What a wise Christian wife does to bless her husband

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Your Desire Shall Be For Your Husband

• What a wise Christian wife does to bless her
  husband

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I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet,
simple things of life which are the real ones
after all. Laura Ingalls Wilder
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Introduction

• Todays culture teaches women to be independent.
• On the surface this not only seems practical but
  even wise.

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From a Ukrainian woman What is married life like
in Lebanese culture for the woman? I'm American
and in my culture the women aren't submissive....
In the Lebanese culture women are VERY
submissive. They bear the children, cook all
meals, clean everything (even when the children
are older) And everything they do is for the
husband and children. Nothing is about them. I've
dated on before and in the beginning he put me on
a pedestal and made me feel like a queen... But
when they feel the "have" you it's a different
story.. (That's when I ran the other way) If your
sister is submissive and wants to just cook,
clean, and raise a family then it can't be that
bad. But if she wants a career and wants to be
independent in any way, then she's picked the
wrong man.
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Introduction

• Todays culture teaches women to be independent.
• On the surface this not only seems practical but
  even wise.
• To suggest that a womans desire is to be for her
  husband contradicts this independent mindset
  that has indoctrinated our society over the last
  two generations.

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Introduction

• But, is this what God wills for those who give
  their live to Him? Cp. Gal. 220
• Gods people are made up of transformed lives
  living in a culture persuaded by the Lords will.
• It is His will, His wisdom, and His life that
  shapes and guides our lives into a divine and
  holy calling.
• Ultimately, when our will is attached to the will
  and pleasure of our God, untold blessings begin
  to unfold in our lives.

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Introduction

• In this lesson we look at ways women can hinder
  or fulfill their desire for their husbands.
• We start by looking at some negative behavior
  that wives can be guilty of doing in tearing down
  or possibly destroying their desire for and
  relationship with their husbands.
• We finish by looking at wise (and positive) ways
  wives can show their desire for their husbands.
• Ultimately, this not only fulfills Gods will,
  but enhances a biblically blessed marriage.

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Difficulties That Hinder A Wifes Desire For Her
Husband

• She is initially in a vulnerable position when
  getting married.
• In a godly upbringing, she leaves the comfort and
  security of her fathers headship and guidance.
• While she trusts her new husband, it is the
  unknown that places her in an understandably
  vulnerable position.
• This is a critical time in the early marriage
  her husband may do things differently than the
  way she thinks should be done or how her father
  did while she was under his headship.

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Difficulties That Hinder A Wifes Desire For Her
Husband

• While vulnerability is an initial difficulty,
  long lasting hindrances include
• Some women criticizing or undermining their
  husbands. Prov. 219, 19 2715
• Some women take headship if things arent done
  the way they think things are done the right
  way. Cp. Prov. 3021-23
• Some are bitter toward their husbands.
• Some simply lack reason, taste, or understanding,
  which is often a downfall to her husband
  (including his reputation). Prov. 1122 Prov.
  124

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Difficulties That Hinder A Wifes Desire For Her
Husband

• The result is a bad situation for her, her
  husband, and their marriage.
• A number of wives through various hindrances
  enable their husbands not to be leaders.
• Many husbands also despise their wives for the
  noted behavior.
• Bottom line when women do not have a desire for
  their husbands
• They fail at fulfilling Gods commandment.
• They create or contribute stress and an incomplete

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Her Faithfulness to Her Husband

• What makes a woman excellent is that she uses her
  virtuous qualities to promote her husbands
  service to God. Prov. 124
• In a biblically idealistic scenarioshe (and her
  family) would have been preparing her for this
  very beautiful calling in life.
• But, many women are not brought up in the way of
  the Lord or raised to submit to their husbands.
• No matter what past scenario, women have the
  opportunity to be transformed by the renewing of
  theirs minds (Rom. 122) in making a commitment
  to the Lord regarding their faithfulness to their
  husbands.

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Her Faithfulness to Her Husband

• She is loyal to her husband.
• Starting with the pronouncement of her wedding
  vow she is now covenanted to her husband.
• While there is a covenant obligation, her
  marriage to him will not be successful unless she
  fully desires His will to be hers. Cp. 1 Pet.
  31-6
• Thus, the wise and virtuous woman does her
  husband good all of her life. Prov. 3112
• It is not just that she is faithful to him, but
  that her faithfulness brings about a trust he has
  for her.

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Her Faithfulness to Her Husband

• She speaks highly of her husband. Prov. 3123
• Many men and women have been guilty of speaking
  less than highly of their spouses.
• When speaking specifically of women who speak
  highly of their husbands
• It reveals her love and desire for her husband
  and brings forth the best reputation of a man
  that can be given (the home being the most
  difficult place to live faithfully before the
  Lord).
• It speaks highly of herself.

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Her Faithfulness to Her Husband

• The result of her faithfulness.
• The heart of her husband trusts in her. Prov.
  3111
• Her husband and children rise up to praise her.
  Prov. 3128-29

A good woman can make an average man great. A
great woman can make a good man superior. Doug
Phillips (The Wise Woman's Guide to Blessing Her
Husband's Vision)
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Conclusion

• More than a covenant agreement, women who love
  the Lord will follow Gods will since the
  beginning of time your desire shall be for your
  husband.
• May this sermon encourage women to desire their
  husbands and enhance their marriages to be
  biblically blessed.