Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral Counseling Ministry:

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Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral
Counseling Ministry How to Care Like Christ
1 Thessalonians 28
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Scripture and Soul
1 Thessalonians 28 We loved you so much that
we were delighted to share with you not only the
Scriptures, but our own souls, because you were
dear to us.
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The Soul Physician and the Spiritual Friend
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How to Care Like Christ
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Caring Like Christ Can Feel Like a Maze!
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Some Signs Give Poor Directions?
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Some Signs Are Spot On!
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Some Signs Are Clearer Than Others!
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We Need a GPS
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Pastor Carls Story

• Where would you start with Pastor Carl and
• why?
• How would you minister to Pastor Carl in his
• suffering?
• How would you minister to Pastor Carl in his
• struggle against sin?
• What map or model would guide you?

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Our GPS Suffering and Sinning
Pastoral care is defective unless it can deal
thoroughly both with the evils we have suffered
and with the sins we have committed.
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Our Soul Care GPS Sustaining and Healing For
Suffering

• Sustaining Its Normal to
• HurtEmpathize (Romans
• 1215)
• Healing Its Possible to
• HopeEncourage
• (Genesis 5020)

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Our Spiritual Direction GPS Reconciling and
Guiding for Sinning

• Reconciling Its Horrible
• to Sin, but Wonderful to Be
• ForgivenEnlighten
• (Romans 520)
• Guiding Its Supernatural
• to MatureEmpower
• (Philippians 310)

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Our GPS Sustaining, Healing, Reconciling, and
Guiding
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Whet Your Appetite
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Soul Care Comfort for Suffering

• Comfort Co-fortitude
• Parakaletic Called along side to help
• Find God even when they cant find relief.

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Sustaining

• Its normal to hurt.
• Permission to grieve.
• Life is bad.
• The earthly story.

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Listen to Their Earthly Story
It was in the fall of 1879 that I met Charlotte
Brooks. I have spent hours with her listening to
her telling of her sad life of bondage in the
cane-fields of Louisiana.
Do Not Be Ignorant of One Anothers Suffering 2
Corinthians 13-9
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Empathize with Their Earthly Story
Poor Charlotte Brooks! I can never forget how
her eyes were filled with tears when she would
speak of all her children Gone, and no one to
care for me! Aunt Charlotte, my heart throbs
with sympathy, and my eyes are filled with tears,
whenever I hear you tell of the trials of
yourself and others.
Climb in the Casket!
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Olaudah EquianoComfort Them in Their Earthly
Story
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Comfort Them in Their Earthly Story
Are the dearest friends and relations still to
be parted from each other, and thus prevented
from cheering the gloom of slavery with the small
comfort of being together, and mingling their
sufferings and sorrows?
Shared Sorrow Is Endurable Sorrow
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Enter Their Earthly Story
Happy should I have ever esteemed myself to
encounter every misery for you, and to procure
your freedom by the sacrifice of my own!
Incarnational Suffering
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Point Them to Jesus in Their Earthly Story
La, me, child! I never thought any body would
care enough for me to tell of my trials and
sorrows in this world! None but Jesus knows what
I have passed through.
Jesus with Skin On!
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Engage in Sustaining Trialogues

• Trialogues

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Engage in Sustaining Trialogues

• Pastor Carl, Im so sorry for all that youre
• going through with your daughters illness
  and
• this unjust criticism.
• If it were me, I think I might be feeling
  _______.
• How does that relate to how youre feeling?
• What do you think the Bible teaches about
• feeling and expressing anger and even doubt
  in
• a situation like yours?
• The Apostle Paul admitted that he despaired.
• How do his feelings compare to yours?

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Healing

• HealingIts possible to hope.
• Encouragement to grow.
• God is good.
• The eternal/heavenly story.

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Stretch Them to the Larger Story

• When Life Stinks, Our Perspective Shrinks.
• Crop Christ Back into the Picture!
• Celebrate the Empty Tomb!

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Stretch Them to Gods Story

• They were
• exhorting the
• people, warning
• them to remember
• the judgment of
• God.

Cling to Our Image of Gods Holy Love
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Stretch Them to Gods Story

• Perpetua followed with a quick step as a true
• spouse of Christ, the darling of God, her
• brightly flashing eyes quelling the gaze of
  the
• crowd.

Cling to Our Image of Who We Are in Christ
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Stretch Them to the Eternal Story

• The day of their victory dawned, and with
• joyful countenances they marched from the
• prison arena as though on their way to
  heaven.
• If there was any trembling, it was from joy,
  not
• fear.

Weave in the Truth We Are More Than Conquerors!
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Stretch Them to the Spiritual Story

• Perpetua was singing victory Psalms as if
• already crushing the head of the Egyptian.

See Life with Faith Eyes
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Stretch Them to the Scriptural Story Engage in
Healing Trialogues

• Pastor Carl, Gods timing and ours are often
• light years apart. What are you experiencing
  as
• you wait on God?
• How could you relate Pauls perspective on his
• suffering in Romans 817-39 to your life? How
  
• could taking on his perspective alter yours?
• God is all-powerful, holy, and loving. What
• impact do these attributes of God have on you
  
• as you face this?
• How have you been able to worship God in the
• midst of this?

