5 Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation

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5 Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation
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Divorce Mediators in Sand Diego

• Mediation takes less time, promotes privacy,
  costs less money, and gives more control over the
  result of your divorce than the contested court
  system. But it doesnt always work for every
  couple, especially if your spouse is
  intentionally hiding money, determined to fight
  you, or just refuses to mediate. Otherwise,
  mediation is a feasible way to resolve your
  divorce. Solana Beach divorce mediators share 5
  practical tips to help you work the mediation
  process.

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Choose the Right Mediator

• All mediators and their working styles are not
  equal some are better at handling difficult
  financial agreements and some are better at
  handling seriously conflicted emotional matters.
  Some will mediate situations involving domestic
  violence and some will not. If your case seems
  complicated in some sort or involves unique
  issues, make sure you find a mediator who is
  qualified and experience to handle your
  situation. Otherwise, your case may flounder
  simply because your mediator couldnt efficiently
  navigate you through the specific points in your
  case.

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Keep the Lawyers Out

• Attorneys are trained to be advocates and are
  used to fighting in the court, so their sole
  focus is on winning, regardless of the cost and
  your feelings. But unfortunately, all these
  skills that make them shine in court can make
  them a disaster in mediation. Instead of helping
  couples reach an agreement, most (not all)
  lawyers only fuel the fight. Though having a
  lawyer for legal advice is important, involving
  then during the mediation session is not likely a
  good idea.

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Do Your Homework

• If your mediator asks you to bring financial
  documents, provide it. If you need to get pension
  information, property appraisal or know about
  school district boundaries so you can know where
  you will live after divorce to keep your children
  in the same school, just do it. You cannot argue
  about anything you dont know. If you and your
  spouse dont work on the tasks you need to so you
  can move forward in your mediation, you will stay
  where you are.

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Understand Your Spouses Needs and Wants Before
Mediation

• You know your partner better than the mediator in
  terms of what is important for him or her, his or
  her needs and wants in the divorce, is he or she
  is willing to give up? If you know the answer to
  these questions, you can easily trade something
  your partner wants for something you want. It may
  sound awkward but it is a win-win situation.

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Be Honest

• If you want a lawyer to review your agreements
  before they are all set, let the mediator know
  that. Nothing will kill mediation quicker than
  one party constantly changing agreements and
  requesting to re-visit the issues that everyone
  thought were settled.
• It may seem emotionally and mentally challenging
  but marital mediation can go smoothly if you take
  some time for yourself to collect your thoughts
  and work with your spouse to settle all the
  issues peacefully.

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Divorce Options San Diego Kevin
Boileauhttps//www.divorceoptionssandiego.com 619
-550-6807440 Stevens Ave Suite 200, Solana
Beach, California, 92075, USA