SELF CONCEPT AND SELF ESTEEM

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SELF CONCEPTAND SELF ESTEEM
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What is Self Concept -Self Esteem?

• Self Concept the way we picture ourselves
  including our traits and values.
• Self Esteem the way we feel about ourselves and
  our actions.
• TOGETHER THEY ARE THE TOTAL PICTURE A PERSON HAS
  OF HERSELF/HIMSELF

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• Children are born with 100 self-esteem.
• Ask a child if they are pretty or handsome and
  they will probably say YES!
• Clothes Shoes new or hand me downs
• Hair - body - etc.

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• Someway, somehow society teaches us to hold back
  and doubt ourselves a little.

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Close your eyes think about a baby

• Newborn People say,You are so cute!
• When baby smiles and coos, rolls over, sits up,
  people say, Just Adorable! Look at you!
• But when they start to walk - fall down
• What would happen if people said,You are so
  STUPID! Why cant you walk like a normal person!

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• If encouragement and positive feedback slows
  down or stops altogether, the child may
• Give up trying
• Get embarrassed when he falls or makes a mistake
• Begin making excuses

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What types of things will affect a persons
self-esteem?
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SELF CONCEPT CYCLE
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• A persons self-concept is developed early in
  life and affects the way that person functions in
  his/her environment.
• Children develop self-concept through what they
  believe the important people in feel about them.
• This is expressed in the SELF-CONCEPT CYCLE

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AS I SEE MYSELF
OTHERS REACTIONS TO ME
MY ACTIONS
AS OTHERS SEE ME
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AS I SEE MYSELF

• Is formed largely by our own perception of what
  others think of us.

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This influences MY ACTIONS
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My actions, in large part, determine

• AS OTHERS SEE ME

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And how they see me determines how OTHERS
REACT TO ME
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Their reactions, again, influenceAS I SEE
MYSELF

• This is a continuous cycle in our lives

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• Some people have positive self concepts which
  make them feel capable and competent. Their
  actions demonstrate those feelings, and others
  react positively to their actions, which, in
  turn, validate those feelings.
• Other people have negative self concepts which
  cause them to lack confidence in their abilities.
  These negative feelings affect their actions and
  other, in turn, will react negatively to their
  actions, this time validating negative self
  feelings.

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So, you can see why it is extremely important to
learn how to help our children develop a
POSITIVE SELF CONCEPT!
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Ways to promote a POSITIVE Self-Concept

• Treat children with LOVE RESPECT
• Provide SUCCESSFUL experiences
• Object to BEHVAIOR - not the CHILD
• PRAISE child for achievements
• Avoid COMPETITION - always a loser / set
  individual goals

• Let them ACHIEVE EXPLORE - Make mistakes
• Allow children to make CHOICES
• Release emotions in way
• ENCOURAGE ACTIVITIES (art, music, sports,
  academics, etc.)
• LISTEN to them
• Clear EXPECTATIONS- Avoid power struggles

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Ways to promote a POSITIVE Self-Concept
HOORAY!

1. Encourage INDEPENDENCE Dont do anything for a
   child that he can do for himself
2. Guide through LOVE not FEAR
3. Be a good ROLE MODEL
4. Nick-names - be positive - (we often become
   what we hear we are)
5. Let children overhear positive comments about
   them

OOPS!
Hugs Kisses
I Love You!
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• Get in groups of 2-3
• Brainstorm positive comments or different ways to
  say Good Job