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Spiritual Direction Care-fronting for Sinning

• Care-fronting NoutheticCare-fronting out of
• Concern for Change (Growth)
• ReconcilingIts Horrible to Sin but
• Wonderful to Be Forgiven!
• Romans 520

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Its Horrible to Sin!
• In Love and Humility, Load the
• Conscience with Guilt
• Godly Sorrow 2 Corinthians 78-13
• You have fallen away from such
• good beginnings and become a
• very different person. You are
• sharply and severely oppressive to
• your subjects. God will not suffer
• this.

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Expose the Heart Sin False Worship
• The human mind is so inclined that
• as it turns from the Creator it of
• necessity becomes addicted to the
• creature. He who rejects the Creator
• needs must worship the creature.

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Catch Them Red-handed Hebrews 3, 4
• Leave the Conviction to God 2 Timothy
• 224-26

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Its Wonderful to Be Forgiven.
• Lighten the Conscience with
• Grace 2 Corinthians 25-11

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• You say that the sins which we
• commit every day offend God,
• and therefore we are not saints.
• To this I reply Mother love is
• stronger than the filth and
• scabbiness on a child, and so the
• love of God toward us is stronger
• than the dirt that clings to us.

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Recognize the Quadrolog Matthew 4
• It is the supreme art of the devil that
• he can make the law out of the gospel.
• If I can hold onto the distinction
• between law and gospel, I can say to
• him any and every time, that he should
• kiss my backside. Even if I sinned, I
• would say, Should I deny the gospel
• on this account?

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Provide Tastes of Grace
• The word of a fellow-Christian
• has wonderful power. The voice
• of brethren and fellow Christians
• are to be heard and believed as
• the word and voice of God
• himself, as though God
• was speaking to them.

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Spiritual Direction Reconciling

• Pen Psalms of Home Coming Engage in
• Reconciling Trialogues

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Engage in Reconciling Trialogues

• Pastor Carl, what does Gods Word say
• concerning your current way of relating?
• Thinking? Choosing? Handling your feelings?
• Could we explore James 41-4 to understand
• what might be going on in your heart?
• What role do you think Satan has been playing
• in tempting you to dismiss Gods gracious
  
• forgiveness?
• What would it be like for you to write a Psalm
• 32 or a Psalm 51?

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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• GuidingIts Supernatural to Mature
• Envision Who He/She Is in Christ Eph. 1-3
  
• 2 Tim. 15-7
• Universal Identity

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Maria Stewart
Identity in Christ
Many think, because your skins are tinged with a
sable hue, that you are an inferior race of
beings but God does not consider you as such. He
hath formed and fashioned you in his own glorious
image, and hath bestowed upon you reason and
strong powers of intellect. . . .
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Maria Stewart
Identity in Christ
. . . He hath made you to have dominion over the
beasts of the field, the fowls of the air, and
the fish of the sea (Genesis 126). He hath
crowned you with glory and honor hath made you
but a little lower than the angels (Psalms
85).
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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• Unique Identity

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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• Empower Be Like Christ Ephesians 417-24
• 2 Timothy 18-18
• Putting Off MortifyDo Not Be Conformed
• Putting On VivifyBe Transformed

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Spiritual Nobility From Hellcat to Heaven Saint
I love you as though you never hit me a lick,
for the God I serve is a God of love (Charlie).
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Spiritual Nobility From Hellcat to Heaven Saint
I had felt the power of God and tasted his love,
and this had killed all the spirit of hate in my
heart years before this happened. Whenever a man
has been killed dead and made alive in Christ
Jesus, he no longer feels like he did when he was
a servant of the devil. . . . (Charlie).
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Spiritual Nobility From Hellcat to Heaven Saint
. . . Sin kills dead, but the Spirit of God
makes alive. I didnt know that such a change
could be made, for in my younger days I used to
be a hellcat (Charlie).
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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• Equip To Minister for Christ Ephesians 411-
• 16 2 Timothy 21-10

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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• Enlighten Through Christs Word Romans 5-8,
• 12-15

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Engage in Guiding Trialogues

• Pastor Carl, you preach it all the time, but
  for
• you, deep in your soul, who are you in
  Christ?
• What is unique about how God designed you?
• So what would it look like for you to put off
• turning to the Internet and to put on turning
  to
• God and others when you are tempted?
• As you leave here today, connected to Christs
• resurrection power, what will you be doing
• differently?
• Imagine that over the next six months, God
• continues to do a mighty work in your life.
  How
• will your life be different?

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Spiritual Direction Guiding

• Guiding Pictured Stir Up the Gift of God

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Dont Take a Backseat to Anyone!
Romans 1514 I myself am convinced, my
brothers, that you yourselves are full of
goodness, complete in knowledge, and competent to
instruct one another.
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Four Methods to Master in Your Pastoral
Counseling Ministry How to Care Like Christ
1 Thessalonians 28