Tips for Parents Dealing with Difficult Teenaged Children

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Tips for Parents Dealing with Difficult Teenaged
Children

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As you child enters puberty and adolescence, it
can be a rather difficult time for them adjusting
to all the changes occurring with their hormones,
physically, and emotionally.

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This is the time when many teens start to test
the limits of what they will be allowed to get
away with in regards to parental authority and
household rules.

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It is not uncommon for parents to find themselves
in a situation where they no longer know what to
do or how to deal with their teen. Fortunately,
there is help available for both single parents
and couples from Toronto therapist, Ellen Starr.

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Counselling sessions can be beneficial as it
provides a secure and safe environment for
parents to vent their concerns about their teens
behaviors,

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while at the same learn how to develop effective
coping skills and parenting skills to maintain
order within your home and family. Some of the
skills you can learn include

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Many parents find they have to repeat themselves
constantly or nag their teen to get a response.
However, this can further put a wedge between
parents and the teen and cause them to become
even more defiant.
1. How to avoid becoming a nagging parent.

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Teens often assume having a smartphone, gaming
systems, cable TV, and being able to drive the
family care are entitlements.
2. How to tie good behaviour with privileges.

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However, they do need to be reminded in a
constructive and productive manner these are
privileges they earn when they follow the
household rules and are good, but can easily be
taken away.

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When confronting your teen after they acted out
in a negative manner, it is not uncommon for them
to be angry, and in turn make you angry.
3. Learning how to develop a strategy for dealing
with emotional situations.

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Having a preplanned strategy in place can help
keep the emotions of your anger out of the
situation.

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When your teen does something wrong and needs to
be punished, you need to know how to effectively
enforce the punishment and stick with it.
4. Learning how to effectively enforce
punishments as consequences of bad behaviours.

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Far too often, parents make idle threats of
punishments, but never follow through, which has
the opposite effect and reinforces the bad
behaviour.

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Sometimes the underlying cause for their
behaviour is the result of them not know how to
solve a problem or cope with a specific situation.
5. How to teach your teen to develop effective
problem solving/coping skills.

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You need to be able to teach and guide your teen
through these situations by offering support, but
at the same time let them know their behaviour is
not going to resolve their problems.

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Many parents forget to thank or praise their
teens when they are exhibiting good behaviors.
This positive reinforcement can help provide
direction and encourage further good things from
your teen.
6. Learning how to recognize and praise your teen
for good behaviors.

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To learn how you can develop these skills and
others to help you deal with your defiant teen,
please feel free to contact me, Ellen Starr at
416-488-3102 to schedule a consultation
appointment today!
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