Our children will need the positive and encouraging as well as the corrective if we are to reach the

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Our children will need the positive and
encouraging as well as the corrective if we are
to reach their hearts and not frustrate them
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Our childrens hearts

• Where are their hearts?
• What is their motive for doing what they are
  doing?
• Have we given them proper instruction?
• Do they know what they are meant to be doing
  why?

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Abilities / life-skills
Life-skills are not behavioural issues they are
achievements which need discipline if they are
to be acquired
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How can we encourage our child to learn an
life-skill?
Encouragement
Praise
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Behaviour
Motivated by
Encouragement
Correction
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Hebrews 1211 No discipline seems pleasant at
the time, but painful. Later on however, it
produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for
those who have been trained by it
It is a loving parent who seeks to discipline his
child wisely and thoughtfully
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To correct or not to correct?
Was it accidental or intentional?
Was it done out of
Childish innocence?
Childish thoughtlessness?
Deliberate naughtiness?
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Deliberate naughtiness will fall into the
following

• Small incidents that need a telling off
• Naughtiness that needs more than just a verbal
  telling off
• Behaviour that will need a stronger action

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Any punishment given to a child in an
un-thought-out, careless or vengeful fashion is
abusive
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Shaping our children will involve both
encouragement and correction
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To say sorry only goes part of the way it
acknowledges a mistake.
To ask for forgiveness demonstrates a change of
heart
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Discipline should be the framework and
encouragement learn how to control their
behaviour and develop self discipline enabler
a creative force designed to build maturity and
consistency self control they need to manage
what they do, both now and in the future. Rev.
Steve Chalke
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