Looking Through The Eyes of Boys and Girls

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Looking Through The EyesofBoys and Girls

• Dan Hodgins
• DKJ5075_at_aol.com

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Girls see the details of experiences

• The Crockus is Four times larger than boys.

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Boys Brains see the whole but not the details
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• 34of preschool children last year were expelled
  and 87 of them were boys
• 50 of eighth grade boys are more likely to be
  held back a grade
• Boys are 6 times more likely to be misdiagnosed
  with ADD or ADHD
• Boys are 4 times more likely to be labeled
  needing special education
• Boys are 7 times more likely to be labeled with
  reading or language delays
• Boys are more likely not to complete high school
• Boys are 4 times more likely to commit suicide
• 62 of the schools last year removed recess time
• 51 of the schools last year removed talking
  during lunch time

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Dobler, 2005)
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Core of Your Brain
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Boys have a thicker skull
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Skull Development

• Toddlers have a thick skull for protection.
• Normally as the child increases in age his/her
  skull decreases in thickness.
• The skull for males does not decrease in
  thickness.

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Boys Brains can be 12 18 months behind in
development
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A boys brain develops from the back (the doing
part) towards the front (the thinking part)

• Girls brain develops more from front to back.
  So, boys develop motor skills, their physical
  abilities, before they start to think about them.

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If boys are 12 18 months behind are we?

• Using appropriate strategies in the classroom for
  their developmental level?
• Using appropriate assessments based on their
  level not their age?

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Girls develop complex verbal skills one year
earlier.
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All Learning Must go through the Corpus
Callosum. It is a connection of cognition and
emotion
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Girls Corpus Callosum is 3 times larger
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Warning!!!!

• According to Richard Lapchick, author of Baseball
  and your Boy, warns that most coaches, who are
  male, lack even rudimentary knowledge of the
  emotional, psychological, social and physical
  needs of children.

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Sam and Abdul were playing together in the block
area building an airport for their toy planes.
Sam pretended to land one of the planes and
mistakenly knocked over the airport tower.
Abdul yelled at him, You dummy. You knocked
over the tower!
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Boys develop sensory overload earlier
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Sensory Stressors

• Walls covered with stuff
• Environments that are filled with too many
  choices
• Signs that say Be nice to your friends Use
  Kind Words Safety comes first, no running

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Girls brains are always on
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Boys brains go into pause state after
completing a task
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Channel Surfing(Ruben Gur)

• Males often zone out in front of the TV,
  channel-surfing and not stopping for any long
  term engagement. They are channel surfing as a
  form of brain-rest.
• Females, on the other hand, more often stop
  surfing at a drama that involves senses in which
  people are talking or otherwise in interaction
  and relationship.

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Washing Hands for Boys

• Turn on water
• Pause
• Soap on hands
• Pause
• Rinse off soap
• Pause
• Turn off water
• Pause
• Dry hands
• Pause

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Pause Breakers

• Shouting
• Spinning
• Jumping
• Running
• Clapping

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Boys Respond Better to Loud Voices
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If boys respond to loud voices

• Why are we always saying
• use your inside voice?

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Girls have more sensory awareness especially
through touch
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Sensory

• Girls are better at using their senses to assist
  in memory development. Especially through their
  fingertips and skin.
• Boys work better in temperatures 10 degrees lower
  than girls
• Boys work better with bright lights, girls work
  better with dim lights

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Girls Sing in Tune more Frequently
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Boys are better at short term memory, girls are
better with long term memory
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Boys dont remember what you have told them.
Each time an incidence happens, its as if it
never happened before.
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Communication Patterns

• 55 facial
• 38 voice tone
• 7 voice alone

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Girls by 5 years of age have 5,000 7,000 words
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Boys by 5 years of age have3,000 5,000 words.
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Males emotional response is on the right side of
his brain, while the power to express his
feelings in speech lies over on the left side.

• Because the two halves are connected by a very
  small corpus callosum, the flow of information
  between one side of the brain and the other is
  more restricted.

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Girls use words as soon as they hear them
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Talking to Yourself increasing cognition by 72
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Boys work out codes.
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Boys relate language with action..
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Stop the Pretzel Configuration
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Dirty Bill

• I know a man named Dirty Bill
• He lives in a house on garbage hill
• Never took a bath and never will
• Yuk! Yuk! Old Dirty Bill.
• You catch him, you snatch him
• You throw him in the tub
• You turn on the water
• And you scrub, scrub, scrub
• Chorus
• You catch him, you snatch him
• You throw him in the sink
• You scrub off the dirt
• And the stink, stink, stink!
• Chorus
• Peee yewwww!!!!

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67 of Boys are Visual Learners
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Kindergarten SongFriends

• Friends, friends, one, two, three
• All my friends are here with me
• Youre my friend youre my friend youre my
  friend, youre my friend
• Friends, Friends one two three all my friends
  are here with me.

