MENTOR TRAINING

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• MENTOR TRAINING

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The Department of Juvenile JusticeMissionProte
ct the Public by Reducing Juvenile Crime and
Delinquency in Florida
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The need for mentors

• In 2000, 32 of U.S. children were born to
  never-married mothers, up from 18 in 1980.
• Half of all marriages today end in divorce.
• Men (poor and affluent) are denying their
  children.
• Women (poor and affluent) are doing without their
  childrens fathers.
• More than 40 of the children in this country
  live in a home without their fathers.

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A mentor is a

• Role model
• Coach
• Encourager
• Friend
• Teacher
• mentor manual p.1

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A mentor is not a

• Parent
• Professional counselor
• Peer
• Caretaker / Enabler
• An ATM

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The only people who will be really happy are
those who have sought and found how to serve.
Albert Schweitzer
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Mentoring High-Risk Youth

• Truancy
• Poor Grades
• Reading level
• Drugs and Alcohol
• Neglect and Abuse
• Family History
• Anti-social peer networks
• mentor manual p. 13

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Adolescent Development

• Physical
• Social
• Spiritual
• mentor manual p. 15

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Basic Human Needs

• Fun laugh and feel good
• Belonging need to feel connected
• Power others recognize you for what you do and
  say it is important
• Freedom think and act without restriction
• mentor manual p. 18

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Youth Worldview

• Information Media
• Family
• Emotional Wounds
• Anxiety
• mentor manual p.20

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Cultural Differences

• Mentors and Mentees can be separated by
• Race and ethnicity
• Education
• Values
• Age
• Communication Style
• Class
• mentor manual p.23

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The Effects of Culture on Youth

• Media
• Technology
• Consumerism
• mentor manual p. 24

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Getting people to like you is merely the other
side of liking them. - Norman Vincent Peale
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Building Rapport with Your Mentee

• Listening
• Humor
• Common Interests
• Be yourself
• Transparency
• mentor manual p. 33

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Positive Communication Style

• Body Language
• Tactful
• Open Questions
• Affirmation
• mentor manual p. 35

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Avoiding Poor Communication

• Placate
• Total Agreement
• Simplicity
• Blaming
• mentor manual p. 37

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Activities within the Facility

• Playing Cards
• Board games
• Puzzles
• Goal Setting
• Reading an interesting newspaper article
• Crafts
• mentor manual p. 71

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I know the plans I have for you, declares the
Lord. They are plans for peace and not disaster,
plans to give you a future filled with hope. -
Jeremiah 2911
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Warning Signs of Suicide

• Obsessive discussion about death
• Withdrawal from social interaction or personal
  interests
• Loss of sleep
• Giving away of valuables or sentimental objects
• Depression
• mentor manual p. 41

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Reporting Suicidal Symptoms

• Vague Symptoms
• Fear of Overreaction
• mentor manual p. 42

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Anger Management

• Anger is not wrong
• You will not be able to solve every problem
• Deal with one issue at a time
• Do the three step
• Be quiet
• Get space
• Calm Down
• mentor manual p. 44

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Warning Signs of Violence

• Hitting and kicking walls or doors
• History of violence and aggression
• Violent drawing, notes, or other written material
• Withdrawal from peers and social activities
• Feeling picked on and persecuted by peers
• mentor manual p. 45

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Avoiding Residential Manipulation

• Stay in control of the conversation
• Total Agreement
• Seeking favors
• Disparaging remarks about program staff
• mentor manual p. 47

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Role of a Mentor in the Family

• Keeping the family informed
• Always remain aware of the familys boundaries
• Keep neutral
• mentor manual p. 67

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Strengthening a Youths Sense of Community

• Community An environment where people are bonded
  by like values, show mutual respect, and attend
  to those in need.
• Golden Rule
• Restitution
• Citizenship
• Refer to list of suggested activities in the
  manual.
• mentor manual p. 63

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Post-Release Meeting Environment

• A place free of distractions
• A neutral setting
• A non-threatening environment
• mentor manual p. 56

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Preach the Gospel always, and when necessary use
words St. Francis of Assisi
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Faith Boundaries

• Avoid proselytizing
• Take your time
• Be supportive
• Communicate with parents
• Use the facility chaplain as a resource
• mentor manual p. 69

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Confidentiality

• Maintain the confidentiality of the youth and
  their family.
• Protect the identity of your mentee while in the
  residential phase.
• Allegations of abuse or threats of harm to ones
  self or others are never confidential.
• mentor manual p. 7

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Reporting Abuse

• Inform the youth that you are obligated to report
  allegations of abuse.
• All allegations of abuse must be reported to the
  abuse hotline at 1-800-96-ABUSE.
• Notify the program coordinator of the abuse
  allegations.
• It is not your responsibility to make the final
  judgment on the allegation.
• mentor manual p. 7

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Benefits of Mentoring Youth are

• 46 less likely to initiate drug use.
• 27 less likely to initiate alcohol use.
• 33 less likely to hit someone.
• 52 less likely to skip a day of school.
• 37 less likely to skip a class.
• 37 less likely to have lied to their parents.

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Measuring Success

• Empirical Evidence
• Recidivism
• School
• Service
• Attitude
• Anger Management
• Peers
• Family Relationships
• mentor manual p. 77

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Mentors Frequently Asked QuestionsChapter
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