FOUNDATIONS OF EFFECTIVE COUNSELING

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FOUNDATIONS OF EFFECTIVE COUNSELING
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I. QUALITIES OF EFFECTIVE COUNSELORS

• A. Objectivity
• We focus on the clients feelings, not our own
• We dont allow our own emotions to
  inappropriately influence the situation

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B. Competence and Knowledge
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Sheehan (Child Neurology workshop)
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These things can be especially helpful.
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C. Flexibility

• We vary our approach with different clients
• We look at age, gender, culture, religion,
  educational level

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D. Openess and Honesty
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E. Emotional Stability

• Security with ourselves being stable emotionally
• What kinds of circumstances can threaten our
  emotional stability?
• How can we maintain emotional stability if our
  lives are difficult?

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F. Empathy
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Youtube

• Big Bang TheorySheldon comforts Penny
• NOT the way to empathize with clients!!

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2 kinds of empathy
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Shames 2000, p. 59

• Sharing behavior may come easily to some of us,
  perhaps too easily. It is not designed to relieve
  the tensions or meet the problem needs of the
  counselor. Sharing should be relatively brief and
  should not involve a long or detailed
  descriptionIt should be long enough to
  accomplish its designated function, which is to
  facilitate the processes of the client. It should
  not result in a prolonged or specific focus on
  the counselor by either the counselor or client.

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G. Concentration
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H. Respect

• Means having regard for and showing appropriate
  courtesy to others
• How do we convey this?

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The next time you see the person
I remember when you said last time that we should
decide on therapy goals
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I. Gender and Cultural Awareness

• We recognize that our Western values emphasize

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In terms of gender awareness

• In a later class, we will talk about differences
  between communication styles of men and women
• We need to be aware of issues that affect members
  of the gay/lesbian community

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II. BROADENING OUR WORLD VIEW

• 1. Always be conscious that there are multiple
  realities
• 2. Remember that religion is central for some
  clients and families
• 3. Come from a strengths perspective, where we
  acknowledge how clients have used their strengths
  to solve problems

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View things from a social justice perspective
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View disabilities from a current 21st century
perspective From Berry (2009).
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1980-present include and empower
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III. ESTABLISHING RAPPORT

• A. Introduction
• --what are some ways we can make a positive first
  impression? (find common ground, compliment
  people)
• B. 3 Ways to Understand Others
• 1. Secondhand (reports, talking to others)
• 2. Our own frame of reference
• 3. Their personal frame of reference

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C. Hindrances to Rapport
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IV. WORKING WITH MOTIVATION

• 5 ways to improve someones motivation

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V. TYPES OF LISTENING

• A. Listening for Comprehension
• --we try to receive, understand, and remember
  messages as accurately as possible
• --Goal remain objective, not to make judgments
  or critically inspect information
• --we clarify and verify information

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B. Listening for Empathy (mentioned earlier)
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C. Listening for Evaluation

• This is a means of judging what we hear and
  observe
• This follows the first 2 types of listening
  because we are not ready to judge until we have
  comprehended and understood the other person

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D. Listening for Resolution

• This focuses on us, not you.
• This is appropriate for situations when a problem
  needs to be solved
• The focus is on solving it together, not us
  solving it for someone else

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Ways to do this
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When trying to improve our listening skills