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Boys Song In KindergartenBoogers

• Boogers, boogers, one, two, three
• All my boogers are here with me.
• Heres one booger, heres one booger, heres one
  booger, heres one booger
• Boogers, boogers, one, two, three
• All my boogers are here with me!

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Yankee Doodle

• Yankee Doodle
• Went to town
• A riding on a spider
• Stuck an apple up his butt
• And peed apple cider.

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English and Social Studies Assignment for Seventh
Graders The Write Source 2000

• Do you often compare yourself to someone else?
  Sometimes
• Do you compare to make yourself feel better?
  No, I do not
• Do your comparisons make you feel inferior? No.

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Writing for Boys

• Usually includes action
• Less details
• Larger space needed
• Often relates to present tense
• Writing on the go!

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Researchers discovered that girls become better
spellers if they first say each word and letter
before they spell it, and then repeat each letter
as they write it.

• Called simultaneous oral spelling

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Selecting Books for Boys

• Does the book encourage acting it out?
• Do the pictures suggest movement?
• Are there action words?
• Do the pictures have less detail?
• Can boys identify with the main character/s?
• Does it reflect different ages, race and
  abilities?
• Is there a beginning, middle and end?
• Is the subject relevant to boys?

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Make Sure Literacy Activities are Relevant..

• Talking and writing about Poop is not just a
  word but a major life experience for boys.
• Get Over IT.

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Books for boys

• Arnold, Ted
• Barrett, Jodi
• Cooke, Trish
• Davis, Aubrey
• Downey, Lynn
• Feiffer, Jules
• Fox, Mem
• Horswarth, Werner
• Geroghty, Paul
• Ginsburg, Mira
• Grossman, Bill
• James, Simon
• MacDonald, Elixabeth
• Naylor, Phyllis
• Flourde, Lynn
• Steig, William

• Parts
• Things that are the most
• So much
• The enormous potato
• The fees sneeze
• Bark George
• Tough Boris
• The Mole in Search
• Look out Patrick
• Clay Boy
• My Little Sister Ate one Hare
• The Wild Woods
• The Wolf is Coming
• The king of the playground
• Pigs in the mud
• Pets a Pizza

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Computer Use for BoysJane Healy, Failure to
Connect

• Attention span problems may be due to early brain
  attachment to mechanical stimulation
• Imagination functions of the brain, do not grow
  as richly
• Reading and writing functions and verbal skills
  develop more slowly if young brains are
  mechanized too early

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Group Dynamics

• Cooperative learning is easier for girls to
  master in the early years
• Boys tend to focus on performing the task well,
  without as much sensitivity to the emotions of
  others around them
• Girls form looser organizations
• Boys spend less time than girls managing the team
  process, they quickly pick leaders and focus on
  goal orientation

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Girls in Groups

• Congregate in groups more often
• Engage in talking
• Greet newcomers warmly
• Primarily interested in people
• Have a harder time saying goodbye or making
  closures

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Personal Responses

• At four months old, most baby girls can
  distinguish photographs of people they know from
  photographs of strangers, boys usually cannot.
• A one week old baby girl can distinguish a babys
  cry from a background of general noise of a
  similar volume. Baby boys cannot.

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Boys in Groups

• Occupy large space during play
• Engage in rough and vigorous play
• Ignore newcomers
• More bodily contact
• Primarily interested in objects
• Less time to say goodbye or putting closures

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Inclusion in Groups

• Boys tend not to bother about whether or not they
  like any particular member of the group-hes
  included if hes useful.
• Girls exclude other girls because theyre not
  nice.
• Girls know and remember the names of their
  playmates boys dont often

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Learning

• For boys all learning is
• If it is not in the body it is not in the brain.

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Learning

• For girls
• if it is not in the voice it is not in the
  mind.

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Chris Is His Name

• Chris is his name and pushing is his game
• You can catch him pushing in the sun and rain
• Hell be pushing high, hell be pushing low
• Hell be pushing, pushing, wherever he goes
• So if you want some pushing and you dont know
  what to do
• Just go to Chris and hell help you.

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Baby Shark

• Baby shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Baby shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Mother shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Mother shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Daddy shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Daddy shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Grandpa shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Grandpa shark, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Sharks swim, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Sharks swim, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Sharks attack, doot, doot, doot, doot, doot
• Sharks attach doot, doot, doot, doot, doot

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Chocolate Candy

• Chocolate Candy and Jelly Beans
• Put them in my pocket and put them in my jeans.
• Mommy washed the clothes and this is what she
  said
• ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
• Chocolate candy and jelly beans all over the
  washing machine.

