523-24
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C. The offended needs to GRANT forgiveness. 1. Gr
anting forgiveness is not a. Repression or
pretending that something did not happen or
that it did not hurt. b. Conditional
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Then Peter came and said to Him, Lord, how often
shall my brother sin against me and I forgive
him? Up to seven times? Jesus said to him, I
do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to
seventy times seven. Matthew 1821-22
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1. Granting forgiveness is not
(continued) c. Forgetting d. IMPOSSIBLE.
I cant forgive you really means, Im not
ready to forgive you, or I wont forgive
you. e. An automatic cure for the hurt
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2. Granting forgiveness is a. Obedience to a
command ...bearing with one another, and
forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint
against anyone just as the Lord forgave you, so
also should you. Colossians 313
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2. Granting forgiveness is (continued) b. An
ATTITUDE of letting go of resentment and my
right to get even. c. An ACTION that must be
expressed by word and deed.
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2. Granting forgiveness is (continued) d. A
CHOICE to set your mate free from a debt or
an offense that has occurred against
you. e. The beginning of the healing process
that leads to oneness.
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Granting Forgiveness

• Do it privately first God, I forgive
  __________________ for hurting me.
• 2. Do it specifically I forgive you for
  _______________________________.
• 3. Do it generously Lets settle this issue
  and get on with building our relationship.
• 4. Do it graciously I know Ive done things
  like that myself.

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Dr. Don Welch Moderator
Tonight
Confession and Asking for Forgiveness
Gary Cundiff
Dr. Marcial Felan
645 to 800 pm MPACT Center
Erika Garcia
Dr. Diana Sjostrom
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