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Testosterone Spikes

• Boys can have 2 10 spikes per hour depending on
  age
• Girls usually have 2 spikes a day
• Boys spikes are more common in the morning
• Girls spikes are more common in late afternoon or
  evening
• Boys release physical tension during a spike
• Boys react with energy or erections or both

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Roughhousing

• Style of interaction
• Physical greeting
• Common during a spike
• Nurturing
• No correlation between roughhousing and violence
• Game playing
• Allows a child the pleasure of using his own
  strength
• Non-verbal

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Types of Roughhousing

• Running into boxes
• Running through newspaper
• Climbing
• Motorboat, motorboat
• Capes, nets, ropes
• High fives
• Pushing and shoving
• Butt pushes
• Handshaking
• Swordfighting

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Quick and Easy Physical Activities for Boys

• Sky pulling
• Sky writing
• Lazy eights
• Ear openers
• Feet movements
• Mouth stretchers

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Boys gain control by being Physical
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Vivian Paley, Boys and Girls Superheroes in the
Doll Corner, 1984 wrote

• Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader have the same
  domination as Mothers and Princesses. Boys play
  as Darth Vader involves lots of conflict and
  action. Girls play as mother and princesses
  involves lots of pesty characters that have
  tantrums, sisters quarrel, babies cry and mothers
  threaten and spank.

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Girls gain control by talking about it
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Art for Boys

• Rubber band two or three brushes together
• Rubber band swatches
• Horse brush painting
• Massage instrument painting
• Dropping socks filled with sand onto paint
• Bottle brush painting
• Plunger painting

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Movement Props for Boys

• Arm stretchers
• Towel dancing
• Bag movements
• Newspaper toss
• Sword fighting (swimming noodles)
• Capes
• Broom handle music sticks
• Scooters
• Marshmallow shooters

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What Do Boys Need?

• A variety of movable objects
• Lots of space
• Visual routine
• Lower temperatures
• Roughhousing
• Running
• Power play
• Boxes for kicking

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School Rules for Boys

• Run
• Jump
• Dig to China
• Explore
• Talk
• Build higher then your eyes
• Tear down
• Pour
• Yell

• Saw
• Roughhouse
• Paint
• Imagine
• Measure
• Ponder
• Daydream
• Lead
• Be alone

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Visual Cues for Beginning, Middle and End
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Activities for Girls in the Classroom

• Digital cameras (taking pictures of themselves
  and others)
• Use teams more
• Small motor toys
• Personalize spaces
• Talking tubes
• Feeling games
• Books about feelings
• Dramatic play (helping fields)

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Harford Heights Elementary School, the largest
elementary school in Maryland, have experimented
with same sex classrooms since the mid-nineties

• The all boy classrooms encourage natural
  competitiveness and high-spiritedness. The boys
  become competitive rather than combative

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Feelings - Girls

• Use emotion and cognition to solve problems
• Girls talk about their feelings
• Girls demonstrate empathy
• Girls see consequences faster
• Process pain and hurt more quickly
• Seek out assistance faster
• Enjoy cooperative activities

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Feelings - Boys

• Release feelings in quick burst of energy
• Has delayed reactions to problems
• Project feelings to outside space
• Go into cave
• Boys do not talk about their feelings
• Boys respond to empathy when it is part of a task
• Boys can become assertive or withdrawn

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GIRLS ARE SENSITIVE TO SHAME, BUT BOYS FEAR IT!

• Girls may be shame-sensitive, boys are
  shame-phobic they see it has loss of face and
  will do just about whatever it takes to avoid
  shame.
• William Pollack, Real Boys

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Boys Do Not Talk About Their Feelings
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Empathy in boys must be demonstrated by a
physical action
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Bonding and Attachment Must Occur Before the
Child Turns Five!

• James Garbarino

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Infant boys are cuddled, talked to, and breast
fed for significantly shorter periods of time
than infant girls.

• Michael Gurian, A Fine Young Man

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Punishing the dominant child, as we often do, may
need to be rethought. We are in fact, punishing
him for being healthy.

• Thomas Boyce, University of California, Berkeley

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Bullying

• Girls often bully by calling names, or telling
  stories
• Boys often bully by using physical force

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Discipline For Boys

• Only talk about what you want them to do
• Allow for physical outlets of emotion
• Provide role playing
• Remember that sometimes boys are louder and give
  orders, ignore often
• Provide caves for cooling down
• Provide roughhousing opportunities
• Empathy must be related to a physical task
• Visual guidance

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Pirate Song

• When I was one, I had some fun
• On the day I went to sea
• I jumped aboard a pirate ship
• And the captain said to me
• Go this way, that way, forward, backwards
• Over the deep blue sea.

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James Garbarino Says

• Boys need stability
• Boys need security
• Boys need affirmation and acceptance

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How Do Your Create?

• Stability
• Security
• Affirmation/Acceptance

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How are you going to create a feeling of
Belonging?
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Researchers demonstrated that the largest major
factor protecting young people from emotional
distress, drug abuse, and violence-other than the
closeness they were able to achieve within their
families was perceived school connectedness

• Protecting Adolescents from Harm 1997.

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What supports are you missing in your classroom
or school?Where will you begin?
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Side Effects of Attending This Workshop

• Hallucinations of men who feel
• Create more space for roughhousing
• Hair loss
• Snoring
• Compulsion to say your in pause
• A strong desire to become a pirate
• An urge to tell some male, so thats why you
  behave that way?
• Better teaching

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